"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bigger Guy Fashion Tips?

the305

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Has anyone come across fashion/style articles for bigger(over weight) guys? Its really hard to find any decent ones with pictures, I have googled several times with no luck.

Any help would be appreciated, I just want the article/post.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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o/t any one see the guy who tried to get on bb who called himself world sexiest fat man thats how you gotta be confident with it
as for clothes any thing that doesnt fit tight
 

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I'll give you some simple advice, stop wearing a fat suit.
 

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Looks for pictures of Mike Lynche.

He was an American Idol contestant last year. He has a really big frame but his outfits usually worked. AI has one of the best stylists in the world so they knew what they were doing.

Also check out Styleforum.net, it's just like SS but a fashion forum.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's sexy is being in shape. Sorry, I know, tough love. But put in the work, and reap major rewards later.

First Step
 

the305

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i asked for articles on heavier set men in regards to style of dress, not a "just go to the gym and lose weight".

I know people who would like the immediate results of "looking better" as they work on the long term goal of losing weight.

one person gave valid info, and I appreciate it... this forum is cringe worthy at times.
 

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nice clothes dont help fat people. you could dress up a pig in gucci from head to toe but its still a fat pig.
 

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also if the person is losing weight theres no point in wasting money on clothes now because it wont fit in a couple months.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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there is a reason you don't see 300 people in GQ man.

hit the gym./
 

Drum&Bass

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actionjaxson said:
nice clothes dont help fat people. you could dress up a pig in gucci from head to toe but its still a fat pig.
^^^^^^^ THIS

looks like its gonna be mumu's and track suits till that weight comes off son.

Fashion 1


fashion 2
 

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*slow clap*

way to give advice guys.

Hey! I'm an overweight guy whose hitting the gym 5 days a week. I've lost 10 lbs so far, but I'm still overweight, and want to lose another 30ish.What styles can i wear right now?

You still going to tell me to hit the gym? or are you telling me I can't dress up nice?

I agree on the occasional "cringe worthy" statement.
 

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pretty much keep it to gym clothes. i at once went from 250 almost to 155 at my lowest. i'm 175ish now but i have some muscle to me.

dont' bother buying clothes. you will burn your wallet.

i went from a size 39 ish to a size 31 wiest.

if anything buy some cheap jeans, 1 pair just if you have to go somewhere but i b ought a **** load of gym clothes and just wore them around until i got where i wanted to be.

i was not always big, the majority of my life i was a 33 ish and when i got close to that i could wear my old clothes again
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I read an article in the times that I posted in tips. It's about a new category of menswear called shapewear. It's basically underclothes that are very supportive and help to even out size that is becoming very popular. Check it out.
 

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backbreaker said:
dont' bother buying clothes. you will burn your wallet.
^^^ EXACTLY. You're fat, you buys nice clothes, you lose weight, 2 months later those "nice" clothes don't fit you any more. If you put your mind to it and are willing to go through so pain, you CAN lose a lot of weight extremely quickly.
 

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lol, "your fat". lol. man that's blunt.

but yeah, i had nitted like 5 pounds a month here or there, then i went from like 220 to like 170 in less than 3 months. it's not hard, but it does take discipline that the avg person does not have. weight will melt like butter and so will clothes. i remember i bought like 10 pair of 32 inch pants thinking i was done i had never been smaller than that and 2 weeks later, literally, i was walking in the mall having to pull up my pants every 10 steps because they were falling off.

wait until you are 100% happy with your size. until then just deal with it.
 

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This community has completely gone to shit.

OP has made his question very clear; I'm heavy-set, I plan on losing weight, how can I dress well in the mean time?

All he gets is a chorus of "lose weight and exercise". HE KNOWS THAT.

Nobody gives constructive advice anymore, nobody focuses on solutions, and nobody acknowledges what the OP says conceptually. Every thread on SS turns into pointless forum-speak and unrelated "this how I'm superior to you" rants.

If you're not going to answer his question, get out of the thread.
 

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I'm trying to think but it's so much easier to dress overweight girls slimmer than it is to dress overweight guys slimmer. How much do you weigh? In stones (not pounds)?

Basically with women it's all about the hourglass shape and with guys it's always about the V shape, so perhaps clothes that broaden your shoulders to balance out your body. When I was a school there was a teacher that the girls swooned for, he wasn't particularly hot but he was quite charismatic, he was overweight but in a suit, with the suit jacket on (broadening the shoulders), he looked good, it really suited him.

I think it also depends on your face shape, one of my friends has a really round face and chubby cheeks but her body is really slim. But you still don't think of her as skinny because of her face. The teacher I mentioned didn't have too much weight around his face, so he didn't seem as overweight as he was, especially with his suit on.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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