Big Time Jealousy Test

[crack_her]

This one spans a couple of threads. "Low IL... What to do?" Here.

Anyway, this girl that I've dated and cut contact with for 8 days (because of low IL) showed up at my favorite bar that my friends and I hang out last night. She brought along 3 guy friends. She knows I hang there every Sunday night and that it's my favorite place to go (I go there approx. 5 nights a week), yet they pick that bar out of the many they could go to. She never goes there except one other time that I took her.

At first, I was very upset. I must admit that it hurt so much my eyes started to water. Then I realized that it was a TEST. She's trying to make me jealous, GUYS! But I pulled myself together and acted normal and unphased by it all. I sang the crowd favorite "This Love" by Maroon 5 - HOW APPROPRIATE, it's about a guy who dumps his girl because she keeps leaving him (BTW, I sing it very well and always get requests to do that song). She came over to small talk, but that was it.

I left the same time as they did and she came out to my car. We had a short dicussion on when she worked next (she works at another bar we go to) and she said that she'd call me tomorrow - which is today. I'm not going to expect a call from her because she sounded like BS.

What I want to know is whether she showed up just to make me upset, or is she still interested? Or, what do you DJ's make of this?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Crack head,

You are getting too emotionally involved with a girl who you are not involved with!!!

Take it easy - didn't you say she wanted to have a relationship with you and you said no? Now you are going bananas to get her interested in you again!!

A girl striding along with 3 guys by her side coming to a bar, hmm what to make of it? If she wanted to make you jealous, I would think to show up at the bar with one guy would be more effective! No woman can upset a man unless the man allows such an invasion to infiltrate his mind and heart!

She is not your girl, so you should not make demands on her. Again, wait a week or so and if she doesn't call you then be straightforward with her and ask her out and let this answer determine your involvement with her!

Maybe she is looking for another man since you rejected her the first time!

 

[crack_her]

Take it easy - didn't you say she wanted to have a relationship with you and you said no? Now you are going bananas to get her interested in you again!!

Yep! Proper fvck! But I only said no because it was too early and I didn't know her well enough to make that commitment. That's when she started turning cold on me.

Maybe she is looking for another man since you rejected her the first time!

OUCH! Well, let's wait and see if she calls tonight like she said. This chick is the most challenging one I've ever come across - so I need to make sure I don't blunder somewhere down the road.

BTW, I was there with these 2 hotties, yes hotter than her. They are only my friends and not my type (she knows they are only my friends). We drink together regularly and they help with my DJ'ing a lot and make me look good. One of my hot friends (the hotter one HB9) knew the guys she was with and started flirting with them. I was cracking up - enjoying the show. I don't think she was too happy about it too. Later, my HB9 girl friend held me with her arm around my neck and whisper to me before I walked outside to talk to her, "DO NOT LOSE YOUR GAME - IF YOU CHASE HER, SHE'LL GET TURNED OFF".

 

[crack_her]

Take it easy - didn't you say she wanted to have a relationship with you and you said no? Now you are going bananas to get her interested in you again!!

Yep! Proper fvck! But I only said no because it was too early and I didn't know her well enough to make that commitment. That's when she started turning cold on me.

Maybe she is looking for another man since you rejected her the first time!

OUCH! Well, let's wait and see if she calls tonight like she said. This chick is the most challenging one I've ever come across - so I need to make sure I don't blunder somewhere down the road.

BTW, I was there with these 2 hotties, yes hotter than her. They are only my friends and not my type (she knows they are only my friends). We drink together regularly and they help with my DJ'ing a lot and make me look good. One of my hot friends (the hotter one HB9) knew the guys she was with and started flirting with them. I was cracking up - enjoying the show. I don't think she wasn't too happy about it - I could tell. Later, my HB9 girl friend held me with her arm around my neck and whispered to me before I walked outside to talk to her, "DO NOT LOSE YOUR GAME - IF YOU CHASE HER, SHE'LL GET TURNED OFF".

 

[crack_her]

She didn't call. I kinda knew she wasn't going to. I'm not upset about it like I'd thought I'd be though.

Tomorrow night I'm going over to her bar and throw a Jumbo Jack on the table (they let you bring in your own food there), eat my dinner, ask for a drink, give her a big kiss, say "I came to see you", smile up a storm and then leave.

Women's tests, they aren't going to break me - NEVER!