BIG obstacle!

[rapsta]

Hey fellas. I'm with this girl, I've been with her for 3 months now. I like her. I dunno, maybe I'm afc, but I care for this girl.
Maybe I should grow some balls? I dunno right now.

The thing is. Her brother told me once to stay away from her or there would be huge problems.
Today her brother saw her with me, walking outside. He stopped the car and got out, his temper was out of control. He almost wanted to fight me, but something stopped him. I just stood there calmly and didn't show no reactions to fear.

The thing is, I kinda respect him, because he is her brother and don't want her to be with guys. Now this girl is 18 years old and it's not againgst her religion to be with guys.
It's probably just because her brother can't stand the picture of her having sex with guys. I dunno? But the previous time he met me he asked what we had done.. i responded nothing, just kisses.

Today he called me, i missed the call and then called back.
This is how the conversation went..
Me: hey you called
Him: yeah where are you i wanna meet you
Me: listen to me, whats your problem with me? is it because the rumours you've heard or she isn't allowed to have a boyfriend?
Him: listen, don't cause any trouble, just stay away from her
Me: the thing is, i like your sister
Him: dont tell me that, it just makes me upset
Me: ok well im off to work, peace
Him: call me later, i wanna meet you and talk to you about this

I didn't call him because I wanted his sister to talk to him first, so he'll probably call me tomorrow, after his sister has spoken to him.. but I don't think it will change his picture of the whole thing.


Now I need to know.. what would you guys do in this situation? What is a DJ expected to do here? seriously? I need advice bad for this one..

 

[rapsta]

bump! cmon..

 

[MightyMate]

Well You dont have to respect him. You are wuth his sister not with him. Rememeber that. Just tell her You dont like behaviour of her brother and that it pisses You off.

 

[GSXR RiDeR]

First off i have had this talk from a couple of older brothers of ex girlfriends of mine so i know the situation your in. I also have an 18yr old sister who i am a little protective off (not to the extent of the guy your refering to) so i can see where he is coming from also.

Go and talk to her bro in person just the 2 of you (it shows him your not a ***** or scared of him) and explain to him that you actually care about his sister and your not just out to fu(k her and then dump her. Show him that your a good guy and the kind of guy that is worthy (in his eyes) of dating his sister. Let him know that you understand why he is trying to protect his little sister but she is old enough to make her own decisions about who she dates. If you show him respect you are more than likley going to get it back, he is probably worried that his sister is going to end up with dumb ass who will break her heart. Once you prove your not that guy you and him might even get along and be friends.

 

[rapsta]

Yeah I was thinking of saying that to him today. But the second I met him, he hit me in the head a couple of times. I didn't hit back because I thought it would end up in a f*cking catastrophy in the long run. So I let him punch my face a couple of times, I had to get 2 stiches in the inside of my upper lip at the hospital. And I told him that I wouldn't see his sister anymore.

F*ck! this is all a f*cking mess.

This guy cannot reason. He isn't even listening to what I have to say. And he will want to fight with me another time probably if I see him drunk downtown some weekend or something.

What would you MEN do now? advice pls.

EDIT: He also told me that he wanted to kill me, and that he wanted to bring a baseball bat to our "meeting".

And he got the impression that I was afraid of him.

 

[rapsta]

bump! anyone please?

 

[tmpgstx]

Tell him you'll take that bat and stick it up his azz and turn him into a popcicle. This guy sounds like a punk. Do not be intimidated. Tell him you like and treat his sister good and if he can't deal with it, then you'll do whatever is necessary to keep him off your back - and that includes a first class ass-beating or (if you feel you can't take him) a restraining order.

 

[rapsta]

Originally posted by tmpgstx
Tell him you'll take that bat and stick it up his azz and turn him into a popcicle. This guy sounds like a punk. Do not be intimidated. Tell him you like and treat his sister good and if he can't deal with it, then you'll do whatever is necessary to keep him off your back - and that includes a first class ass-beating or (if you feel you can't take him) a restraining order.

Hmm sure, I can beat him in a man to man fight. But if he brings bats/knives/guns I'm not so sure if I can beat him with my bare hands. Or if they come 4-5 guys againgst me alone. This guy seems to have some brain damage. You can't talk to him and reason with him, he loses his temper in no time.

Anyone else got other advice?

 

[rapsta]

bump bump bump!

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

This guy is obviously troubled...

The feeling I get is that he probably will NEVER let any guy get with his sister, no matter who he is. I'd tell your girl that her bro is gonna be a real problem, if she ever wants to go out with guys, and that SHE should say/do something about it. She's old enough to do what she wants, and he has absolutley no right to do or say anything to the contrary.

You won't be able to reason with guys like this. They don't use logic, so trying to instill some in him won't work. A good beating would, though...... at least you'd show him you're not afraid of him. If you think he'd try and kill you or some sh!t then he is obviously in need of real phsycolgical help and I would just back away. Why would you want to be with a girl who has a brother like this? It'll never go smoothly, ever. Just get out of it.

 

[MacAvoy]

Heres what I would do. I would go see the sister immediately, show her all the wounds that you acquired defending her and your love for her.

