****blocking friend?

[NobodyCares1]

To make it short... I was out with friends yesteday got a bit drunk but not too much... at first we were split up to two groups each at different bars but then we decided to join the other group and went to the bar that they have been in...

we came in and one of my friends was already sitting with some girls so I came to him to say hi... one of the girls asked me if I have a cigarette lighter so I just calmely responded that I don't have one... then I said something to the girl that was sitting right next to that friend... I can't remember what but I think it was something harmless...

anyway then my friend told her something like "take any of my friends here" (pointing at my other friends) "just please don't take this one... he's a d!ck" I of course heared that but still I asked the girl what he said her response wat "to be honest he said that you're a ****" I still had a little conversation with that girl... but it didn't matter to me I didn't want to seduce her or anything...

still I noticed that he is acting a lot like this for the past three weeks... ever since I got something more serious with one girl... but other than that he acts friendly... I almost got into a fight that night too and he came to calm things down a bit and so on... don't know what to think about him now...

I can't just not be friends with him since he's basically the bridge between me and other guy friends that I go out with...

 

[Brighter]

To make it short... I was out with friends yesteday got a bit drunk but not too much... at first we were split up to two groups each at different bars but then we decided to join the other group and went to the bar that they have been in...

we came in and one of my friends was already sitting with some girls so I came to him to say hi... one of the girls asked me if I have a cigarette lighter so I just calmely responded that I don't have one... then I said something to the girl that was sitting right next to that friend... I can't remember what but I think it was something harmless...

anyway then my friend told her something like "take any of my friends here" (pointing at my other friends) "just please don't take this one... he's a d!ck" I of course heared that but still I asked the girl what he said her response wat "to be honest he said that you're a ****" I still had a little conversation with that girl... but it didn't matter to me I didn't want to seduce her or anything...

still I noticed that he is acting a lot like this for the past three weeks... ever since I got something more serious with one girl... but other than that he acts friendly... I almost got into a fight that night too and he came to calm things down a bit and so on... don't know what to think about him now...

First of all as a personal request please stop with all the triple dots, totally obnoxious imo. One period is enough brah

From what it sounds like I don't know for sure what it could be, your side might be just as biased as his, so I'll give it a shot.

Usually if a guy is trying to put another guy down, calling him a d!ck isn't exactly the appropriate vernacular. That's more like a word we'd use when we're just trying to give each other sh!t. If that happened to me with one of my good buddies my instinctive reaction would be something along the lines of just playing it off laughing saying something like, "What? You fvcking *******" (for the love of God, I know some people on this forum will take this literally and totally deadpan it) or I'd make some off the cuff sarcastic joke about how great of a first impression he's giving me and we'd resume business as usual. My close group of friends are all witty, improv-centric people who will totally pull that sh!t on each other especially in front of girls/strangers to see if we can play it off because its hilarious. At the end of the day though there's no hard feelings or animosity between any of us because we all know its good fun. The girls love it because its a total disarm and sets a lighthearted, funny tone for our interactions with them. It conveys that we're down to earth guys, who are not uptight and full of themselves, and that we have a good sense of humor. And sh!t man, that goes a long way.

If I was trying to put a guy down or insult him, d!ck isn't the word I'd use. *****, ch*de, c*nt, b!tch, any kind of homophobic slur, or anything that conveys weakness or femininity would probably be more along the lines of trying to make fun of a man.

If this guy is your friend, and you don't think he has ill intentions for you, then its possible that the "something" you said to that girl and then forgot about might have been the reason why he called you a d!ck in the first place. Not necessarily to insult you because he wanted to hurt you, but to defuse the situation (if the girls were upset) and proverbially slap you on the wrist as a "dude, not cool" response.

It also could be that you might be overly sensitive and were caught off guard by it. Guy friends bust each others' balls all the time, you gotta learn to roll with it. Either way it sounds like you didn't play it off at all and took it to heart, which even if it was intended to be malicious you have to learn how to keep your composure.

 

[NobodyCares1]

well I kinda got it as a joke (though the sound of his voice was quite serious) but once I heared him telling something about me and picking up girls to our other friend... I didn't hear exactly what he said but it didn't seem something pleasing... they were sitting behind me and when I turned around that other friedn just laughed a bit... well I'll just let it go for now and see what happens next...

sorry about the dots but that's just the way I'm used to write and I'm not going to change it right now because I have to write quickly... maybe next time

 

[Dekg140]

Lol my friends ****block me ALL the time. it's because they know I have better game than them and i'm more desirable, so they try and piss me off by embarassing me. I take it lightly, it's all banter

 

[Purefilth]

OR you could actually be considered a d1ck!!! Theres one in every group, if you cant see who it is by looking around? its you!
You said he's the link to your other freinds. that means theyre his friends. Try meeting new people, get some of your own friends, some that dont think youre a d1ck. get a new social circle and try not to be considered a d1ck this time.