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Bodybuilding vs Powerlifting

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I've always been more of a powerlifter. I've put on about 20 pounds over the last year - a lot of it muscle - and I've gotten a lot stronger (squat went from 135x5 to 255x5). I accomplished this by following Rippetoes Starting Strength program. I've always preferred this type of routine because it's no nonsense: big lifts, big eats and few barbell curls; I hate curls. I guess I basically like to keep it simple. All is well, right? Not really.

Lately, I've hit a mental wall and I've been re-evaluating my goals. I've realized that the main reason I work out these days is because of vanity - I like looking good naked. I don't care as much about strength as I used to. I don't compete in sports anymore, I don't get into bar fights, and I work in an office. The only time my strength comes into play is at the gym. Shouldn't I focus more on bodybuilding?

I still want to focus on the big three, I just want to step it up aesthetically. I'm looking for advice on how to accomplish this goal. I could have just fvckin googled it, but I value the advice on this board much more.


Thanks, guys.
 
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Squat: 255x5

Bench: 200x5

Deadlift: 295x5
 

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If you want looks, I'd go HARD on the diet instead of tweaking your training. I've found that if I go at it like crazy in the gym, I get results, no matter the "program" or "regimen" or anything like that. Hard work is hard work.

Getting ripped is the key to looking good, IMO.

But if I had to choose what looked better, I'd say doing the functional training helps me look more athletic than the bodybuilding type training does. Bodybuilding training has also caused me some injury. To tell you the truth, like I stated earlier, all training should be rooted in the multi-dimensional functional movements of the trunk and thighs.

That aside, if I want to go for looks, I do the above, hit the diet, try to bulk up my forearms and calves. You'd be surprised how sexy girls think those are.

Edited to add: With your numbers there, your muscles should look fairly good if you have low body fat.
 

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increasing your big 3 is important for sure, but there def better routines for hypertrophy. Look in to 5/3/1 bodybuilding template or try out IA's volume routine http://www.ironaddicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=23374. With that said your diet will be what makes or breaks you. I find carb cycling type diets really do the job well for the masses for whatever your goal is. Do some research, Shelby Starnes and Justin have a lot of info out on it.
 

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TyTe`EyEz said:
I've always been more of a powerlifter. I've put on about 20 pounds over the last year - a lot of it muscle - and I've gotten a lot stronger (squat went from 135x5 to 255x5). I accomplished this by following Rippetoes Starting Strength program. I've always preferred this type of routine because it's no nonsense: big lifts, big eats and few barbell curls; I hate curls. I guess I basically like to keep it simple. All is well, right? Not really.

You hate curls? Why exactly? Cause you get fed bull**** like "You don't need to do curls exercises until you're at X amount of strength or X amount of size?" If genetically you're not gifted with big arms, you have to hit them with extra work, I don't care what anyone says. Rippetoe is good at what he does which is "Strength training and conditioning" . Yet he likes to rip on bodybuilders for no reason as I've read a lot unnecessary **** spewed from him. He talks about them at times like he has a personal vendetta.


whether people like it or not, how you train influences where that muscle goes. Big complex exercises (that work for your body type) + isolation work (machines/cables/dbs/barbell) is the way to go no matter the stage

. So building an aesthetic/balanced physique should be every bodybuilders goal and hell even athletes. For example if you have an athlete with small weak/tight hamstrings and naturally bigger/stronger quads. He's seriously risking a hamstring tear.


Lately, I've hit a mental wall and I've been re-evaluating my goals. I've realized that the main reason I work out these days is because of vanity - I like looking good naked. I don't care as much about strength as I used to. I don't compete in sports anymore, I don't get into bar fights, and I work in an office. The only time my strength comes into play is at the gym. Shouldn't I focus more on bodybuilding?

Why not? A lot of people have this goal to "look good naked", yet some are naive and like to bash bodybuilders. As if the top nattie bodybuilders are not building some of the most impressive physiques.

This is where the passion in bodybuilding comes from, you're not doing this for anyone but YOURSELF. Having girls and people notice you is just an added benefit/side effect. It all hangs on you, the food you eat and how hard and logically you train in the gym.


I still want to focus on the big three, I just want to step it up aesthetically. I'm looking for advice on how to accomplish this goal. I could have just fvckin googled it, but I value the advice on this board much more.