Get her to care for your cuts & bruises, make your moves on her as normal.

After your done, leave, call her brother and tell him thanks for his help getting his sister to look after all cuts, bruises among other things.

 

[MightyMate]

You forgot what honour is? You bet up the guy or You gonna look liek a *****. Even if You wont have this chick other chicks gonna know how lame have You acted. Go there and beat him up like a man!

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Go there and beat him up like a man

Under normal circumstances, I'd agree with this... but if this guy is as unstable as he appears, I would just turn around and walk away. Chances are that beating him once won't end it... he'll probably show up the next time with a knife or a gun and then you've got some real problems.


It all depends on what kinda vibe this guy gives off. Is he just over-protective or is he plain fvcking nuts?

 

[rapsta]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
Under normal circumstances, I'd agree with this... but if this guy is as unstable as he appears, I would just turn around and walk away. Chances are that beating him once won't end it... he'll probably show up the next time with a knife or a gun and then you've got some real problems.


It all depends on what kinda vibe this guy gives off. Is he just over-protective or is he plain fvcking nuts?

not sure man.. he is unstable yes. he can't control himself. the vibe that he gives off is being some kind of a badass. i dunno if he is just overprotective or plain fvcking nuts, perhaps both.

 

[rapsta]

plus, a friend of mine told me that he is doing coke.

EDIT: how is fighting a guy who is high on coke? more info: the people he hangs with are also using cocaine.

 

[h2o]

never been in such a situation

...but i think i can relate with the brother.

i am similarly very overprotective of my sister, and even when she's had guy friends come over the house just for birthday parties, i still feel a bit suspicious of them and whatnot.

come on, who ever has a little sister is usually a bit overprotective.

ever seen bad boysII with will smith, and they practically scare to death martin lawrence's daughter's date for the night. funny scene, but a lot critics thought it was disturbing and overdone.

i didn't think so.

so...if my little sister was dating some guy...i would appreciate it if they guy came and had a talk with me. you should do something nice for the guy...watch a football game with him or something

why is there always so much violence advocated on this board, i don't know. most people who really know how to fight, avoid fights as much as possible, because sometimes they're afraid of they're own immeasurable strength. i am not a big dude...pretty skinny actually, but in fights, i usually go wild and that's why i avoid them, because i know if i was pushed enough, i might just kill someone. avoid violence man, that's the stupid route.

so, yeah, try to be friends with the brother.

btw, do they come from an american family? if they are middle-eastern or greek or italian, then i definitely understand. still though, try that out man. genuinely see why this guy is so upset...get some rational response from him.

i know that once my sis is off to college next fall, i won't be able to watch over her like i can now, so she's bound to start dating and stuff. it's just, as an older brother, and especially in a country like this where just the other day some 18yr old dude shoots his 14yr-old gf's parents for her curfew(?!), and rapists/murderers/kidnappers all over the place...of course we have reason to be concerned. especially if she has a lot going for her. and even more so especially for me, because a few of my relatives have been shot and killed, so being extra cautious is never bad.

get the back story. try to see where this guy is coming from. by being violent, you will only make him more protective. you'll prove him right. i don't think any real man would do that.

good luck

 

[rapsta]

Originally posted by h2o
never been in such a situation

...but i think i can relate with the brother.

i am similarly very overprotective of my sister, and even when she's had guy friends come over the house just for birthday parties, i still feel a bit suspicious of them and whatnot.

come on, who ever has a little sister is usually a bit overprotective.

ever seen bad boysII with will smith, and they practically scare to death martin lawrence's daughter's date for the night. funny scene, but a lot critics thought it was disturbing and overdone.

i didn't think so.

so...if my little sister was dating some guy...i would appreciate it if they guy came and had a talk with me. you should do something nice for the guy...watch a football game with him or something

why is there always so much violence advocated on this board, i don't know. most people who really know how to fight, avoid fights as much as possible, because sometimes they're afraid of they're own immeasurable strength. i am not a big dude...pretty skinny actually, but in fights, i usually go wild and that's why i avoid them, because i know if i was pushed enough, i might just kill someone. avoid violence man, that's the stupid route.

so, yeah, try to be friends with the brother.

btw, do they come from an american family? if they are middle-eastern or greek or italian, then i definitely understand. still though, try that out man. genuinely see why this guy is so upset...get some rational response from him.

i know that once my sis is off to college next fall, i won't be able to watch over her like i can now, so she's bound to start dating and stuff. it's just, as an older brother, and especially in a country like this where just the other day some 18yr old dude shoots his 14yr-old gf's parents for her curfew(?!), and rapists/murderers/kidnappers all over the place...of course we have reason to be concerned. especially if she has a lot going for her. and even more so especially for me, because a few of my relatives have been shot and killed, so being extra cautious is never bad.

get the back story. try to see where this guy is coming from. by being violent, you will only make him more protective. you'll prove him right. i don't think any real man would do that.

good luck

h2o, there is no way this can ever happen.
I told you it is impossible to reason with this guy if you are on his wrong foot. I dunno how the hell he is thinking.

