"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bigger frames, broad shoulders, not muscle, attract women?

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I've noticed that some dudes are genetically predisposition ed to be broad shouldered or overall big without even working out.

I know this one dude, 6'7", that before he met his g/f, she considered him a "man-*****", he had no problem getting the ladies. Very BIG guy, overall, but a major doughboy.

Not really fat, just doughy. Some guys could be broad shouldered like their fathers before them vs small framed men.

So with all the talk about working out to attract women could have nothing to do with being in shape?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Likely just the same way some men have the genetics to be universally attractive. Some woman goes off on you for looking down her low cut blouse, fine. Do you think she'd go off on Leonardo DiCaprio? Brad Pitt? You see the point.
 

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Likely just the same way some men have the genetics to be universally attractive. Some woman goes off on you for looking down her low cut blouse, fine. Do you think she'd go off on Leonardo DiCaprio? Brad Pitt? You see the point.
I partially get what you mean, but not sure what my post has a woman going off on you for looking at her low cut blouse.
 

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I've noticed that some dudes are genetically predisposition ed to be broad shouldered or overall big without even working out.

I know this one dude, 6'7", that before he met his g/f, she considered him a "man-*****", he had no problem getting the ladies. Very BIG guy, overall, but a major doughboy.

Not really fat, just doughy. Some guys could be broad shouldered like their fathers before them vs small framed men.

So with all the talk about working out to attract women could have nothing to do with being in shape?
I wouldn't say being in shape doesn't matter. It's just that some guys have a certain broad or stocky physical frame that attracts women, even if they aren't toned or low body fat.

I know a stocky 5'8" guy who doesn't work out, but pulls like a 6'2" toned guy.
 

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Go to Europe, stick figures pull 10s
Not really. I am surounded by gym heroes in my little country, and if you dont know everyone on facebook girls are turned off a lot. A friend of mine who left the country and settled in Texas said he couldnt believe the ugly skinny fat guys he saw with hot women so I guess its no excuse. Social circle game is everything, specially when you get to the smaller European countries like in Scandinavia where I am from.

I think we want to believe its better somewhere else but its pretty much an instinct driven game also here in the western world. Status, physique, and money, specially as you get older. Its just an INSANE competition where u must be among the top % of men to be desired or go home with average or below girls.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm a 5'9"guy, large framed guy it has some advantages and disadvantage, I don't have the body builder V shape my hips and legs are big no way I could ever wear skinny jeans. I intimidate people because of my size I don't mean too but I do, but I do like the fact I'm built the way I'm not many people phuck with me. I always laugh when a woman that has a boyfriend are flirting with me, their boyfriend gets jealous and want to try start something with me then they realize they better not. It is amusing how this guys want to try show off in front of their girlfriend acting tough then back off when they realize I have hands the size of baseball mitts. I do enjoy the woman flirting I make the smile nothing comes of it I walk away laughing to myself.
 

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Mate of mine is 6'1" broad shoulders dude, big jaw, big hands.

He's slightly chubby but he does get good pulls, he is naturally big and strong.

He has to be careful though because he's genetically a fatty and it'll catch him up.
 

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I was very scrawny with a small frame when I started lifting. My shoulders were anything but broad. But I started full body exercises and I liked to hit my deltoids hard, because I noticed having big delts that popped made my shoulders look more broad, and made me look bigger overall. I thought this made a bigger difference for me than the more usual "glamour" muscles, the abs, biceps, and triceps.
 
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