Thanks, guys.
You can still have your big three, yet what you might want to do now is start hitting higher rep ranges and working to beat those sets by more reps or weight.

For bench work you could go 6-10 rep range 1-2 working sets
Than after do another pressing movement in a higher area 12-15. 1-2 working sets. just an example. You're going to have to learn how to get more in tune with that "mind-to-muscle connection" . Just heaving up **** any way you can is not bodybuilding. Using a targeted muscle and making it hit full exhaustion and causing the best stimulation is a bodybuilders goal. What I would call a "controlled chaos".

Than from time to time you can go real heavy. I know guys who do the above and than here or there go real heavy, more than anything else just for heaving some heavy **** cause they like to and to check up on strength. Yet they know it's not optimal for putting on size.
 

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I am in the same camp, here is what I heard

4-6 reps is strength

8-12 is size building

12+ endurance

start doing more reps, and iso work.

also, going to the gym 4 times instead of 3 REALLY helped me out.

what I also did was go 4-6 reps 2 weeks 8-12 2 weeks to mix it up.

It is all about vanity, true dat. I squat 240 and ask myself - why risk the injury?
 

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Espi said:
Doesn't matter if you're doing Rippletoe or a high-volume head-to-toe BB'er routine...consistency in diet, level of resistance, and a varied number of reps will largely determine an exceptional physique.
Agree with this statement. There is far too much dogma in the fitness world. It's not rocket science---it's weight training.

I'm an actual powerlifter--in that I compete in sanctioned events with other serious lifters. While I train primarily for strength, I'm not going to sit here and tell you I don't care how I look. There aren't many powerlifters who don't want to look better, and there aren't many bodybuilders who wouldn't like to be a little stronger. So both sides can learn from each other.

Personally I like the training aspects of bodybuilding, but the 'sport' itself is just plain gay. JMO.

In regards to the OP, if you want to step it up aesthetically, change your diet, and be serious about it. That means every single day. Get on something time-tested like the metabolic diet (see Mauro Di Pasquale), and within a few weeks you'll be pleased. Problem is, you cant get strong AND lean concomitantly. If you want better aesthetics (shape and leanness), keep the big three but bring more rep volume into your training. Add more training volume/variety to weak areas. There are a million theories out there, but it's that simple. Day in and day out dedication yields results over time.

EDIT--Kerpal, Phil Heath is the man. One of the few modern BBing physiques I like. Everyone likes a different look though.
 

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Why not do both??? I don't like the whole bodybuilding VS. powerlifting debate... as Espi said, the two aren't mutually exclusive. Top powerlifters will incorporate classic bodybuilding ideas into their training and vice versa.

I like to look good as the next guy... in fact I've had to maintain a certain aesthetic standard during the stripping career. I've actually turned down shows when I felt I wasn't upto standard. At the same time, I can't stand going to the gym "just" for the pump. Don't get me wrong, I love the pump, but I'd rather have set a nice PR in deads and squats and then reward myself w/ a light set of bicep curls to pump up my arms. In my experience if you train heavy and try to optimize body composition: keep bf% ~10%... you'll look pretty damn good.

Haha, great analogy on the cars Kerpal. I work out a typical puzzy ass commercial gym, and there's no one in my bodyweight range (180 lbs) that comes close to achieving my numbers in squat, deads, dumbell push/pull work, or weighted dips/pull ups. I get stared at mercilessly when I do a 225 lb clean (which really isn't a big deal), or do pull ups w/ 100 lbs around my waist. I don't understand why people don't want to both BE strong and look good??? I don't know, maybe its the athlete in me speaking?

To be successful in either route you'll have to be disciplined, committed and mentally tough to be consistent to live the lifestyle. Colossus great points on the fitness world being too dogmatic... and for the record you CAN be strong and lean at the same time... just gotta come over to the dark side.... ;-)
 

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Espi said:
Respectfully, Kerpal: I don't think it's possible to neglect strength and obtain an aesthetic physique...that's like trying to mix oil and water...or like trying to have your cake and eat it, too--it's just not possible.

I personally know that in order to build quality mass, one MUST build his strength.

There's a little bit of powerlifter in every bodybuilder.

There's a little of bodybuilder in every powerlifter.

However--I simply don't care how strong I am. Guys ask me all the time, "How much can you bench?" I tell them I have no clue--I'm more interested in chasing skirt than I am in maximizing my bench.

I have big arms, but I rarely work my biceps more than once a week--6-9 sets at most...curl 45's at the most. And I don't care...whoop te do. My arms look great...I do what it takes to keep my body looking great...so 1-rep maxes are worthless to me.

As long as my muscles look good, I don't care how much I can lift...increasing strength has never meant anything to me, and it doesn't mean anything to me now--other than being the vehicle to making me look good. If I can curl only 45's and yet somehow still have big, ripped arms, why should I care about lifting more weight?

Superman and Batman, etc. Yeah they've got freakish strength...but more importantly, they look GOOD.

Ok, obviously it's working for you. Can you post your program with reps and everything please?

I need to gain size, I don't care about deadlifting 300 anymore and having a sore back for 2 weeks.
 

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I need to gain size, I don't care about deadlifting 300 anymore and having a sore back for 2 weeks.
Poor you. Maybe you should ask this girl why deadlifting 300lbs is so hard.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkeMQc8KiS8

No sh!t that you're not gaining size when your DL weight is puny.

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Regardless of whether you're a bodybuilder or powerlifter wannabe, you will not get bigger or stronger by avoiding to work hard for it.
 

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Jitterbug said:
Poor you. Maybe you should ask this girl why deadlifting 300lbs is so hard.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkeMQc8KiS8

No sh!t that you're not gaining size when your DL weight is puny.

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Regardless of whether you're a bodybuilder or powerlifter wannabe, you will not get bigger or stronger by avoiding to work hard for it.

Hahaha, right. Because I already know I deadlift more than 99% of the population, so I should care, right?
 

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Jitterbug said:
Poor you. Maybe you should ask this girl why deadlifting 300lbs is so hard.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkeMQc8KiS8

No sh!t that you're not gaining size when your DL weight is puny.

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Regardless of whether you're a bodybuilder or powerlifter wannabe, you will not get bigger or stronger by avoiding to work hard for it.
That didn't count! She hitched it! :p
 

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She also trained for less than a year, and her goal is to reduce BF%.

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Having a sore back for 2 weeks means that his technique is really sh!t, which is only matched by his exceptionally poor diet and rest.
 

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Haha what a crazy video!!!!

That's a strong ass girl right there!

I'm deadlifting 2.67x bodyweight and my back "only" hurts for a few days... something's wrong w/ your technique, nutrition/recovery, etc.
 

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Since we're being all honest...

Bodybuilding is awesome...Sure its gay to look at a bunch of muscular dudes on stage, but I am intrigued by it. If a see a ridiculously diesel dude walking down the street I would stare in awe !!

A good physique on a male and female is nice to look at !!! If you GUYS did not visually appreciate the male form then most of you wouldnt care about how you looked. Your training would solely focus on strength, general health or athletics.

I think subconsciously I compare the amazing physiques of bodybuilders with my own and try to sculpt my body to look like theirs.

Powerlifting is awesome as well. I think both powerlifting and bodybuilding are similar in that your showing off your strength or your looks. I love having people comment about insane feats of strength and impressing others knowing that they would break in half or get squashed trying to do what I do (not that I do much in the grand scheme of things).

Powerlifting has built up my physique to the point where I dont really need to focus or worry about how I look (to attract the ladies). The stronger you become the better looking you become for the most part (granted your diet is clean healthy).

I get more of a kick out of the confidence and empowerment I have over other people so Powerlifting means more to me than bodybuilding.

Either way we're all exhibitionists in some form or another and we're all trying to show something off to the world.
 

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I go to the gym to get strong, and i eat to get big

Im definitly more of a PLer then a BBer, and my goals are more like a PLer (300kg raw deadlift yeahhh buddy!) but I definitly love the physical side affects (also the mental too) of training and probably wouldnt do it if I was to remain a 140lb skinny rake!
 
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I appreciate everyone's comments. This is exactly the kind of reinforcement I need. As I said, I've hit a mental wall and I've been struggling to justify the torment I put myself through in the squat rack. I recently started a variant of the Texas Method and it's kicking my ass.
 

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So far nobody posted any programs.

I have been doing compounds for 5 years now, may be more. I am telling you it gets you BIGGER but it doesnt mean you look amazing, you will look good but some iso stuff is needed
 

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Kerpal said:
I find the idea of training purely for aesthetics and neglecting strength very bizarre, but that's a whole different debate that we've done 100x already. That said, the method of training you guys are endorsing doesn't make sense to me, even from a purely "bodybuilding" standpoint.

