"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Via myspace, a friend of one of my friends added me, we've talked a bit on AIM, soon on the phone, and we'll be going out to meet up soon.

Her pictures are those annoying type where you can't really get a good, normal view. However, she does appear to at least be decent looking. And...judging by friends and comments I get the idea that she's attractive.

Anyways, I'm thinking we'd go out for lunch. I'm thinking that would be an hour tops, and I could easily get out of further contact if she a) is not good-looking enough and/or b)a *****.

Do you guys have any other possible ideas, or perhaps things to do after lunch in case I do actually like her?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Regardless of whether you like her or not keep it short for the first date - no rush.

You might consider just coffee like Starbucks so you don't have to deal with food.
 
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Originally posted by flexion_
Regardless of whether you like her or not keep it short for the first date - no rush.

You might consider just coffee like Starbucks so you don't have to deal with food.
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Ah, what's the reasoning behind a short date (regardless of attraction)?
 
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Quest-ce que ce pas Mac?


Any active activity is great. Mini-golf, ice-skating, walking at the park, swimming, beach, frisby (kino?), the list goes on and on. NEVER GO to the movies on the first date. This is what is expected from a AFC (non-experienced guy). Also you can't talk in the movies. But if you have some mad non-verbal skills, no talking is neccessary.
 
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Indeed. But I wouldn't be too active on the 1st date with a girl you havn't met yet. I'm okay with the lunch idea, but I would just to tea. 1st off, you two should talk a little and get to know each other and get comfortable around each other.

Once that's established, so for an action date.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Seeing its a blind date your goal should be simply to meet this person and decide if she is worth your time for a real date.

A blind date isn't the same as the real thing - you both aren't meeting because you like each other - you both are just being put in a situation where you can meet each other for the first time as set up by some external person or source.
 
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