big problem

[somebody]

hey guys..
i always feel down when i'm at home..
with my friends i'm ok..
i know this is something to do with my inner game..
i have tried many techniques..
read your forums..
this thing started long when i'm in secondary school..
in school i didnt have many friends and shy..
i am 19 years old and i dont want to ruin my life..
i see my friends happy with themselves(or appearing happy), having a girlfriend and not me..
i want to live a happy life..
somehow i dont have the confidence to do things..
is this normal?
i cant handle stress too..
call me a wuss..
i started learning about this game thingy since october 2007 and now its july 2008 and i'm still not confident with myself, haven't gone out with a girl and still have some insecurities..
how can some people do it so easily and i feel like so slow getting "life"..
got some advice?

 

[02hero]

Hey man, the first thing you need to do is accept it and realise that you are not alone in the way you feel.
I'm not very good at writing paragraphs and paragraphs of helpful advice but there is plenty of amazing stuff here regarding inner game. I will recommend 2 books that changed me for the better though, The Power of Now and A New Earth both by Eckhart Tolle.
I apologise to you if you have already read them but if you haven't they will change your life for the better.
You'll be OK fella.

 

[somebody]

thanks mate..
another thing is when i'm with guys i feel left out cause they will be talking and laughing and i dont have anything to say and i would be afraid what they would think of me so i keep quiet and feel isolated after a while..
its even worse with women as i cant act normally and just keep quiet which cant spark attraction..
its true what you said to accept myself for who i am..
i also have bad feelings towards my family as i was left by my mum when i was small at my granny's and my cousin would get all the attention when their mum comes back and i was hit before by my aunt when i was 7 years old because i tried to ran away from home to find my mum..
i know this sounds wussy but i just had to let it out..
it still hurts though thinking of it..
i still have to accept that what my aunt did was good for me as i shouldnt have ran away..

do you know any good threads that deal with this inner game issue?

 

[02hero]

The thing is fella, there is nothing anyone can do about their past, but the decisions you make NOW will affect your future.
Everything that has happened to you has brought you to this place which believe me when I say this is a damn good thing, I've only just started to post here myself but if you do a search on Inner Game or read threads by Kontroller, Interceptor, Pook and Karma you won't go far wrong.
Oh and as for being quiet cannot cause attraction, have you not heard of the strong, silent type?
The books I suggested to you will help you to stop having harmful conversations with yourself ad instead your mind will quieten and you will find it easier to relate to others.

 

[somebody]

thanks man..