"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blue balls..for girls?!

the_azn_fu

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basically, i didnt feel like having sex with my girlfriend today. she wanted it,
she told me all her exes wanted was sex, and so i tried to be different.
now shes pissed off and is not talking to me.
wtf?! anything to say to help me out of this one?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rocko

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Luke Skywalker said:
Go after other woman, you have oneitis on her.
Luke, get out of here man. She's his GIRLFRIEND. Why would he next her if they are going out? How about you next the tons of girls you are getting play from, oh thats right, my quote just reminded me. Just remember, while you are criticizing others and teaching lessons you learned from a book, this guy is fvcking some sweet pvssy :trouble:
 

oakraiderz2

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Luke Skywalker said:
Go after other woman, you have oneitis on her.
I love it when people say others have oneitis for their girlfriends...genius.
 

the_azn_fu

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ahaha thanks guys, yeaaa i dont know what lukes talkin about..
so yea we have sex too often i think. i know, theres probabaly no such thing for soem guys, but i just feel that if we do it too often, it will lose its significance.
but i think she was expecting it, and i didnt give her what she wanted, so shes pouting. im not going to apologize either.
its probably just one of those i have to wait it out situations right?
thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yorgho

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Sex her up.


lol seriously, if you ever don't feel like you're in the mood ask her to do something naughty for you. Say something like, "Will you strip for me?" Or "Can I watch you play with yourself first?" Or "If you want it, you can to put your hand in my pants and get it."

Don't be mean or serious when you say these things, just saying with a devilish grin and she what she does. You will end up getting in the mood after something like that happens.
 

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Tell her that your relationship is more than just sex and you respect her as a person. That you would respect her wishes if she didn't want to have sex a particular day, and that she needs to respect your feelings. That it is not a reflection on your relationship or your feelings about her, just that today you are really tired and just want to cuddle.

I know this sounds like AFC b.s., but if you frame it in her girly terms, she will understand better than you saying I just don't want to, because she will think there is something wrong with her.

Theres been a few times where I've been happier to hit the pillow than the poon when I went to bed, so just let her know that its nothing to do with her or the relationship.

If this happens more than once in a great while, then there is cause for concern.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Desdinova

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Don't pay attention to it, she will come around.
Agreed. You have just as much right as a woman does to turn down sex. You just have to make it CLEAR that you're just not up to it and it has nothing to do with her personally or physically.

Just make sure you don't turn it down too many times in a row or she'll figure that you're no longer attracted to her.
 

penkitten

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everyone gets upset when they are all turned on and their partner doesnt want to have sex with them at that time.
she will get over it after she settles down about it, like tommorrow when you want it.:)
 
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