Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Bipolar or an *******?

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So Thursday she asked me if I would come over her house Friday night. I responded I am not sure I was gonna take my son to see the new Bond movie. Friday at lunch she calls and asks again and I say ya I will probably come and switch the movie to Sat to spend time with her. I drive all day for work and she lives 40 mins away. Anyways at lunch told her gonna come home, make dinner and a thing or two then will head over later it might be a bit late. She says ok....
So I get home, make dinner and start my work notes, she calls I tell her I will be there 8ish. She is ok with this, at about 7 she calls and starts ****, I got in trouble because I was gonna hit the gym on my way to her house for 30 mins (i super set the **** out of everything at the gym, she knows this, together for 22 months,) even though I was gonna spend the entire evening with her. When she began *****ing about not coming over earlier I told her that I worked, got off work and then was gonna cook dinner and finish work notes while it cooked. She never offered to make me dinner but when I was on my way out the door she cancelled the entire evening on me. Also going as far to put me down I could have eaten dinner over there, when i responded no one invited me so I expected to make my own she only got MORE mad at me and began the mouth of terror of complaints, put downs and exaggerated drama. This girl is NASTY with her mouth, if a dude spoke to me like this I would punch him out, anyways My response was calm calm calm of "hey its thirty mins and i will be right over". Nope, more anger more mouth as she begins putting me down as a father (wtf does this have to do with me coming at 8?) so I hung up on her telling her she is not gonna put me down anymore. i did not hear from her for the night or next day till early evening around 430-5ish, she messaged me a smartass "hey gonna eat and hit the mall thought I would see if you could spare ten mins but you are prob busy with the gym all day" . I dont respond, i get another message saying "no worries i found someone else to go to the mall with" -i find this mean and hurtful so i dont respond, so i get a phone call i ignore and then an immediate message saying she is ''erasing my number and to have a good life hahah". i find this mean and immature as usual and dont respond. The mouth and temper on this girl are of a five year old spoiled brat. She can NOT understand that reaching out to me with put downs, smart ass comments and an attitude did not get my response, she she continues to be more mean....is she bipolar or just an *******? I have had probably 8 gf's and never one speak to me in this manner. Her mother and father are together but she despises her dad for having her mom make dinner everyday and bring him his plate and drinks, she says her mother is like a slave, I said no your dad works full time and takes care of the family and your mother works 4 hours a day and takes care of the family by providing dinner and nurturing , she is fulfilled by being a good wife. She disagrees...Even having a decent dad around is not enough for these girls today, it shows because this girl shows no respect or caring. Now im off to another girls house to get some.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How about some paragraphs? Some of us more cranky ones don't read big blocks of text.
 

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She is a cancer. Dont even put up with any of that. If any chick puts you down then you just need to dump them. You need to find someone that brings you up not down.

She is definitely immature. Just keep ignoring her.
 

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It doesn't matter if she's bipolar or whatever. She NEEDS to treat you better. IF she's not going to, she's gone. I think you have put up with this for about 21 months too long
 

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As a single dad, I cringed when you re-scheduled with your son to be with her. Take it from me, never put a woman before your son.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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As a single dad, I cringed when you re-scheduled with your son to be with her. Take it from me, never put a woman before your son.
Understandable, my son is 16, he lives with me, always have. I asked him what he would rather do see the movie friday night or sat afternoon. He said sat would be fine as it was freezing out. But ya i get your point.
 

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This girl is insane. So her mother doesn't work and she's calling her a slave because she has to cook a meal and bring some drink to her man? Not even considering the 8+ hours her father works and pays for everything? She's useless... downgrade to FWB and game other women.
 

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is she bipolar or just an *******?
Who knows, probably both. But you shouldn't worry about it. This woman made it very clear to you that you're better off without her. I'm sorry you found out after 22 months.
 
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