Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This is my first thread, i normally just chime in with my advice from time to time, some here agree with some don't which is perfectly fine. That's what this forum is for.

Now i would just like to make an observation. I see it day after day here mostly from new users but users start with "i met this new girl and WE HAD AN IMMMEDIATE CONNECTION," Then the buts begin and they tell us why there was no connection and fill their message full of what the heck happened question, snd why did they flake and not return calls.

Guys if you are meeting someone, you cant begin to have a connection with them until you really get to know them and getting to know someone takes months.

We all know women want to keep you on a string and their actions speak much louder than words. Can guys realize there is zero connections with another human being after one or two dates?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It is true though, men connect much faster than women. However, the connection or feelings are driven by our biological needs. Men tend to confuse this with "love" or "feelings", I still do it myself. We can't help it, it is hard-wired into our DNA.

Part of ascending to that stronger alpha man is identifying the true nature of these feelings, controlling them to maintain your "one foot out the door" frame, and getting her connection to grow beyond yours.
 

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It is true though, men connect much faster than women. However, the connection or feelings are driven by our biological needs. Men tend to confuse this with "love" or "feelings", I still do it myself. We can't help it, it is hard-wired into our DNA.

Part of ascending to that stronger alpha man is identifying the true nature of these feelings, controlling them to maintain your "one foot out the door" frame, and getting her connection to grow beyond yours.
Most men connect based off of physical attraction and whether the "door" is opened by her. Some of us do care about how she thinks and we will run our tests and observations.
 

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It is true though, men connect much faster than women. However, the connection or feelings are driven by our biological needs. Men tend to confuse this with "love" or "feelings", I still do it myself. We can't help it, it is hard-wired into our DNA.

Part of ascending to that stronger alpha man is identifying the true nature of these feelings, controlling them to maintain your "one foot out the door" frame, and getting her connection to grow beyond yours.
I get it, i guess in my 44 years I've seen woman say and do so many things to make you believe something is there only for when the vale is pulled away their audio ( words ) don't match their video ( their actions ) and ive seen is so many times chicks having a great time or pretending to, and then suddenly go cold. I've seen it, i have watched thousand of friends go through it, ive interviewed and discussd it with many women too, and most admit they said they felt connections after one or two dates only for those feelings to die just as quickly as they appeared.

This is why i always advise guys that when they "feel a connection so quickly" to put their feelings on ice. Be indifferent and let the chick fall in love with you. Not the other way around. In fact i advise guys to not speak about their feelings. Stay a mystery.
 

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I get it, i guess in my 44 years I've seen woman say and do so many things to make you believe something is there only for when the vale is pulled away their audio ( words ) don't match their video ( their actions ) and ive seen is so many times chicks having a great time or pretending to, and then suddenly go cold. I've seen it, i have watched thousand of friends go through it, ive interviewed and discussd it with many women too, and most admit they said they felt connections after one or two dates only for those feelings to die just as quickly as they appeared.

This is why i always advise guys that when they "feel a connection so quickly" to put their feelings on ice. Be indifferent and let the chick fall in love with you. Not the other way around. In fact i advise guys to not speak about their feelings. Stay a mystery.
Couldn't agree more! That feeling of connection is essentially the foundation of an AFC.

Guys, it you want to profess your love and have to tell someone, tell your journal or your confidant, not the object of your affections.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Couldn't agree more! That feeling of connection is essentially the foundation of an AFC.

Guys, it you want to profess your love and have to tell someone, tell your journal or your confidant, not the object of your affections.
This is great. "Instant connection" IS AFC. It can get you into a lot of trouble. Whats important is that SHE feels this! HOw many of us have been strung along or pedastalize a babe that
we had an instant connection with.
 

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This is great. "Instant connection" IS AFC. It can get you into a lot of trouble. Whats important is that SHE feels this! HOw many of us have been strung along or pedastalize a babe that
we had an instant connection with.
Yup! We have all done it.

$hit, I had a date last week that I got the "feels" after a 4 hour first date. My mom is currently my confidant as she seems to understand the nature of things, and she said... "guess what? Sounds like your turning into a needly little bish. Chill out You just met this girl" I wasn't head over heels for this girl, but I wanted to see her again. Needless to say, I controlled it and didn't text till several days later to setup a date...

I was bugged that I got the "feels" though... I still have a ways to go...
 

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Yup! We have all done it.

$hit, I had a date last week that I got the "feels" after a 4 hour first date. My mom is currently my confidant as she seems to understand the nature of things, and she said... "guess what? Sounds like your turning into a needly little bish. Chill out You just met this girl" I wasn't head over heels for this girl, but I wanted to see her again. Needless to say, I controlled it and didn't text till several days later to setup a date...

I was bugged that I got the "feels" though... I still have a ways to go...

Perhaps we can let ourselves "feel" after we really know them and they show that they feel the same way.
 

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You can feel. Just don't disclose those feelings. Disclose only indifference.
I was talking about "feeling" it and perhaps mistaking YOUR feelings for how SHE feels. It's most important what she feels and how her actions indicate that. Forget about words, there are a lot of sweet talking snakes out there.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Everytime i got feels for a girl its always ended bad..

Everytime a man gets feelings for a girl hes fcked..
 
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