"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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body language question

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Envision James Bond walking down a street and seeing a woman he wants to approach. So he walks up to talk to her. What would his body language say? Where are his hands, how would he be standing, what expression would he have on his face? How would he be leaning? This is a serious question.

When I'm trying to get rid of nervous ticks or anything that would display inconfidence, I often ask myself "how would James Bond carry himself right now?"
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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I often say that women are fundamentally attracted to appearance, not to be confused with physical attractiveness although that matters too.

Appearance is the mostly visual perception of not just physical looks but what encompasses also one's mental mood persona, which I think women focus on a lot. This is manifested in your body language and particular your facial expressions. So I always thought if you take the appearance of actors, it doesn't have to be James Bond but any example from a popular show and if you could emulate that presentation you would be very attractive to women. I wonder where a person could go and learn this ability like an acting school, where they'd understand what presentation is attractive and can teach a person how to do it. . Or is this all done subconsciously and requires talent?

One thing I think is clear is you can have bad body language and not even be cognizant of it. I find it interesting how a good actor can play the part of a "loser" and adjust their body language and voice for the part.
 

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i learned in a seminar for work a little about body language.
men tend to lean over and tie their shoes when they are about to approach a woman.
i also learned that men tend to jingle the change in their pocket when they are thinking about money.

women tend to cross and uncross their legs or twirl their hair when they are interested in men.

people tend to look to the left when they are thinking about something but look to the right when they are making up a lie. (while speaking to you)
 
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