****ty reading comprehension eh? WHO SAID ANYTHING ABOUT NEGLECTING STRENGTH?!?!?!? I literally told the guy in my first posts in this thread to either increase reps or weight in his WORKING SETS (especially for complex movements) any time he can. Food and getting stronger in a higher rep range is what's going to get him the SIZE/muscle density he wants.

You just train for strength woopdeeedoooo you're a "BADASS" WE GET IT already ...

Guess what us bodybuilders aim to do? Place our muscles under longer tension using moderate to heavy weights and working to increase reps or weight like I mentioned.


Say you want to train with higher reps for "the pump" or whatever. And your max squat is 250. So you'll be doing reps with about 185- 200 lbs. Doesn't it make more sense to get your max higher, and THEN do reps with heavier weight? If you got your max squat to 400, you could do reps with 300+ lbs instead of 200. Wouldn't doing reps with much more weight be better for getting bigger?

Going back to my first post here.....longer time under tension is needed. He can very easily get his 185-200 lbs for 6-10 reps to 350+ for 6-10 reps after a long while of training. he'll have some huge legs when he's reppin' 350+ for reps like it's no ones business. Again you're assuming most us bber's don't care at all about strength. Alongside nutrition and proper training/exercises, getting stronger is all a part of the equation. It all interconnects.


Plus, if you're a beginner, you can grow very quickly with sets of 5. In fact, for a pure beginner, I doubt higher reps will make you grow any faster than sets of 5, since at that level almost anything will make you grow and studies show that beginner do best with sets of around 5 reps. And sets of 5 are the best way for a beginner to get strong as quickly as possible. So for a beginner, it seems like you get the best of both worlds by simply doing a basic low rep strength program. I define "beginner" as anyone who hasn't exhausted their limits on a simple linear progression program. Obviously when you're no longer a beginner you have to use more complicated programming depending on your goals.

I know of many people who didn't have a "simple linear program" at the start and they just learned from all the serious lifters/bodybuilders in their gym and went at their own pace. Guess what?? they all made great gains regardless. Also link references to these "studies". I call bull****.

A beginner could be mentored by a bodybuilder from the beginning and another one could get mentored by a powerlifter. Both are going to put on size. Yet who's going to put on the most and have it done proportionately? ? ?


Example: I can squat a little over 400 and deadlift around 500 at a bodyweight of about 200, and I STILL haven't exhausted linear progression. I'm still making progress (although at a very slow rate now) with the basic Starting Strength program, I've gained ~50 lbs on this program, most of it has been muscle (if not all of it; it's possible my bodyfat % may actually be lower than when I started) and I have below average genetics. So now, if I wanted to train purely for size, I could squat 300+ and deadlift 400+ for reps. Wouldn't this make me much bigger than if I had started (and stalled out quickly) with an overly complicated, high rep, light weight program in the first place?

@ "overly complicated"...This is your biased opinion. Still waiting on pics!!!!

My buddies who train like bodybuilders and also for strength and who are squatting 400 lbs+, deadlifting 500 lbs all have great physiques
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It just makes more sense to me to build up a strength base before you try high rep stuff, even if your goal is just looking good at the beach or whatever it is you guys are trying to accomplish.
Why though? You can get stronger in ANY rep range. you'll get size gains in the 3-5 rep range. Yet if the guy worked up to that same weight in a rep range where he has his muscles under more tension he's going to get more SIZE gains. I don't understand why that's so hard to comprehend.

For some reason when a lot of people think about bodybuilding and higher reps, they think of a huge ass guy lifting up 15 lb dumbbells with a pinky twist. It's just ****in stupid.

Powerbuilding sounds better, get stronger in some main exercises that work for you and do some isolation work alongside to build up any weak/lagging parts so in the end you ultimately have a proportionate/aesthetic physique..
 

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Amazing said:
So far nobody posted any programs.

I have been doing compounds for 5 years now, may be more. I am telling you it gets you BIGGER but it doesnt mean you look amazing, you will look good but some iso stuff is needed
chest/tris/bis
legs
off
shoulders/back
off
repeat

With compound movements that work for you thrown in and 1-2 isolation exercises for the smaller muscles.

or chest/tris
bis/legs
off
shoulders/back
off

or

yates split

chest/bis
legs
off
shoulders/tris
rear delts/back
off
 

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