"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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****blocking....i hate it!

Ntwadumela

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damn it! I freakin hate ****blockers...so damn much. Okay, i was going to a little kickback with some of my co-workers, and i already heard one of the girls wanted me bad. (we made out the weekend before) So i go over there, kinda runnin late, and i see her all wrapped up with this dude. thats cool, i didnt mind if she wanted to mess with him and not me, good luck dude. but then, i started to realize, i was bein ****blocked like freakin crazy!

This guy was literally holdin on to her and following her everywhere she went. But he wasn't even messin with her. Then, we were tryin to play spin the bottle, but that dude was tellin her nah, and just bein a stick in the mud. I left later to chill with my boys, and i got a call from another one of my co-workers(who was agreein with me bout everything) tellin me he talked to this girl about me. I guess she was tellin him "Yeah, i wanted to make out with Ntwadumela(they dont call me that) all night, but drew wouldn't let me..."

son of a b*tch man...****blocking pisses me off so much. this guy was so far in the friend zone that he might as well be her sister. what the hell man, dude, give it up. no one wants to sleep with you, no one finds you sexually attractive. game over man, you lost...and the worst thing of all, you are a guy...a guy...you should know better...

well, my question is, how can you fight this? I didn't have a wingman cause my boys were chillin at some other party. Is there a good way to get these guys out of the picture? How do i deal with these guys? any tips would be great guys, cause i might be goin over there tonight too. we will see.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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milkman

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Originally posted by Ntwadumela
damn it! I freakin hate ****blockers...so damn much. Okay, i was going to a little kickback with some of my co-workers, and i already heard one of the girls wanted me bad. (we made out the weekend before) So i go over there, kinda runnin late, and i see her all wrapped up with this dude. thats cool, i didnt mind if she wanted to mess with him and not me, good luck dude. but then, i started to realize, i was bein ****blocked like freakin crazy!

This guy was literally holdin on to her and following her everywhere she went. But he wasn't even messin with her. Then, we were tryin to play spin the bottle, but that dude was tellin her nah, and just bein a stick in the mud. I left later to chill with my boys, and i got a call from another one of my co-workers(who was agreein with me bout everything) tellin me he talked to this girl about me. I guess she was tellin him "Yeah, i wanted to make out with Ntwadumela(they dont call me that) all night, but drew wouldn't let me..."

son of a b*tch man...****blocking pisses me off so much. this guy was so far in the friend zone that he might as well be her sister. what the hell man, dude, give it up. no one wants to sleep with you, no one finds you sexually attractive. game over man, you lost...and the worst thing of all, you are a guy...a guy...you should know better...

well, my question is, how can you fight this? I didn't have a wingman cause my boys were chillin at some other party. Is there a good way to get these guys out of the picture? How do i deal with these guys? any tips would be great guys, cause i might be goin over there tonight too. we will see.
Do you want this other guy ruin your life?

Go over, take her hand say "follow me", isolate and kiss her.

Or go over and say loud and clear "[her name] I want to talk to you alone for a moment, okay?!!".

Or do anything else to isolate and kiss her. If you want, there is no need to isolate her, you can kiss her right in front of this other guy.

Man, you know the other for your question. ;)
 

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Originally posted by Ntwadumela
damn it! I freakin hate ****blockers...so damn much. Okay, i was going to a little kickback with some of my co-workers, and i already heard one of the girls wanted me bad. (we made out the weekend before) So i go over there, kinda runnin late, and i see her all wrapped up with this dude. thats cool, i didnt mind if she wanted to mess with him and not me, good luck dude. but then, i started to realize, i was bein ****blocked like freakin crazy!

This guy was literally holdin on to her and following her everywhere she went. But he wasn't even messin with her. Then, we were tryin to play spin the bottle, but that dude was tellin her nah, and just bein a stick in the mud. I left later to chill with my boys, and i got a call from another one of my co-workers(who was agreein with me bout everything) tellin me he talked to this girl about me. I guess she was tellin him "Yeah, i wanted to make out with Ntwadumela(they dont call me that) all night, but drew wouldn't let me..."

son of a b*tch man...****blocking pisses me off so much. this guy was so far in the friend zone that he might as well be her sister. what the hell man, dude, give it up. no one wants to sleep with you, no one finds you sexually attractive. game over man, you lost...and the worst thing of all, you are a guy...a guy...you should know better...

well, my question is, how can you fight this? I didn't have a wingman cause my boys were chillin at some other party. Is there a good way to get these guys out of the picture? How do i deal with these guys? any tips would be great guys, cause i might be goin over there tonight too. we will see.
Do you want this other guy ruin your life?

Go over, take her hand say "follow me", isolate and kiss her.

Or go over and say loud and clear "[her name] I want to talk to you alone for a moment, okay?!!".

Or do anything else to isolate and kiss her. If you want, there is no need to isolate her, you can kiss her right in front of this other guy.

Man, you know the answer for your question. ;)
 

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Never chase woman. Woman are like cats - let them come to you. If she is all over the dude she'll find your way to you. When she does this then you have her attention.

If the puppydog ****blocker comes by then by all means just tell him to piss off... "Hey, can you go order us some pizza and wings."

If you try and steal her away then you appear the chump.
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
Never chase woman. Woman are like cats - let them come to you. If she is all over the dude she'll find your way to you. When she does this then you have her attention.

If the puppydog ****blocker comes by then by all means just tell him to piss off... "Hey, can you go order us some pizza and wings."

If you try and steal her away then you appear the chump.
Women are not like cats who you should let come to you, women are like stones - you have to move them. :D

Don´t think about what women are, think about what you want. And if you want to make out with her right now, then find a way to achieve this. If she comes to you ,great. If not, then go and take her. You are the man. ;)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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both of you are right and wrong at the same time.


Yes women are like Cats... There are times when you need to be agressive with a woman, but when she is all on another guy, that isn't the time.

You are a teenager? You mena to tell me that Drew didn't "LET" her go make out with you? That's not her dad.. she could have left whenever she damn well pleased... She choose not to.

There was something about the guy Drew she liked, and she stayed with him..s imple as that. I don't care what she SAID afterwards, look at what she DID

I am basing all of this by the fact that you already made out with her, therefore making your interest known.


In my opinion you played it 90% correctly, I comend you for that... the only thing I wouldn't have done was complain to my friends and everyone else that the guy is ****blocking.

And he wasn't "****blocking", he was "handcuffing".. big difference.
 

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its those damn grenades that brink their big fat jealy-role a$$ out and mess everyone over
 

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What you should have done, or may want to do next time. Is to join them and slowly nudge the CB out. A move I like to use is...walk up to a girl, grab her hand and take her about 20 ft away......the CB will look like a chump if he follows, so he will just leave.

If he does follow, whisper in her ear "I think weve got a stalker"
 
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