Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Damn, what should I do?
there is this girl, she is 16 and im her first boyfriend, im 19. the girl is really hot though, she is gorgeous and she is a wonderful person.
at first, i was going with her for 2 months, but then i broke up, and she cried and cried for a month (serious stuff this here), then some f*cking how i hooked up with her again.

now she says she LOVES me, she never told me that our "first relationship" and i really like the girl, so i said i love her too, and she melted. =(

she says: if we break up again, she has nothing to live for.

i wanna break up with her before this summer, i like the girl and all, but i just cant deal with a relationship. and my relationship to her is REALLY REALLY close, we meet almost every day etc.

i like her and all but i dont wanna get stuck with her, i wanna go have fun etc.
so how should i break up? any good tips? thanks alot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you don't want her to commit suicide when you dump her, tell her that you will kill yourself if she kills herself and that if she really loved you she wouldn't be so distraught and absorbed with thoughts of suicide, because in a indirect sense she will be commiting homocide when you take your life because of her suicidal actions! If she really loves you then she wouldn't destroy her life for your sake! :rolleyes:

Comprende?
 

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if you choose to keep with her. its your choice.

if you choose to get out. its your choice.

if she chooses to kill herself, its her choice you have nothing to do with it. She makes her decisions you make yours.
 

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damn, girl sounds pretty needy. one method i have heard for situations like this is to get her to break up with you! Here is what you can do, we all know being a complete AFC can really kill the flame. Go AFC on her ass (hopefully she doesn't like it). The best way to do that is to always ask her what she wants to do, and whenever she asks you, tell her you don't know. Ask her for her opinion of everthing, have no opinion of your own, also, stop having sex with her. Tell her you think that you want to see if your relationship is based solely on being physical. HAHAHAA. This has to work, shell get sick of it for sure. Borrow money, mouch off of her, shell hate it. She breaks up with you, and you win!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by b's nuts
damn, girl sounds pretty needy. one method i have heard for situations like this is to get her to break up with you! Here is what you can do, we all know being a complete AFC can really kill the flame. Go AFC on her ass (hopefully she doesn't like it). The best way to do that is to always ask her what she wants to do, and whenever she asks you, tell her you don't know. Ask her for her opinion of everthing, have no opinion of your own, also, stop having sex with her. Tell her you think that you want to see if your relationship is based solely on being physical. HAHAHAA. This has to work, shell get sick of it for sure. Borrow money, mouch off of her, shell hate it. She breaks up with you, and you win!

this will never work, im with her almost every day, she knows exactly how im thinking etc, she knows me already, she knows that wouldn't be the real me and that i can change back. and this girl comes from a society in the upper parts of sweden, she recently moved here, so she doesnt know much about the big world. she doesn't even got cable tv so that she could get life experience from tv. thats why she'll keep me. im like her everything, she moved here 2 years ago so she has like 10 friends maximum, and only 2 of them are tight friends. and she doesn't go out that much because she is only 16 so she cant go clubbing or something like that.
this tactic wont work.
 

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Its ok she will get over it and then do it again and again you are just the firast in a long chain. Forget her she is just as selfish as anyone else.
 

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Well, if you don't want to dump her but don't want to be with her, get dumped. Basically act in such a way that doen't upset her, nor ruin your rep, but makes her not want to go out w/ you anymore.
...or just dump her nicely.
 
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