Better Beware!

[Blaaaaat]

If you "think" you can judge my "suavesness" by a couple of posts I've made, then it's quite obviously you aren't that good in "thinking".

 

[Trapspringer]

Originally posted by Ninja Dude
That may be the case Blaaaat, but why dont we let the women decide which attitude is more attractive?

Ladies, who would you rather chill out with? Me or the guy whose name sounds like vomit?

OMG, now the guys are fighting for the affection of the women board members? It is sort of embarrasing.

Mystery, must we throw fuel into this shameful fire?

Guys, please take this time to review your history books.

thanks bug, never thought i'd actually HEAR, ok i mean READ a man admit that sh#t on a forum like this! thought it was one of those things women would always realize about men, but men would never realize about themselves. props to you for being intelligent enough to see that and mature enough to admit it.

Just because one random guy gives his opinion on a particular issue does not make the opinion true. There are countless men around here as well as the rest of the world that knows exactly what they want and many have the guts to go after it and some come to discuss that here at sosuave.com---- others will fight.


This thread is turning into one big gender debate.

 

[Blaaaaat]

Originally posted by Trapspringer
OMG, now the guys are fighting for the affection of the women board members? It is sort of embarrasing.

Where the fvck do you see me trying to get the affection of MW?!?!

Guys, please take this time to review your history books.

Dude, please take some time to read before you post your stupid conclusions.

 

[Ninja Dude]

Fighting? All i did was ask an objective opinion. I am a lover not a fighter.

And isnt the purpose of this site to discuss the mysteries and complexities that exist between genders? If I dont like a thread, I just dont post. Why waste time making negative comments?

I got better things to do, so I am officially signing off now.

Much love to you all, yes even you vomit-guy. May you one day pull out the rod of bitterness that is so firmly planted in your ass and enjoy this groovy ride called life.

peace!

 

[Blaaaaat]

Thanks for your professional analyze Sigmund, now go have a good time "chilling out" with your lady friends. I wish you all the best.

Peace Sistah!

 

[Trapspringer]

Originally posted by Blaaaaat
Where the fvck do you see me trying to get the affection of MW?!?!


Dude, please take some time to read before you post your stupid conclusions.

You see Blaaaat, the astute reader would be able to see that I was actually trying to support you without adding to the rift widening between you and Ninja. Since your posts obviously stand on more along my view that we men should come here to support each other in our cause rather than fight over our cause. I mean, you obviously wasn't fighting for the affection of MW or iqqi---- Ninja was.

But now I see that you are actually ignorant, I will ignore any posts from you from now on. I expect an ignorant reply from you but remember, I will ignore any posts with your name on it.

 

[DJ Logic]

MW, I dont always agree with what you post but this one is 100% on point. It is not HEALTHY for a girl to postpone sex for so long. A hundred red flags are waving on this one!

Tangent Rant based on above posts:

I find it interesting how guys who love women are considered feminine. I was at a bar with some friends the other day and we were hanging out, talkin sh!t, nothing special. I ended up leaving cos I got a booty call from this fine-ass latina I have been DJing. You would think they would High 5 me for getting some action, but what did they say?

"Awww, your gonna go meet a chick? Dude...that is so GAY!"

I thought they were joking at first but turns out they are still upset with me. If loving hot chicks makes me gay or feminine, then I guess I am a thuper-flamer!

 

[Blaaaaat]

Originally posted by Trapspringer
You see Blaaaat, the astute reader would be able to see that I was actually trying to support you without adding to the rift widening between you and Ninja. Since your posts obviously stand on more along my view that we men should come here to support each other in our cause rather than fight over our cause. I mean, you obviously wasn't fighting for the affection of MW or iqqi, Ninja was.

If that's the case then I must apologize. But with the "the guys arefighting" I interpreted it as you were referring to Me and Ninja. So IF that is really what you meant, then my apologies are in place.

But now I see that you are actually ignorant, I willl ignore any posts from you from now on. I expect an ignorant reply from you but remember, I will ignore any posts with your name on it.

Well, do what you have to do. I won't lose any sleep over it.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

It took my girlfriend over 13 weeks to sleep with me (she was 17, virgin) last year. Wasn't too bad, although the waiting period sucked. But then again, the VCE would've made me flaccid....

 

[NewMan]

To wait or not to wait....

To wait for the A## or not?

You know, the fact is, you should be DJ'ing multiple women, and so busy that this is not much of an issue. When we meet a woman, guys know what they want from her pretty quickly. Pephaps you just want to get some a##, perhaps you like her style and want more. It's horses for courses.

