Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Beware the rejected woman!

K-man

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Guys,

I recently had to get rid of a plate because she was starting to push me with questions about where our "relationship" is going. Mind you, this "relationship" hasn't even lasted for a month.

When she realized i wasn't looking for commitment all hell broke loose and she's now badmouthing me among the few common friends we have.

Seems that women don't take rejection very well!!! We guys have to put up with all kinds of crap and when we're rejected we should just remain silent and not complain because it's all our own fault but when a woman is turned down it's because all men are scumbags!

Unbelievable!

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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amoka

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Don't worry about it. She'll be crawling back to you in few days.
 

SandHawk

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And this is why I set the boundaries after the 1st lay. That sometimes means you'll lose a very good potential f*ckbuddy, but as long as you're not honest from the start on, she'll have the idea that you're leading her on and eventually she'll get pissed off at you.

And that's works the other way around as well. One of my former girls led me on for a good 2 months, after she stated she wanted an LTR with me. Got rid of my plates for her, and eventually turns out she lied about a lot of things. Yea, I was pissed and chopped her out of my life. I center my life around openness, honesty and directness, so that means that I'll be honest beforehand.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ymmv but i have done quite well by stating up front that i like being single and not really looking to change, but "you never know if the right one came along, well..."
i think this is good because they will try to be the one that is so good that she makes you change your mind, but you have stated up front your intention so there is no excuse for getting *****y when she finds you dont want her for a ltr
 

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I tell them up front I don't want anything serious, they try to make it something serious, they see I mean what I said, I'm a jerk.

I tell them I'm looking for "the One". They try hard to be the one, I tell them its not working out. When I start dating someone else, I'm a jerk.

I tell them I'm just going with the flow and want to see what happens, three months in they ask where is this going, I reply with we'll see. At the 4-6 month mark they want some sort of commitment, when I fail to comply, I'm a jerk.


The over all theme here is that if you are not willing to commit and submit you are a jerk.
 

K-man

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Thanks, some good comments here!

Maybe another aspect here is that women are so used to be the one choosing a mate and initiating breakup when tey get tired of him that the prospect of a man actually doing the rejecting is especially hard for them to handle.

She is still pissed. A mutual fried gets a couple of emails every day. Thank god I bailed out....a true nutcase this one!
 
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