You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Great for you. I'll keep my 'unemployable' PhD, lol, as I look at 5K of stainless steel on my wrist while I type this response.Poonani Maker said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Please tell me you have a dark sense of humor or sarcasm...6-heads lewis said:
your work shouldn't be about what some hors think you should be making. Work is the backbone of a man. He has to be happy doing it and has to be able to survive on it, that is what counts. The type of women that look towards your wallet are the women you should try to avoid anyway.Poonani Maker said:
Intellectual snobbery doesn't pay the bills. Who really cares about jewelry anyway? Well lots of people base their self worth and esteem on external material things, if thats what you want go for it. I don't disagree with the rest of your post, I could have gone into a 40,000+ career after college but instead I'm waiting tables and going 2 more years for my master's in org. leadership. Hope it pays off.Road Demon said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Good point. I pretty much love my job. I stay in shape. I could do without management or corporate harassment (I make more than they do lol), and other stresses of the job, but I get to spend most of my day with customers who love me and away from supervision who nit-pick everything I do. I can take care of my woman, and as many kids as she wants because of my union job. That is the lure to a decent home-making content back-scratching housewife should I choose to pick one from the litter.Joe The Homophobe said:
I was drunk and sadder than usual when I posted, but it's still a fairly accurate description of my job/life.Ken785 said:Please tell me you have a dark sense of humor or sarcasm...
haha there you go... now you've found motivation to go back to college and finally finish yoru degreeKen785 said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When i got home i started feeling sick (probably from all the insulation in the attics) then i fell asleep for like 13 hours...didnt even care about taking off my contacts i was sooo tired...my body was exhausted. I think im going to have to re-think my career choices...Ken785 said: