"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Blacked out on date

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I normally have a strongish tolerance to alcohol and I have NEVER blacked out.

However i haven't drunk for a few weeks. Went out on a date on Friday and drunk a fair bit (mistake of course). I remember hitting on the girl and her being a bit coy but not rejecting me entirely. After that I don't remember anything. I got home somehow but have no memory of doing so. I don't remember leaving the bar at all.

I really want to know what happened. The issue is this is a girl I work with. She was very cold today even though she seemed super keen before. I guess I might have done something bad. I asked her but she was very brief with me and just said that I didn't do anything bad. That's all.

To be honest one of the reasons I got so drunk is that this girl had no conversation so I just got drunk to cope. That said she is hot (although totally flat chested which I don't like) and I am gutted that I jeopardized my chance of getting to hit that.

I'm not sure what to do now. I want to know what happened. I also want to retrieve this if possible. I don't know how though. Should I just leave this?

For some reason I always get obsessed with girls that reject me. As soon as I have them I lose interest. I know it's bulls*it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Actually, from what I know, girls just become cold for no apparent reason. One day, they're friendly, the next day, they're not. It probably doesn't even have anything do with the night you blacked out.
 
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Yeah, i'm just finding it hard to let this go.

If a girl I liked did the same thing I would think she was a bit of a clown but it wouldn't stop me wanting to see her again if she was suitably embarrassed about it and wasn't some kind of depraved alcoholic (I'm not, normally).

This sucks because I have to see this girl every day at work. I already tried to broach this today but got the cold shoulder.

Is there any point in pushing this any further? I guess I should just leave it right? It seems she is clearly not interested.
 
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Yeah, I think you should just leave it. (That doesn't mean dissing her. If you pass by each other it's OK to give her a courtesy smile or nod.)If she misses your attention, she'll let you know.
This is why so many guys in this forum are against gaming women at work. But the temptation is strong. Believe me, I know. I have so many hot co-workers.
Oh and try to go easy on the drinking next time. Just drink enough to get confident and know your limits. Hehehe...
 
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Sound advice.

I can't believe I blacked out. It's the first time it happened.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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One of my friends had this happen to her recently.

It's a HUGE turn off to a girl if a new guy she's out with gets black out drunk....she witnesses your drunk foolery.

If she was trashed as well, it would be no big deal since she likely wouldn't remember it.
 
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GameTime,

I know that was a joke but it's funny you say that. I have never blacked out before even though I have drunk far more on previous occasions. If this had been anywhere else I would have assumed my drink had been spiked - but it was an upscale hotel bar so it's implausible that I was drugged. Unless as you say, she did it, lol.

Women are f*cking harsh. Only get one shot it seems. Clearly blacking out on the first date isn't impressive but it really wasn't typical behaviour. Hate this feeling that you have one chance to get everything right. No room for error.
 
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