For me, I will not get into a commited relationship unless I've seen her naked. I'm not going to be commited to someone, to remove options to bang other chicks, if this girl is not putting out for me. In fact, if the physical aspect is not there after 3 dates - she's gone - not matter how hot she is.

If she sleeps with you on the first date, should you next her? I don't believe this attitude. Look, if the girls been around, slept with many guys - for me it's not a problem - I only have a few rules....

1 - No messing around with other guys when your with me.
2 - no ex's in the picture.
3 - No holding back. example - I had this girfriend once - our physical relationship started out amazing - she wanted an open diaolgue and would tell me about her past experiences with guys. I was fine with this, but the minute she started holding out - i.e. stopped initiating sex, stopped giving BJ's (quote "I don't liked giving BJ's") - well I dumped her.

 

[tiburon]

SERIOUS< SERIOUS CHILDNESS

NINJA and BLAAT , come on men grow up.

"I used to think if a girl slept with me on the first night, she was a slut. Then I met my LTR and realized what a limiting belief this was.

The truth is that sometimes you can connect with a girl on such a deep. primal level, that it cuts thru all the bullshyt and you end up attacking each other! I think this is where we want to be as DJs, men with the capability to touch a woman in that emotional/sensual spot that most guys are too clueless to acknowledge.

I cant tell you how many times I have had chicks freak out on me because things were progressing so fast. They would ask me if I thought they were sluts and if I respected them and they never do this sort of thing etc etc. Sure some of them were probably lying but I have noticed that you can even push nicegirls into a state where they will screw your brains out.

You just have to excite them. Play hard-to-get. Tease them, flirt, be ****y yet playful and once they are turned on and playing little games with you, you can see their IL go up and then its time to let them see your softer side. Let them get to know you as a person and show interest in them. Talk about sex real casually and keep changing subjects."

NINJA YOU NEED TO SERIOUSLY GROW UP......if by any chance you think that you are the great DJ or hootest dude in America or that girls just give themselves to you because they have found a special connection.....WAKE UP. THERE ARE MILLIONS JUST LIKE YOU ..and BILLIONS BETTER THAN YOU....if a girl gives it to you on the first night or very soon(like has happened to many DJs in this board...) is because she either was drunk, or she was looking for it if the atmosphere was right...not because the special connection with you. Ill Give you credit for creating this comfortable atmosphere , but trust me the girl is not MS DECENT who couldn't resist your charms!

Tiburon

 

[tiburon]

DEAR MR BUGSQUISH:


"I met the girl of my dreams, and she's now my GF. The problem is she had sex with me on the first date. It feels strange saying this but I REALLY WISH WE HAD WAITED. I can't see fault in the relationship, but I cheated on her. I didn't think I would but I did - very drunk but still. Just kissed someone. The fact is though:

I don't understand why, but even though I think she's perfect for me, I feel that subconsciously her value has gone down somehow in my mind since we had sex so soon. Even though I wanted it.

At the point I cheated on her, I would STILL have been happy waiting for her. What's more, I probably wouldn't have been so actively looking elsewhere! I am an insatiable rampant beast, but I think she could have tamed me by waiting a little longer. She really is that cool. I'm trying to make it work still...."


MAN i am not even going to go into your use of elitist and the word tool!Dont have time to waste on that but i like what you posted so i am going to write a few lines on your case with "the girl of your dreams."

Well let me begin by hoping that you are not LIKE NINJA and dont believe the reason she gave it to you was because you are the "hot shot", or "sweet d!ck" and even tough she is a decent woman she just couldnt resist your charms. IF you do believe this just read what i told NINJA....and if by any chance you believe she gave it to you because you guys found a special connection, love at first sight, soulmates or any other reason.....WAKE UP! She would had given it to any other guy who could sweet talk and DJed her, or any other guy with a nice car , or/and a six pack!

"It feels strange saying this but I REALLY WISH WE HAD WAITED. "

Ofcourse you dou!You realize that she has a great personality, that she is hot , that you have great times with her, but you realize she is easy, any day she might get in a fight with you , she might run off and screw a dude ,lol because it only takes her one night....or even if she doesnt cheat and believes is dishonest to cheat...you still know she could had fvcked anyone that night no matter if the guy would had seen her the next day or started a relationship. So how many ONS did she have before you? It doesnt matter this you will never know!


"I don't understand why, but even though I think she's perfect for me, I feel that subconsciously her value has gone down somehow in my mind since we had sex so soon."

