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Anyone else broken the cycle of being a messy binge drinking fool? The sh#t Ive been doing lately has gotten way out of hand and even my close mates are starting to cringe at what Im going to do next.

Im almost 30 and this has got to stop and I'm asking any of you who may have been in a similiar situation for help. How did you go from that to that?
 

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well you could get married and have some kids and your wife will see that it stops

or


you could possibly call your local aa and start going to meetings.
seems to help my aunt alot .
shes even made friends and has been alcohol free for about 4 years now.
 

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But alcoholics want drinks as soon as they wake up, I on the other hand am quite happy not drinking every other day and on the contrary the hangovers mess me up for pretty much the entire next day.

The thing is Ive been getting drunk socialising for so long I cant imagine how boring it would be otherwise, and If not whats the way of thinking or techniques others use to go it sober.

I dunno.

marriage is definately out aswell.
 

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if you want something bad enough, no matter what, you'll get it. but be realistic about things and figure out a schedule that keeps you busy all the time. while your doing something and keeping yourself busy, it will keep your mind from wondering and therefore thinking about alcohol and drinking. Staying active is also very very helpful. if you run everyday for 30 minutes and get into the habit of running, youll improve tremedously. this is the way that i quit smoking ciggaretts, which is also a very bad addiction/habit

EDIT: have you tried the sticky green?!?!?!:confused:
 

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so this is just when you go out and party ...

i see..

well i think you should find something else to occupy your time with so you cant go out and party as much .got any hobbies?
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Anyone else broken the cycle of being a messy binge drinking fool? The sh#t Ive been doing lately has gotten way out of hand and even my close mates are starting to cringe at what Im going to do next.

Im almost 30 and this has got to stop and I'm asking any of you who may have been in a similiar situation for help. How did you go from that to that?
i share ur exact problem.

and i don't think these posts will help u at all..

(mines prob not as developed as urs..)

every friday/sat night i completely write myself off, and can't remember much of what happens.. i've had girls i've never met telling me off for trying to go home with them etc. (i frequent the same clubs).. i had a bit of a scare last week when my friend who didn't drink said i spent way to much time with one of my mates girlfriends.. turns out i didn't do anything bad.. but i had a scare that i MAY have.. i'm going to try to slow it down a bit..
i think i'll just take less money out, so i can't get as drunk..
it worked last friday night..

-still no good for my liver mind u.
 

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My dumb ass friend Vito went on a seroius bender for his birthday. He was seriously out of control to the degree that at one point i threatened to hit him in the face if he didn't get himself to gether. He was snatching stuff out of my hands and stealing my smokes. The bartender told me to "watch my boy or he's getting tossed" My god he's hardly my boy!

He also blew the foam off the top of his beer into my favorite bartender's face. She was not happy and wasn't afraid to let me know. Later his friend bought him a yager bomb. Half of it went down his throat and the other half down his shirt.

At that point the bouncers had had enough and they put him in a cab. After getting out of the cab he tripped and fell on Mirage property (he had a room there) and was taken to the hospital. Forunatly he only scuffed his knee but he was so drunk (BAC .23) that they were worried and did cat scans and stuff. His bill was like 2000 dollars.
Later he told me how he was going to sue MGM Mirage for his medical bills...Sigh what a dumb ass.
 
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Originally posted by PRMoon
My dumb ass friend Vito went on a seroius bender for his birthday. He was seriously out of control to the degree that at one point i threatened to hit him in the face if he didn't get himself to gether. He was snatching stuff out of my hands and stealing my smokes.

He also blew the foam off the top of his beer into my facorite bartender's face. She was not happy and wasn't afraid to let me know. Later his friend bought him a yager bomb. Half of it went down his throat and the other half down his shirt.

At that point the bouncers had had enough and they put him in a cab. After getting out of the cab he tripped and fell on Mirage property (he had a room there) and was taken to the hospital. Forunatly he only scuffed his knee but he was so drunk (BAC .23) that they were worried and did cat scans and stuff. His bill was like 2000 dollars.
Later he told me how he was going to sue MGM Mirage for his medical bills...Sigh what a dumb ass.
ouch!

my friend got done drink driving with a BAC of .169... thank god he got done before he killed someone..

-must say there was a really funny conversation which he had with the police printed out in his summance to court..

hopefully in the 16 months without a liscence he learns a hard lesson.
 

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Why is marriage definately out?

