Big in Japan - Approach journal form Tokyo and beyond

[MackMaster]

learning japanese is not nessecary. all japs learn eng in school. so they speak it about as good as we speak spanish. lol. but if you find a girl that speaks good english then your SET. i met a girl that speaks perfect english on the train to akihabara last night. i just asked her for directions (i already knew the way as soon as she said a few english words it was on like donky kong.

 

[Kal0051]

the reason I said learn japanese is because most girls won't expect you to know it. I've had a few times where 2 girls were talking about me right in front of me thinking I couldn't understand them. It's fun to see their faces when I would walk up and start a convo with them in japanese. Plus it'll make living over there easier if you know the language (though tokyo is pretty good with english and all). Kinda wish I could still speak japanese well T_T

 

[MackMaster]

i believe i have found a loophole in the system that i should share with you.

because of the culture difference i belive it is harder to get a quick smash from (most) jap girls. the loophole to this is COMMITMENT. if you make the jap girl your gameing into your "official" girlfriend, then in most cases things will progress more quickly because she will have that warm fuzzy commitment feeling inside.

so pick a girl your gaming and take her on a fun date. ask her why she doesnt have a boyfriend, bust on her about it a little, (take the power)
then ask her to be your girlfriend, (she says yes unless you suck at life) then kiss her a little. and then... WAIT!, let that fuzzy comitment feeling build a little, and then on the NEXT date... smashy smashy.

of course, you can always have more than one girlfriend

 

[Kal0051]

i believe i have found a loophole in the system that i should share with you.

because of the culture difference i belive it is harder to get a quick smash from (most) jap girls. the loophole to this is COMMITMENT. if you make the jap girl your gameing into your "official" girlfriend, then in most cases things will progress more quickly because she will have that warm fuzzy commitment feeling inside.

so pick a girl your gaming and take her on a fun date. ask her why she doesnt have a boyfriend, bust on her about it a little, (take the power)
then ask her to be your girlfriend, (she says yes unless you suck at life) then kiss her a little. and then... WAIT!, let that fuzzy comitment feeling build a little, and then on the NEXT date... smashy smashy.

of course, you can always have more than one girlfriend

yes, it's easier when they are your "girlfriend". I don't know if you guys have noticed but a lot of socializing is done in couples. I've had ppl ask me if I was lonely because I wasn't in a relationship and they would try setting me up with girls (which can be good or bad depending on your view, got annoying a few times). Most of the girls I met weren't interested in casual sex, they wanted a bf (well there are girls that want casual sex but I wasn't really interested in them).

 

[JonPleasure]

I spent 9 yrs in Japan. Had my share of beautiful Japanese women. Got engaged to one but did not marry. I am now married to a beautiful and wonderful Vietnamese lady.

Here are some rules that you need to know and must follow:

- never "hit" on a Japaneses girl when in a group esp. if Japanese men are in the group. Japanese men are expert CB's esp. against a gaijin (foreigner). You can have a conversation or strike one but no sexual inuendo of any kind.

-Play it cool. be funny. laugh alot. try to make fun of yourself but never other people. be respectful to everyone. most gaijin act like idiots and rude. dont be like them.

- try to learn the language. This phrase is good ice breaker.
"Sumimasen. Kore wa nihongo de nanto iimaska?" Excuse me, how do you say this (that) in Japanese?

- Use your gaijiness to the fullest. Ask for favors or help fromn chicks that you like to see again. be imaginative.

- once you get the girl isolated, don't get too aggressive right away but show little by little what you want from her. japanese women may look and act naive but they know what a man want. if the girl agrees to be alone with you, you are one foot in. once there, DO NOT BEAT AROUND THE BUSH. or that is all you are going to bet. GO FOR THE BUSH.

 

[drak_ool]

I'm making some progress! Went out to a club last night, did my usual thing, approaching as many girls as possible. It was insanely packed, imagine dancing inside a subway car during rush hour... But there were many single girls, I probably danced with 10 or 15 of them, got some conversation in (they mostly spoke English), and even managed to isolate one girl for a while and get to make out with her on the dancefloor, until she disappeared to find her friends and I never found her again.

