"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Beware of the EX G/F

Jester FPS

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Don't let her ruin all your work to cure your AFC'ism and get rid of your one itis.

My ex showed up unexpectedly at my doorstep tonight, for some weird reason and she said she was here to see my sister (lie). I was eating and being the gentleman I am, I let her in and let her use the computer where she browsed her myspace. Her and my sister talked for a while then my sister left the room and she was just by herself, I asked her if she wanted a light on in here and she was like yeah, then I started to leave and she grabbed my arm and said don't leave, talk to me. I told her I had to do my h/w but then I said, hold up I'll bring it in here.

When I suggested it was late and she should go she agreed and outside she motioned to kiss me, I didn't let her and she kept trying so then she just gave up and kissed me on the cheek and hug and all that. She was all talking about "do you want me to move on?" and I was surprised, I didn't know what to do so I just said "just go."

Anyway, upon reflection, I should've not wasted anymore words on her than necessary and been the dominant male and said "Peace". It's confusing to understand what she was thinking, I think she just wants control over me again but what do you DJ's think?

There was some type of emotion driving her to act the way she did and I'm not sure which one it is.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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who did the damage when you guys broke up? Tell us a bit about the past mate, if u don't mind.
 
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she is just trying to mess your mind, they always do that when they see you dont give a **** about her, cuz she wants to boss around your life
 

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Deadly_Assassin said:
who did the damage when you guys broke up? Tell us a bit about the past mate, if u don't mind.
Well we were together for 4 years, and we broke up on the december 23rd, 2005, then on christmas she fvcks some other guy she's been talking to as a friend and gets pregnant, then hides this sh!t from me for 5 months until I finally hacked her myspace and read her outbox. I found this site to end my AFC'ism once and for all and I'm doing to good to fvck up now.
 

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Jester FPS said:
Well we were together for 4 years, and we broke up on the december 23rd, 2005, then on christmas she fvcks some other guy she's been talking to as a friend and gets pregnant, then hides this sh!t from me for 5 months until I finally hacked her myspace and read her outbox. I found this site to end my AFC'ism once and for all and I'm doing to good to fvck up now.
Well, after taking this info into account... and after you said "just go," you refused to kiss her, and you didn't show any continued interest in her while she was over (I hope), I say you handled that well. If she pulls a surprise visit to your place again I'd suggest telling her more bluntly that you don't want to see her face again (which is what would be best for you and your self-improvement anyhow).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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