"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The last time I saw a black couple hold hands was in middle school and all the guys made fun of the kid and he stopped holding her hand.

Is this a cultural thing??? I see white couples, Asians and especially Hispanic couples displaying public signs of affection all the time.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude, come on are you serious? Who notices these things?
 
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A black guy that is very observant of the people and things around him.
 
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How about observations of other races or is this just a "black thang?" I don't know, it just seems like people can easily find what they look for.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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which part of US are you living in ? There are plenty of black couples display public affection in Canada.
 
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Yes we hold hands. Jeesh. Just because one couple was getting teased for being too sugary sweet, doesn't mean that you can generalize that to an entire race across all age groups.
 
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How about observations of other races or is this just a "black thang?" I don't know, it just seems like people can easily find what they look for.
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Are you suggesting that I look for black people not displaying signs of public affection??? I'm not sure why anyone would look for something like this not to happen. I'm a fking black guy and this is what I have observed.
 
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Ive seen black couples being very affectionate. Must just be the people you hang out with.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm a fking black guy and this is what I have observed.
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You've proved my point.
 
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No I have not.

How about observations of other races or is this just a "black thang?" I don't know, it just seems like people can easily find what they look for.
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Of course I'm using other races as my reference. Maybe you didn't read my original post where I compared blk couples to asians, whyts and hispanics?

Every school that I have ever attended was highly diverse. My high school was like 60/40 white blk, my college has a similar racial make up, my neighborhood oddly enough is becoming whiter by the hour and I haven't observed blacks displaying the same amount of affection as other groups. I'm not claiming that my observations are emperical, but they have to mean something more than "you find what you look for." Please save the PC shyt for the ladies, hell even the ladies agree with me. I chatted to some female friends today about this subject and they have experienced the same thing(not an aggregate yeah yeah.)

If you haven't been exposed to black culture (tv/music do not count) I don't understand how you can really respond to this post. Go out and watch people and I promise you will see the same thing.
 
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If you haven't been exposed to black culture (tv/music do not count) I don't understand how you can really respond to this post. Go out and watch people and I promise you will see the same thing.
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If you haven't left your back yard and even traveled to half the places people have cited in this thread one can only think that you little exposure to the world or that you are only seeing what you want to see. And what is this noise about exposure to the black culture, you're making it sound as if it IS only a "black thang," as if the only way that you can understand it is to live it.

Like I said earlier, you've proven my point.
 
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How retarded is this thread?

Closed.
 
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