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[aznflexxx]

Hey,

I had a problem which I am not sure that can be helped, just looking for anything I can get as advice. I just recently found out that my ex-gf is pregnant. Here is the thing, we broke up on very bad terms and she is overreacting and completely hates my guts as of right now. I think it is retarded because I didn't cheat on her or hit her, I jus said some nasty things in a letter and that was it... and shes holding it against me for over a month. Anyways, the problem is she will NOT under any circumstances talk to me anymore. I had to basically leave a msg saying its an emergency for her to call back so I could even ask if she was pregnant or not (I had a feeling she might have been), and she said she was, I was in shock. Ok, so right now she is completely ignoring me not pickin up any calls or respondin to anything (she said the last time we talked would be out last), and I really want to know wats goin on in her mind, like she said shes actaully thought about keeping the baby but is pretty sure about the abortion, but pretty sure jsut isnt good enough in this situation if u know wat i mean, i dont want to find out 10 years later i have a child! She is crazy too, she wasnt even goin to tell me she was pregnant if i didnt call her, she told me this. Ok so any advice or thoughts or solutions will be great.

o yea an she lives like 2 hours away and i was thinkin bout just driving over an waitin outside her house but i dunno how she will react or if she will even be at home (she has a hectic work schedule).

thanks.

 

[GuitarPlayer]

I'll give it a 75% chance that she wants to put you through some mental hell and she's not really pregnant.

Call her bluff; tell her that is she's pregnant, she's on her own and that's tough cookies. Tell her you'll fight her toth and claw if she tries anything. *IF* she's bluffing, maybe that'll make her back off.

 

[aznflexxx]

Ok, heres the thing, I really don't see her as someone that would do that, she is in her thirties and is already a single mom (the other dad has 0% involvement with the kid). She told me that she did not expect me to be involved or be responsible for anything, but I can't trust her on that completely, and also I would rahter not have a kid I don't know about. O yea, I am still in college so you can see why I do not want a kid yet.

More info - She is really against abortion, but we talked about it while we were together an she agreed to have on if she ever got pregnant by me since I was so young, but now shes saying she has 2nd thoughts becuase she is emotional from the pregnancy, AHHHH help haha.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She could be lying about being pregnant, or it could be someone else's kid. If you have a job or any money, I would expect her to file papers to get child support if it is really your kid. I'm guessing that she is not pregnant. She probably just wants to get a strong reaction out of you so that she can pretend to do the opposite of what you want.

As to whether or not you should go over there, no would be the answer. Nothing good can come out of it. You are trespassing if you do it once and stalking as soon as you do it again. If she is crazy and hates you, she could call the police and say that you beat her. If she injures her face on purpose while the police are on the way, you will go to jail and could be a convicted violent felon for the rest of your life, because hell hath no fury like a crazy b!tch scorned.

 

[aznflexxx]

Ok, about her not being pregnant, I have thought about it but I think it is highly unlikely because I talked to her for over an hour about the pregnancy the last time we talked. Also I know she visited the doctor numerous times.

 

[aznflexxx]

no one else has any advice or thoughts? i can't enjoy anythin with this lingering.