Hi guys, here is the problem. I have known this woman for almost 6 months. Truly started out as friends, but there was always an attraction there. Some things happened where I actually have moved in to her place. I am a truck driver, so I am not there much. When I am we are together constantly. When I'm on the road we talk just about every day, sometime a couple of times a day. She usually calls me, but I do call her too. Just depends on the day I guess... People always assume we are a couple, even her closest friends and family. I want to move our relationship on in a more physical way, but there seems to be something stopping it. I occasionally will touch her when she is sitting next to me, we are playfully touch each other etc... But almost every night when we are just chilling out, she will usually NOT sit next to me, but she will sit in VERY provocative ways. Also, She seems to avoid giving me compliments. I am not sure what is going on... I know she has been testing me in a bunch of different ways, and at first it was irritating, but now it is rather humerous to me, and I don't give her an inch. I really care for her and want to move the relationship on, so I don't want to screw up the timing, which is my biggest concern. I know she cares for me enough to give me a lot of slack, but there still will be a finite point. What should I do? Thanks
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
You're living in HER house, she's holding all the cards. One wrong step and you're OUT of there. From what you've said, she might be waiting for you to make a move on her.
OR you could go the other way...ask her if it's okay for you to have other chicks sleep over!
Her reaction will tell you if she's interested in you.
Good Luck!
OR you could go the other way...ask her if it's okay for you to have other chicks sleep over!
Her reaction will tell you if she's interested in you.Good Luck!
You must be blind to not have caught those IOIs she was throwing at you. I am reading this post wondering why you haven't made any moves yet. Pretty soon she will get bored with that poised attitude of yours and decide to evict you. Think about it for a second, why would she offer to have you move in if she was not looking for anything physical. All the signals you outline here point to that direction : "we are playfully touch each other" and "but she will sit in VERY provocative ways". Why the hell do you overemphasize trivial matters like: "she will usually NOT sit next to me" or "She seems to avoid giving me compliments"? Does everything have to be perfect in order for you to muster up some courage and go up to her? Really!! man pull yourself together and make a move on her before it is too late.
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Well, I am pretty stupid when it comes to women. I assume that when she says something, that is what she means... I know, stupid me, right? You are all right, I need to just do something, I just don't really know what... I mean, is it alright to just grab her and kiss her or what should I do? I really don't know. I am used to chicks coming on to me a hell of a lot more and not the "hard to get thing" Never done it. Don't know how it works. That is what I am really trying to find out here. What do I do, specifically?... Things are really going very cool with all other aspects of the relationship, just not physical... Wierd. Thanks for your input guys.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.