Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Not only more accepted, it's promoted. Kids are taught that it's cool to be gay. Combine that with women's natural bisexual tendencies, and it's like leaving the corral door open. Women are designed to be sexually appealing, it's no surprise they experiment with it at times. Men are nasty lol.
They want that attention from certain people.
I believe it is merely a byproduct of feminized men. They are simply increasing their options, because they have yet to experience a male who can satisfy them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Be careful Howie.. You too may become of of the AFC's that come here when she leaves you for a carpet muncher.
I think Howie would watch then pound them both out.
I have strongly felt this too. And this is especially pronounced because of our overly-sexualized society. I swear that this **** didn’t exist in the same way that it did 20+ years ago. Even 10+ years ago it was pretty rare. I wonder how much of it has to do with women just being more comfortable around other women simply because they’re women. I know that women always have their guards up around men somewhat until they find out that said man is gay. Then they’ll happily open up to that gay man and even want to sleep with him afterwards lol. I think that it is a similar case with women being attracted towards women—they just don’t feel ‘threatened’, if that makes any sense.