"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Birthday present

Bends

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So, I'm one one those guys (probably like most of you) who don't think a girl should be spoiled with gifts and stuff. However, I believe her birthday is an exception.
I met this girl a few weeks before I went to study abroad this autumn. At first I just saw her as something fun before I left but I the more time I spent with her, the more I liked her and I'm afraid she now has become somewhat of a "oneitis". We speak on the phone sometimes and I know that she misses me just as much as I miss her. But we have both agreed on that we are allowed to see other people and that we're NOT a couple. Now, I wont be goming home again until the beginning of May and she's now going to travel Asia for a few months. I know she'll be approached a lot of times during that time...
Her birthday is in December and I want to send her something little so that she'll keep thinking of me until we meet again. Suggestions?
I know, I shouldn't be worrying that much about her and try to see other girls while I'm in a different country and all that. But it's hard man!
So, what do you say?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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