For the girls I've met so far, the less I've been gaming the one chick from my class, the more interested she gets, but i feel like i'd have to put in way too much work to get something out of her. I guess I'll just make some aggressive moves right before the end of the program, if it doesn't work out at least I won't have to see her everyday after that.

I got a date with the girl that studied at my uni tonight, maybe i ll try MackMaster's "girlfriend" idea with her, she def doesn't seem like the kind of girl who ll go for a one night stand.

And friday I've invited pretty much every girl I've met so far in Tokyo to come to my b-day party at a club, I'm not sure how it will play out but it will def be a fun night!

 

[MackMaster]

wtf bro? have you busted up some tight jap snatch yet? if not, then you seriously need to start asking yourself wtf? you may be underestimating how easy it really is! jap guys are hella shy. so if you demonstrate super confidence then jap girls will immediatly be like wtf! this guy is special! i met this cutie last night, i opened her as super confident and laid back and she melted because it was literatly the first time a man had talked to her like that. (so i had no choice but to take her to a love hotel and crush her tiny jap guts... twice) but more immportiantly i had a hour and a half convo with her about the culture diffrences and what jap chicks like in gaijin men and the problems with jap dudes (she said they all have small wieners with her broke jap engish and i died laghing! ahahahaha!)

so confidence is key!
find your samurai mindset!

 

[drak_ool]

The weekend went ok, not great. Met up with a few chicks at the club on friday who I gamed last weekend, to find out that one of them has a boyfriend, another has major co.ck block friends...

The one highlight though was meeting this chick at a local bookstore. Probably 5'10, gorgeous face and really in shape, she was browsing books in the English section. I knew I had to talk to her, so when she grabbed a book by an author I like, I opened her, asking her what she thought about it.

To make a long story short, at first she wasn't really engaging, but I made some funny comments, made her laugh, got some kino going, got her contact info, gave her mine, and then I split, leaving her with a friend of mine since I was busy. Next day she txted me, I told her I couldn't go out with her that night but we set up a date for tomorrow, when I ll make my next move.

MackMaster, do you want me to give you a medal or something? I don't know what girls you're fvcking so I m not gonna talk ****, but I've talk to a few J girls who "melted", they just didn't really happen to be my type or I was gaming other girls that night.

Next week I have 5 dates set up with 5 different girls, I guess I must be doing something right? Sure, I have my fvck ups, like gaming too many girls at the same venue but not really zooming in on one particular so I go home alone... But I believe in building a strong foundation by getting a few steady "girlfriends", and I'm making progress with that.

 

[drak_ool]

Natural game at its finest! Had a 1st date with bookstore girl last night, went really smooth. Dinner at a rotating sushi bar, where you have to sit elbow to elbow, allows for a lot of kino and they kick you out as soon as you re done eating. Then we played some pool but I had to get home fairly early so we called it a night.

Tonight, another chick canceled on me (says she has a cold, not sure if I believe her), bookstore girl txted me so I decided to go out with her again. Spent a lot more time with her, she helped me with some errands and then dinner, then to my place. I got some action from her, then she rushed off to catch the last train.

The main thing is, I didn't even really "game" this girl, we just clicked instantly and I used my humor to keep her entertained and laughing the whole time.

 

[Kal0051]

well, sounds like your off to a good start

 

[drak_ool]

Another interesting night...

Tonight I had a dinner date with the girl from my b-day party, then I met up the other hottie from my b-day party for a drink.

As for the 1st girl, she had to wait for me for nearly 1 hour, because I messed up and got on the wrong train. She straight up told me she never waited so long for a guy before...