I personally drink every single week, sometimes upto 3 times a week, but that is only when I am single and partying. When I have a girlfriend, I probably only drink once a week at most. Will it ever stop? Dont think so, as you say, without alcohol how boring would life be! Thing I have noticed, u need to control how many you drink, only have 7-8 beers, get happy and have fun. Try stop at that. You do all the crazy **** when you loose count and end up on like 15 beers and 5 bourbon and cokes! Those blackouts are definately no fun! I have embarassed myself many of times also! Although like I say, once you can control yourself at 7-8 its ok, although of course, once in a while you let yourself fly, but thats all in good fun and hopefully that once off wont get you into any serious trouble!
 

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Yo,u Clooney and I all live in a country where drinking is a national passtime

Dont stress to much mate. Its the way youve been brought up.
 

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Originally posted by nw1512
Yo,u Clooney and I all live in a country where drinking is a national passtime

Dont stress to much mate. Its the way youve been brought up.
lol.. so true..
i'm australian as well..
my dad drinks most nights. my older brother drinks most nights.
when i go to work they all tell me its "unaustralian" if i don't drink each night..

but i keep to drinking on the weekends.. still way more then i should.
 

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Originally posted by nw1512
Yo,u Clooney and I all live in a country where drinking is a national passtime

Dont stress to much mate. Its the way youve been brought up.
Sure is, however, I know a guy who drank himself to death, and through friends know 3 others who have also died of alcohol poisoning. Also, through friends, know of two others who have been seriously hospitalised through alcohol poisoning, and one guy who got drunk and jumped off a building. I dated a girl, whose younger sister stole her car, and drove it drunk from a party, crashing it and killing her friend. My cousin has been caught 5 times drink driving and is DAMN lucky not to be in jail.

National passtime? Sure.

However, after years of doing it, sometimes I do get a little worried, drinking is a LOT different than consuming intolerable amounts and doing things you never thought you would dream of when sober! Some people know their limits and can control them, another form of alcoholic (from what I have been informed), is the one that doesnt know when to stop, and sadly, that is me! Causes for a crazy life, but much of it doesnt end up in fun! Thats my experience anyways.
 

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Was having the same problem - but have not gone on a neder for the last month.

It came down to several things.

1) The hangover was gettign worse.
2) It was fvcking up the work I was doing in the gym
3) It was fvcking up my weekends - could do antything
4) I stopped going to Kung Fu on Saturday mornings
5) I stopped riding my dirtbike on Sundays.


In the end of the day I was p1ssing to much of my life, money and time down the drain.

Now when I go out I:

1) Stick to driniking beer.
2) Don't have any pre drinks at my place
3) Drink water at the bar.
4) Often times drive so I'm forced not to drink.


Life's better now.
 

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take vitimin c before you drink, helps for next day hangovers
 

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(.)(.) start lifting. As you notice the results, and see that 6 pack when cutting, you will not want to drink as much as you do becuase of the fear of losing everything you've worked so hard for. I used to drink a lot, now im a sober cab most of the time.


Try going out to a party where everyone is drunk but you. Talk to the girls, see how you hold up. If you are completely insecure and cant do anything, then may be drinking is the reason you have the courage to talk to girls.. which you need to change right then.

I love social drinking, and clubbing while tipsy. However, i am completely comfortable in my own skin being sober around drunk people, so i dont need it.
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Anyone else broken the cycle of being a messy binge drinking fool? The sh#t Ive been doing lately has gotten way out of hand and even my close mates are starting to cringe at what Im going to do next.

Im almost 30 and this has got to stop and I'm asking any of you who may have been in a similiar situation for help. How did you go from that to that?
Hey (.)(.) and quest,

I have problem as you both. I am breaking that cycle as we speak. I haven't drank in 7 weeks and counting. When I was drinking, I maybe drink 2-3 nights a week. I never felt the need to drink every night, but when I did drink, I would drink as much as I could. I would always drink more than my friends. I happened to drink very fast. I would never feel drunk. I would feel completely hungover the next day, but as I was drinking, I never knew when I had my fill, or feel the effects of being drunk. It's a weird sensation when you are drinking, it hard to explain unless you experienced binging. The next day, I sometimes couldn't even remember I how got home the night before or some of the things I have done. It wasn't like this all of the time, but more than I can count. It would take me 2 days to recover from a night of hard drinking.

The only advice I have for you is to either go cold turkey or go cold turkey and seek help. Whenever I am out, I drink only water/soda. Most of my friends are drinkers. They wonder why I am not drinking with them. I tell them I am tired of drinking and I on a break. I think for me it came to a point of being tired of my life being in the state it was. It is a cycle that won't break unless you deep down want it to stop. I feel I have focus in my life. I have higher expectations of myself that I want to achieve and I just don't have time to be hungover/drunk. I feel so much more alive. I want to get back in shape and reach my goals.

