Body language: try to be confident or the "I dont care" look

[thissean]

So we know that body language is very important. Leaning in during a conversation is bad, because it shows needy-ness. This is just one example. My question to you is...is it better to show confidence in body language. We know that woman are attracted to this. But at the same time you dont want to be too confident, or else you look full of yourself. So should you act like you dont really care about anything? When you don't give a woman attention like an AFC would, she is a bit surprised and will wonder why you arent kissing her ass.

anyways, is this an either or thing? a balance or blend of the two?

 

[Mr. Wolf]

What is confidence? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135507&highlight=confidence


You should act like yourself, now if women are disgusted with yourself then you must change things that grosses them out. Until yourself looks just right.. You shouldn't really ACT, instead be yourself, live in your own world, let them be out there, they'll enter your reality if they are attracted to you.

 

[Interceptor]

You shoudl behave as if you're not 'affected' depley. Especially when you're with a woman whom you barely know.
In other words, don't be too qucik to get overly emotionally invested in some chick you just met.
In the end, if you're actually confident and secure in yourself, not hanging on her every word and action, not following her around like a little puppy dog, and not worshipping her, and not in awe of a 'hawt' chick actually talking to you.Then your inner state,your attitude will refelct in your demeanor and body langauge. You will be congruent, becasue it's what you REALLY BELIEVE.

Remember, 'acting": aloof is usually just a cover up for insecurity. It's simply better to build confidence, and be congruent.

A woman will evenrtually find the chinks in your armor.

"Outer game" can only get you so far.
But hey, since so many young kids are interested in instant gratification , I understand.
Fvcked up thing is, that these same guys 'grow up' as immature males.

Never go looking for female validation.
Be confident enough to display attraction, but only show your interest when a woman shows you something interesting.

If your not as good of an actor to 'act aloof" and "not care", and it's all just pretend, you can rest assured that you're going to meet a woman who is going to find your insecurity and smash your fragile Ego.

 

[Potbelly]

TBH, I don't think a girl wracks her mind over why you're not like the others if YOU HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER.

You gotta offer something first. If some ugly b1tch acted differently toward me than other girls, I would not think twice.

 

[Interceptor]

TBH, I don't think a girl wracks her mind over why you're not like the others if YOU HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER.

You gotta offer something first. If some ugly b1tch acted differently toward me than other girls, I would not think twice.