"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Beware of the EX G/F

Jester FPS

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Don't let her ruin all your work to cure your AFC'ism and get rid of your one itis.

My ex showed up unexpectedly at my doorstep tonight, for some weird reason and she said she was here to see my sister (lie). I was eating and being the gentleman I am, I let her in and let her use the computer where she browsed her myspace. Her and my sister talked for a while then my sister left the room and she was just by herself, I asked her if she wanted a light on in here and she was like yeah, then I started to leave and she grabbed my arm and said don't leave, talk to me. I told her I had to do my h/w but then I said, hold up I'll bring it in here.

When I suggested it was late and she should go she agreed and outside she motioned to kiss me, I didn't let her and she kept trying so then she just gave up and kissed me on the cheek and hug and all that. She was all talking about "do you want me to move on?" and I was surprised, I didn't know what to do so I just said "just go."

Anyway, upon reflection, I should've not wasted anymore words on her than necessary and been the dominant male and said "Peace". It's confusing to understand what she was thinking, I think she just wants control over me again but what do you DJ's think?

There was some type of emotion driving her to act the way she did and I'm not sure which one it is.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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who did the damage when you guys broke up? Tell us a bit about the past mate, if u don't mind.
 
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she is just trying to mess your mind, they always do that when they see you dont give a **** about her, cuz she wants to boss around your life
 

Jester FPS

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Deadly_Assassin said:
who did the damage when you guys broke up? Tell us a bit about the past mate, if u don't mind.
Well we were together for 4 years, and we broke up on the december 23rd, 2005, then on christmas she fvcks some other guy she's been talking to as a friend and gets pregnant, then hides this sh!t from me for 5 months until I finally hacked her myspace and read her outbox. I found this site to end my AFC'ism once and for all and I'm doing to good to fvck up now.
 

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Jester FPS said:
Well we were together for 4 years, and we broke up on the december 23rd, 2005, then on christmas she fvcks some other guy she's been talking to as a friend and gets pregnant, then hides this sh!t from me for 5 months until I finally hacked her myspace and read her outbox. I found this site to end my AFC'ism once and for all and I'm doing to good to fvck up now.
Well, after taking this info into account... and after you said "just go," you refused to kiss her, and you didn't show any continued interest in her while she was over (I hope), I say you handled that well. If she pulls a surprise visit to your place again I'd suggest telling her more bluntly that you don't want to see her face again (which is what would be best for you and your self-improvement anyhow).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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