If you have any questions, please ask. I try to answer the best I can.

Take Care,

TS
 

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Hey (.)(.) and quest,

I have problem as you both. I am breaking that cycle as we speak. I haven't drank in 7 weeks and counting. When I was drinking, I maybe drink 2-3 nights a week. I never felt the need to drink every night, but when I did drink, I would drink as much as I could. I would always drink more than my friends. I happened to drink very fast. I would never feel drunk. I would feel completely hungover the next day, but as I was drinking, I never knew when I had my fill, or feel the effects of being drunk. It's a weird sensation when you are drinking, it hard to explain unless you experienced binging. The next day, I sometimes couldn't even remember I how got home the night before or some of the things I have done. It wasn't like this all of the time, but more than I can count. It would take me 2 days to recover from a night of hard drinking.

The only advice I have for you is to either go cold turkey or go cold turkey and seek help. Whenever I am out, I drink only water/soda. Most of my friends are drinkers. They wonder why I am not drinking with them. I tell them I am tired of drinking and I on a break. I think for me it came to a point of being tired of my life being in the state it was. It is a cycle that won't break unless you deep down want it to stop. I feel I have focus in my life. I have higher expectations of myself that I want to achieve and I just don't have time to be hungover/drunk. I feel so much more alive. I want to get back in shape and reach my goals.

If you have any questions, please ask. I try to answer the best I can.

Take Care,

TS
i know i could give up cold turkey.. it wouldn't be a problem.
the thing i hate, if i decide i'll drive my friends out or something... i get non stop "are you alright?" "do you feel ok?" "is your mood alright?" "are you sure you want to drive?" "have some drinks if you want"
and after answering each of those multiple times, i'm normally pretty drained..
also, i couldn't go the local sober, cause i see all these kids from highschool and when i'm drunk i'll be all "HEY BUDDY! HOWS IT GOING!?" but when i'm sober, i don't want to talk to them, cause i got nothing in common with them. and i'll be like "whats up man?" and want to get away asap.
 

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Titty Man!

Good to see a familiar face roun here. Say, didnt you have a kid not too long ago? If there is anything that would sober me up, its the idea of being responsible for another life! Wish I could offer more constructive advice, but I hate alcohol and don't understand why people get hooked on it. To me, nothing is worth a hangover, especially when all you do is make an ass out of yourself in the process. Food for thought.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Binge Drinking

Originally posted by quest
i know i could give up cold turkey.. it wouldn't be a problem.
the thing i hate, if i decide i'll drive my friends out or something... i get non stop "are you alright?" "do you feel ok?" "is your mood alright?" "are you sure you want to drive?" "have some drinks if you want"
and after answering each of those multiple times, i'm normally pretty drained..
also, i couldn't go the local sober, cause i see all these kids from highschool and when i'm drunk i'll be all "HEY BUDDY! HOWS IT GOING!?" but when i'm sober, i don't want to talk to them, cause i got nothing in common with them. and i'll be like "whats up man?" and want to get away asap.
I get the "Are you alright?" questions myself. It doesn't phase me when they ask me this. It did at the begining, but not now. I think my friends are more upset with me that I am not buying the number of drinks I normally buy any given night out than me not drinking.

I can totally relate to the situation of being in an uncomfortable environment and seeing people you really do not care to see. That's is very natural. Drinking makes you feel more comfortable/confident around people that you may or may not feel comfortable being around. Drinking becomes your security blanket to feel acceptable to others. But it is really more of a crutch or a handicap and it doesn't help you develop into the person you want to be. I know because I wasted so many years of my life by relying on drinking as a false sense of security to make me feel more accepted, when it really was a lack of confidence in myself.

TS
 

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Originally posted by CrotchSniffer
Titty Man!

Good to see a familiar face roun here. Say, didnt you have a kid not too long ago? If there is anything that would sober me up, its the idea of being responsible for another life!
Cheers and you would think so wouldnt you? but having no say whether the b!tch has my child or not should have been a rough indicator that I would get zero say in the upbringing and responsibilities of her life....silly me.

have you tried the sticky green?!?!?!
No I cant do that it sends me cococabanas.

Thanks guys for all the advice and words of wisdom , I knew it was common and there would be plenty of others in the same boat except my age suggests I should have pulled my finger out and grown some will power a long time ago.
 
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