"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BF% or Mass?

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Okay, this is my situation. I am 6'1 and weigh 162 LBS. I just bought a combination scale/BF% analyser and it told me that my BF was 24%. While I am hardly fat by any definition, I certainly am not buff either. So my question to the experts out there, should I concentrate first on lowering my BF% and the raising my weight/mass or should I do the reverse? Or is this not even a concern?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lifeforce

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Your abit skinny so I'd bulk then cut. 24% sounds very high, do some caliper test too to make sure.
 

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digital BF scales are crap, they're only good for saying whether you are losing or gaining fat by averaging the readings, but they tend to flucutate too much to rely on them...get some calipers or take a dunk test if you really want to know. only thing that really matters is the mirror.
 

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No way you have 24% bf if u weigh 162 lbs at 6'1..you probably have way less..btw those scales that analyze your bodyfat are far from accurate most of the time. If you say you look fat by no means and youre satisfied with the way your abs looks (as in its not a 6pack yet and well theres a bit fat, but it doesnt look flabby) go for bulking..I cant really tell cause I havent seen you before, but 162 at 6'1 sounds definetly like you want to bulk not cut and cut later after youve gained some muscle to make em look harder...if you think your stomach is too flabby and you dont like going to the swimming pool because of it start a cutting diet, but Im PRETTY sure bulking is what you should go for.
 

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im also 6'1''. i wigh 185 pounds and the ladies love it. definatelly bulk my friend. im a former skinny guy too, in fact, im still bulking, i cant seem to get big enough. i was 140 at our height and that was skinny!!!

eat eat eat/lift very heavy 3 days a week.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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