I have a more fortunate/unfortunate position of being on a small campus with also cafes outside where typically the same people hang out every day. I had a semi-interested girl not give me a clear yes for a date when I texted. I told her a deadline to get back to me by as I wasn't going to 'call her on sunday to plan something' as she wanted. She didn't get back to me. Am I better off waiting till I see her in person and try to game and build rapport so there's more interest than last time?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
better to wait to u see her in person?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Women send signals of being interested (or not) in code.Confused said:I told her a deadline to get back to me by as I wasn't going to 'call her on sunday to plan something' as she wanted. She didn't get back to me. Am I better off waiting till I see her in person and try to game and build rapport so there's more interest than last time?
One popular way to indicate to a guy that she is only luke warm is to not reply to his date invite .
What was the problem with calling her on sunday ? She may have had legitimate reasons to postpone talking about a date til then.. I would have planned a date before I called and then lay it out during the sunday call. IF she jumps at it - you are good. IF she hemms and hawws, then she is telling you that she does not want to date you.
You handled this badly.
It was this girl from this thread:jophil28 said:Women send signals of being interested (or not) in code.
One popular way to indicate to a guy that she is only luke warm is to not reply to his date invite .
What was the problem with calling her on sunday ? She may have had legitimate reasons to postpone talking about a date til then.. I would have planned a date before I called and then lay it out during the sunday call. IF she jumps at it - you are good. IF she hemms and hawws, then she is telling you that she does not want to date you.
You handled this badly.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=169491
this is the text convo, 1 text a day:
hey merry xmas. im busy the next 2 days cos my friend is visiting but lets meet for that drink on sunday or monday evening at 8. hows then?
she responded 5 hours later: Hi merry xmas to you as well! sorry for the late response..i dont know what my plans are for Sunday but let's get in touch then and plan something! have a great weekend!
I probably shouldnt have done anything and just wait and see if she would get back to me.
however i texted her back on christmas (the day after she replied):
'hey. well let me know by 4pm tomorrow whether u can make Sun or Mon evening cos i wont be free by then as someone wants to meet up with me on Sun and I'll make other plans for Mon tomorrow. Merry xmas again.'
She didn't get back to me on Saturday by 4pm. I just wanted to convey that i'm busy too and not going to wait around to see if she's free on Sunday to see me. Was this a mistake?
So what do I do now? Should I just wait till I bump into her and regame her?
It's the festive season, she's probably caught up with family and stuff.
..and yeah, I see you were trying to convey that you are busy, except do you think you might have actually sent that exact message to her?
That you were trying to convey that you are busy?
Could look a bit try hard.
But I'd say she's just doing other stuff, some people get caught up in this festive season stuff for ages.
..and yeah, I see you were trying to convey that you are busy, except do you think you might have actually sent that exact message to her?
That you were trying to convey that you are busy?
Could look a bit try hard.
But I'd say she's just doing other stuff, some people get caught up in this festive season stuff for ages.
PlaysToWin
Don Juan
I would say hold off contacting her and let her get in touch if she is still interested.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Not replying to a date text, or taking a long time to reply means low interest.
I remember this from the last topic, it would have been better to just tell her straight out that you were busy on sunday and couldnt make it anymore when she gave mixed signals.
You should probably hold off till you see her again and start from scratch, it sounds like you showed too much interest to see her. Ignore and act uninterested a little, you need to get her interest level up before you try again for a date.
I remember this from the last topic, it would have been better to just tell her straight out that you were busy on sunday and couldnt make it anymore when she gave mixed signals.
You should probably hold off till you see her again and start from scratch, it sounds like you showed too much interest to see her. Ignore and act uninterested a little, you need to get her interest level up before you try again for a date.