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Don Juan
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You know, sometimes the most common sense rules are the ones we often neglect to follow or plain ignore.
The two rules which have really turned things around for me are:
1)The 3 second rule (obviously, not always 3 seconds but you get the point here...my guidelines for this rule are: no uglies, no fatties, no women over 30)....everything else is fair game.
2)But the most important by far which I kick myself for not realizing until now is: THE WORLD is one big DISCO
Really, how often do you guys go out to a bar or night club and think...damn, where are all the hot single girls? Or after mustering up some balls to approach the girl, get rejected after screaming something barely coherent in her ear? I can't believe I wasted most of my 20s spending money and time in these meat markets where defensive shields are UP, competition is HIGH, and uglies suddenly become commodities.
Night clubs and bars (unless quiet enough to engage in deep conversation) just do not work for me. There is a time and place for such things, but the quality and quanity of my successes went up DRAMATICALLY when I approached my entire world as a nightclub or bar.
In other words, every public place I enter, I scan the crowd, find THE most attractive female (I only try to go for 8s, 9s, and 10s), and try to establish contact and rapport. Sometimes I'll eject if it seems too unnatural, or she just doesn't seem "into it", but I have to tell you...it's worked great for me so far. It's also become kind of funny the stares I get from all the guys, who have been eyeing the hottie, and then see me boldly walk up and engage her in a 10 minute conversation. In the past, this bothered me. Now, I don't give a ****.
MY PROBLEM is still the following: going for the same day close. I have a tendency to eject too early, sometimes settling for the quick phone number (which I am now forcing myself to consider a failure) instead of continuing the conversation beyond the point of "comfort." Just today, I had a co-ed giving me the "**** me" eyes but I ejected after a pleasant conversation. Very dumb, and I'm still kicking myself over that.
Also, my calm and rythmic PACING of the conversation sometimes stutters...meaning I either go too slow or too fast. I need to work on this more.
In any case, would be interested in hearing THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSONS you mature DJs have learned so far which has made the most impact.
The two rules which have really turned things around for me are:
1)The 3 second rule (obviously, not always 3 seconds but you get the point here...my guidelines for this rule are: no uglies, no fatties, no women over 30)....everything else is fair game.
2)But the most important by far which I kick myself for not realizing until now is: THE WORLD is one big DISCO
Really, how often do you guys go out to a bar or night club and think...damn, where are all the hot single girls? Or after mustering up some balls to approach the girl, get rejected after screaming something barely coherent in her ear? I can't believe I wasted most of my 20s spending money and time in these meat markets where defensive shields are UP, competition is HIGH, and uglies suddenly become commodities.
Night clubs and bars (unless quiet enough to engage in deep conversation) just do not work for me. There is a time and place for such things, but the quality and quanity of my successes went up DRAMATICALLY when I approached my entire world as a nightclub or bar.
In other words, every public place I enter, I scan the crowd, find THE most attractive female (I only try to go for 8s, 9s, and 10s), and try to establish contact and rapport. Sometimes I'll eject if it seems too unnatural, or she just doesn't seem "into it", but I have to tell you...it's worked great for me so far. It's also become kind of funny the stares I get from all the guys, who have been eyeing the hottie, and then see me boldly walk up and engage her in a 10 minute conversation. In the past, this bothered me. Now, I don't give a ****.
MY PROBLEM is still the following: going for the same day close. I have a tendency to eject too early, sometimes settling for the quick phone number (which I am now forcing myself to consider a failure) instead of continuing the conversation beyond the point of "comfort." Just today, I had a co-ed giving me the "**** me" eyes but I ejected after a pleasant conversation. Very dumb, and I'm still kicking myself over that.
Also, my calm and rythmic PACING of the conversation sometimes stutters...meaning I either go too slow or too fast. I need to work on this more.
In any case, would be interested in hearing THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSONS you mature DJs have learned so far which has made the most impact.
your skills. In a few weeks I'll be there, thanks to the amazing BC-experience !!!