 

[Lost In Translation]

sorry rapsta i didn't get to help you in time

from your first post i knew he was going to attack you

thats what he was planning with "we have to meet"

he had premeditated attacking you

i was going to tell you not to meet him

you are lucky he didn't have 5 friends with him

i was expecting him to bring 5 friends

so you got off lightly


NOW WHERE YOU F*CKED UP :

In the beginning it's about respect

dumb coked out animals learn respect only one way

FEAR / VIOLENCE

you should have challenged him from the start

as soon as he said you cant see her

i would have told him i will do as i please

then if he had come at me i would have given him a decent beating

taken him to the ground to control him and stop any real punches

and beaten and twisted him until he screamed for mercy

no brusies no blood no marks for police to see

a mans pride can handle being punched

to humble a man all you have to do is pin him in such a way that he is powerless and let him know you hold his life in your hands

few punches to the stomach ( no bruises ) with a free hand to let him know that you could be punching his b*tch head if you didn't think he would run to the cops


he cannot be talked down or reasoned with

its not the coke

its him


violence you must break him

the idiot thinks he is a bully and you some little weak kid that he can push around

why ?

becaue you let him think that now the problem is out of control


there is a line and no b*tch is worth getting killed over but i think some pain is in order to correct his thinking

STOP MEETING PEOPLE

any time of of your enemies says they want to meet you its a trap

so many dumb mutha f*ckers on this board some guy says meet me at party they turn up and the dude is on coke holding a knife

STOP WALKING INTO TRAPS

YOU chose the time and place of battle

personally i would conduct other operations against him

he is weak minded so i would SCARE HIM

the old jump out from bushes when he is getting into his car

you are wearing a balaclava and holding a tomahawk/hammer

act crazy

if all else fails dump the chick or get your friends to beat him up


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

" stop being insecure " i hate that saying. it's a cop out for not having enough balls to confront a woman about what she is doing THAT IS WRONG or potentially damaging to a long term relationship. – Lost In Translation

 

[h2o]

Originally posted by rapsta
h2o, there is no way this can ever happen.
I told you it is impossible to reason with this guy if you are on his wrong foot. I dunno how the hell he is thinking.

well, in that case, sorry. i honestly wouldn't know what to do. just be careful man.

 

[rapsta]

Originally posted by Lost In Translation
sorry rapsta i didn't get to help you in time

from your first post i knew he was going to attack you

thats what he was planning with "we have to meet"

he had premeditated attacking you

i was going to tell you not to meet him

you are lucky he didn't have 5 friends with him

i was expecting him to bring 5 friends

so you got off lightly


NOW WHERE YOU F*CKED UP :

In the beginning it's about respect

dumb coked out animals learn respect only one way

FEAR / VIOLENCE

you should have challenged him from the start

as soon as he said you cant see her

i would have told him i will do as i please

then if he had come at me i would have given him a decent beating

taken him to the ground to control him and stop any real punches

and beaten and twisted him until he screamed for mercy

no brusies no blood no marks for police to see

a mans pride can handle being punched

to humble a man all you have to do is pin him in such a way that he is powerless and let him know you hold his life in your hands

few punches to the stomach ( no bruises ) with a free hand to let him know that you could be punching his b*tch head if you didn't think he would run to the cops


he cannot be talked down or reasoned with

its not the coke

its him


violence you must break him

the idiot thinks he is a bully and you some little weak kid that he can push around

why ?

becaue you let him think that now the problem is out of control


there is a line and no b*tch is worth getting killed over but i think some pain is in order to correct his thinking

STOP MEETING PEOPLE

any time of of your enemies says they want to meet you its a trap

so many dumb mutha f*ckers on this board some guy says meet me at party they turn up and the dude is on coke holding a knife

STOP WALKING INTO TRAPS

YOU chose the time and place of battle

personally i would conduct other operations against him

he is weak minded so i would SCARE HIM

the old jump out from bushes when he is getting into his car

you are wearing a balaclava and holding a tomahawk/hammer

act crazy

if all else fails dump the chick or get your friends to beat him up


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

" stop being insecure " i hate that saying. it's a cop out for not having enough balls to confront a woman about what she is doing THAT IS WRONG or potentially damaging to a long term relationship. – Lost In Translation

Sup LIT, this is about the same girl we spoke on msn about.

1. he wouldn't report me to the police if i beat him up, he would rather come back with some friends to knife me or bat me down or maybe shoot me, i dunno. he knows where i live.

2. i'll talk to the girl tomorrow and tell her that this whole thing is never gonna work out, and that i'lll stop seeing her.

3. he will probably (most likely) want to beat me again if he sees me downtown on a saturday night out when he is drunk. this time i will beat the **** out of him not concerning the circumstances. i will get me some sap gloves in case he pulls a knife or a bat, otherwise i will use only my fists.

more info:
*we live in the same town, its a very small town here in sweden
*he is 24 years old so yes it would be immature of him to attack me again if we meet, but he will do it because it will trigger anger in his mind when he sees me

what do u think about all this?