Hi guys, here is the problem. I have known this woman for almost 6 months. Truly started out as friends, but there was always an attraction there. Some things happened where I actually have moved in to her place. I am a truck driver, so I am not there much. When I am we are together constantly. When I'm on the road we talk just about every day, sometime a couple of times a day. She usually calls me, but I do call her too. Just depends on the day I guess... People always assume we are a couple, even her closest friends and family. I want to move our relationship on in a more physical way, but there seems to be something stopping it. I occasionally will touch her when she is sitting next to me, we are playfully touch each other etc... But almost every night when we are just chilling out, she will usually NOT sit next to me, but she will sit in VERY provocative ways. Also, She seems to avoid giving me compliments. I am not sure what is going on... I know she has been testing me in a bunch of different ways, and at first it was irritating, but now it is rather humerous to me, and I don't give her an inch. I really care for her and want to move the relationship on, so I don't want to screw up the timing, which is my biggest concern. I know she cares for me enough to give me a lot of slack, but there still will be a finite point. What should I do? Thanks
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
You're living in HER house, she's holding all the cards. One wrong step and you're OUT of there. From what you've said, she might be waiting for you to make a move on her.
OR you could go the other way...ask her if it's okay for you to have other chicks sleep over!
Her reaction will tell you if she's interested in you.
Good Luck!
OR you could go the other way...ask her if it's okay for you to have other chicks sleep over!
Her reaction will tell you if she's interested in you.Good Luck!
You must be blind to not have caught those IOIs she was throwing at you. I am reading this post wondering why you haven't made any moves yet. Pretty soon she will get bored with that poised attitude of yours and decide to evict you. Think about it for a second, why would she offer to have you move in if she was not looking for anything physical. All the signals you outline here point to that direction : "we are playfully touch each other" and "but she will sit in VERY provocative ways". Why the hell do you overemphasize trivial matters like: "she will usually NOT sit next to me" or "She seems to avoid giving me compliments"? Does everything have to be perfect in order for you to muster up some courage and go up to her? Really!! man pull yourself together and make a move on her before it is too late.
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Well, I am pretty stupid when it comes to women. I assume that when she says something, that is what she means... I know, stupid me, right? You are all right, I need to just do something, I just don't really know what... I mean, is it alright to just grab her and kiss her or what should I do? I really don't know. I am used to chicks coming on to me a hell of a lot more and not the "hard to get thing" Never done it. Don't know how it works. That is what I am really trying to find out here. What do I do, specifically?... Things are really going very cool with all other aspects of the relationship, just not physical... Wierd. Thanks for your input guys.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.