"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Blue Pill men are unbearable

backbreaker

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You know.. i'm officially done trying to help blue pill men whatsoever. they can all die in a fire for all i care.

Everyone here is quick to post articles from women about men, but men on men feminist crime is much much worse. Because, at least women know what the hell they are doing.

Men, really don't. Men are just, that stupid or better stated, oblivious to what is going on.

I got this guy friend whose girlfriend is going to florida to work. they have been dating for 5 months.

now all of our other guy friends are telling him how great he is for sticking it out with her when she is leaving and of course me being a resident sosuave member i had to say .. errk lol. no. that's not gonna work. we don't do invisible friends. and i tried to break it down to him and say look man, you know this is not healthy behavior. If she likes you she will stick around but she can't expect you to hold the flame while she goes half way around the country.

and here comes the Calvary lol. "how can you be so sexist?" "your wife must really love you (actually yeah she does lol)" " shows how much respect you have for women" " both parties have to sacrifice and if it's meant to be it's meant to be"

one guy told me i am full of myself which I mean, i am lol, but that's not why he said i was full of myself he said it because he thinks something is wrong with breaking up with a girl who is moving half way across the country beucdse you refuse to be in a LDR.

While i'm sick of seeing guys fall on swords, im even more sick of being *****ed out by trying to take the sword away

these guys can all just go die in a fire.

now see, this is the bull **** i talk about. having a great sunday. listening to Christmas music all day, in a great mood, wife is in a great mood, son is wrapping presents or trying to, and i see this blue pill problem and i try to go in and help a guy and i let the blue pill men steal my sunday from me by taking my joy. **** em. seriously i'm done with them.

if someone wants advice bad enough to humble themselves to ask me for it or to come here, i will help out otherwise i really just dont' care what type of ****ed up decisions they make. today is the last day i ever let a blue pill guy steal my joy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wait_out

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You tell people stuff they don't like you are gonna get kicked, blue pill or not, right or wrong.

That is just how life is -- isn't it?
 

Warrior74

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I hate to say it but I let sleeping dogs lie. Unless I'm asked personally for my opinion I just let those guys do what they do. At the most I try to throw out some teaser bait like, :

Do you really think that's gonna work?
I read somewhere that most LDR's don't last.
So are you gonna date in the meantime?


If they take the bait and start a convo, I might get to my real opinion. But if they don't, I keep it to myself. Nobody likes the naysayer.
 

The Bat

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Hey man don't let other guys' issues become your issue.

I understand and appreciate what you try to do for guys like these. I can safely say that we've all been there and seen it.

I've found that even if immediately these guys don't respond well to what you have to say, somehow what you say to them stays with them, and they come back to you months/years down the road saying, "Hey remember you told me this once? Well I think you might be on to something".

I'm a believer in planting the seed in my guy friends about this stuff. Lot of this is a major life-changing information for them and they're so deeply ingrained in their beliefs that, frankly, it can be a little discomforting, to say the least, to even consider the opposite of their deeply-held beliefs.

But I wouldn't completely give up. If they **** on you, then throw that **** right back at them. You don't need them to disrespect your beliefs or your life. You can have them respect you for what you believe in while at the same time disagreeing with you.

Unless most men in this country have turned into women...?
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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You can't stop weenyism. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Sometimes it's just better for people to learn off experience. I know that is how I started to really learn.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Findog

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I assume this is a permanent move and not a temporary assignment? If it's the former, I was that guy once. He's probably still just really attached and not ready to face reality yet. A few months of only getting to see her once every six weeks and being exposed to attractive women in his home city will change his perspective. That and she'll quickly meet some guy in Florida and won't encourage him to come visit anymore.
 
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