Dinner went well, we split the bill and after, on the way back to the subway station (I told her I was in a hurry to meet a friend), she basically told me she hoped we could have a drink, and if she got drunk she would have come back to my place! That obviously came as a surprise to me (her being so open about it, since she has a bf) but I made a mental note to be really aggressive next time I see her, if things don't work out I'll just move to the next girl

Then I went to meet the other girl, who at first said she was gonna go home around 8:30 but ended up waiting for me until 10:30. The problem was, she was with a friend who didn't even speak english, yet I made the most out of it, to the point where even her friend said that I was a funny guy. Also, when we left she ended up paying for my drinks (over $20), so I told her next time I'll invite her out one on one. We'll see where that'll go, in the meantime i have another date with bookstore girl tomorrow, she s been txting me all day telling me how much she misses me and how I'm the best guy she's met in Tokyo... Well, she s clearly the hottest/coolest girl I've met here, but I can't tell her that, at least for now...

 

[RFish]

I quite like reading what you have written. It is good stuffs and it seems like you are working hard for it.

How's the food there and stuffs? Remember to catch a glimpse of the Tokyo Drift. =))

 

[drak_ool]

I quite like reading what you have written. It is good stuffs and it seems like you are working hard for it.

Appreciate the feedback!

In fact dude I have been working extremely hard! Every day I'm either sarging or dating some chick, I really have no down time. In my first 3 weeks here I've got 25 numbers, and now I'm trying to fit all of these girls into my very busy schedule. The first 2 weeks were frustrating, but now I have about 5-6 chicks txt me every day and I can't even accommodate all of them into one week! I guess this shows that hard work does eventually pay off, so don't let frustrations/flaky hoes bring you down, keep up your energy level, go out sarging as often as you can and results will come!

 

[drak_ool]

WTF? I just ran into a really fvcked up situation, prime example of AFC loser backstabbing me cuz he can't get the girl and is jealous I can...

Remember I had left bookstore girl with a "friend" of mine? actually I only knew the guy for a couple weeks, but we go to same school back in the states so I figured I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. BIG MISTAKE!

The kid obviously fell hard for this girl (she is amazingly gorgeous), trying to txt her all the time, telling her about some sort of "business" proposals, inviting her out for coffee, etc...

To make a long story short, the kid started avoiding me like the plague this week (even un-friended me on facebook), even though I never mentioned to him that I even saw her (shyt, maybe he s reading this right now... I 'm getting paranoid!). The problem was I had asked him to translate some pickup lines in Japanese for me and I remembered having some vague conversations with him about pick-up and what not, plus he saw the very successful interaction with the girl, so I kinda had the feeling he would try to hurt me out of jealousy.

Let's get to the bottom line: what do you think the chump did? He send my girl a txt (which she showed me), saying how I was a bad person trying to trick/take advantage of Japanese girls, and she should stay away from me, but he's a good guy, etc...

I confronted him this morning b4 our final exam but he was in super defensive mode, plus the exam was about to start so I didn't get too far, but I ll see him again at the end-of-program party tonight, there might be some sparks!

 

[MackMaster]

there are more fish in the sea man dont even worry about that situation if you play it cool like you dont care and just come off as alpha then she will end up with you in the end no matter what the other guy does.

on another note i have i quick question for you that has been taunting my mind. wtf is with jap girls sense of humor? does it exist? in the states i have no truble at all keeping a girl laughing all night. but here it is like they just dont understand that im joking, no matter HOW absurd of a comment i make. of course once i explain that i was only joking then they commence histarical laughter, as i just look at them like WTF how did you think i was serious??

i have been out with ALOT of jap girl everything from coffee dates to f closes and it is always the same.

so have you noticed anything similar? what is a solution to this?

 

[drak_ool]

No worries, of course my girl's not gonna believe some fat fvck over me, she's cool/jokes about the whole situation, and spent the night over at my place.

Japanese sense of humor... Well I've found that in general J girls find me very funny and entertaining, even when they don't speak English. I think the key is to rely on less subtle humor and more on body language, facial expressions. Of course, inner jokes, movie references, etc... will be lost on them. Sometimes, like you said, you make an out of this world absurd comment and they just stare right at you. You have to remember it's a cultural thing, she s probably trying to figure out if what you're saying is a normal Western thing, or if it's a joke.

But I think once you set the frame that you're a "funny" guy, then they will laugh at pretty much everything you say.