LOL subconciosly ...lol ..that will be something nice to say to yourself ..if you want to lie to yourself that IS! Man you are more concious about her value going down in your mind than i am about computer proggraming! The fact that she slept with you so easy is hunting you down! Ohh was it just because i am that special? OOhhhh did i seduce her so good and she just couldnt control herself?Ohh am i playing the fool and having a committed LTD with a girl that could have had ONS with half my town(she is that easy)? Ohh if she finds one day a guy hotter than me , or a better seducer, or even an ugly guy that can sweet talk in a point of our relationship were we might be arguing, bored , etc.. will she be easy and cheat while i play the committed fool?ALL of this question might have entered your mind form time to time ....and I KNOW PROBABLY MANY MORE QUESTIONS TOO! Subconciously my ass! You are not stupid but you are trying to blind yourself because she makes you happy and you like her that much!

Look I dont remeber flaming you but for the love of God for a MAN you and many others are so sensitive. I was raised to believe man shouldnt be talked soft ..but maybe things are different for some other people! If i flamed you was probably giving you advise and i was being hard or not talking soft! I GUESS I HAVE TO WORK ON MY SOFTNESS WHEN I TYPE.. JUST BECOME A BIT MORE DELICATE! I really doubt this will happen!

Tiburon

p.s ohh and about tool and elist..ok thanks for your compliments..but i am not the one commited to a girl who sleeps with whomever on the first night!

 

[Ninja Dude]

Tiburon,

I never claimed to be the best, but I have my own style and it works well for me. You are right, some of the girls I hook up with are sluts, all I'm saying is that you can't judge a woman for screwing you the first night. Me and my ex-LTR hooked up the first night and she was my best girlfriend. Am I 100% sure she didnt cheat on me? Well, nothing is for certain, but we made a great couple and she proved to me on many occasions that she had my back and my family loves her to this day.

As far as my maturity level is concerned, I post on this site for the FUN of it. A lot of you guys are so high-strung (frustrated?) and take this game way too seriously. C'mon yo, do yourself a favor and take your nuts out of the vice grips and RELAX!

Don't be so quick to judge people or situations, Tiburon. A "Real DJ" as you claim to be, is open-minded and non-judgemental. No flames here, my man. Just telling it like it is.

 

[tiburon]

Well

I dont understand what you mean by "nuts out of the vice grips and RELAX!" so no offense taken( I guess my English SLANG is not that good)! Man maturity? Whn you go on fighting and calling Blaaat names ..for 5 post in a row ...come ON ..who do you takle me for?
I agree that sleeping on the first night or second, or one month , or two month could mean the same.....read Double Standards post......the factr she sleeps on the first night ..gives you a better idea!

100 % percent sure she never cheated on you..ok this is really something..i hope you were kidding!!

Finally i am openmided about everything,...the fact that i make a tough judge for certain things doesnt mean i dont understand why other things occur! Your girl she could have hada a great relationship with you, and this is the only reason you are trying to defend your argument , base on a single experience! First i dont know what kinds of things you put up with in a LTD so i have no opinon ofwhat you call so "great" but the fact is that have higher standards to commit myself to a women than you. I believe in having lots of fun unless you are a lucky women and make my standards at the right time in my life! I dont look for LTDs just so that i could have sex often, and i can have fun hanging out with one close fbuddy female, or 5 close fbuddies and they might think that they have something with me..but i never say relationship and never commit. They want top have fun i am their MAn, and i could care for them as a friend, treat them good, not disrespecthem, make the lovemaking fun and nice, but not getting me committed unless you are that great of a woman!

Tiburon

 

[Ninja Dude]

I never said I was 100% sure she never cheated, but then again I take it that english is probably your second language so the mistake is understandable.

As for Blaaat, I was not taking that as a serious flame war, nor am I the least bit interested in Mystery Woman. IT WAS A JOKE! If you notice, my responses were positive and light hearted. Blaaat is a perfect example of someone who took my clowning too seriously.

And YES, I base my perceptions of women on my EXPERIENCE. That is what we are supposed to do. I never said that all girls that bone on the 1st night are angels did I? Just said that there are exceptions and used an example from personal experience to back it up. Unlike you my friend. All you do is make baseless arguments with people and I have yet to hear you back any of your claims up with actual experience. Its all bullshyt!

But hey, if convincing yourself that I am less of a man than you are makes you feel like more of a macho DJ Superstar, then hey, who am I to judge? All I can say is where are your field reports? Tips? Advice? Ohhhh thats right, all you do is put people down while painting yourself as some sort of DJ Messiah. Well from now on, you can keep your lame posts to yourself. I have just put you on "Ignore" so dont even bother responding to this, Shark Boy.

 

[tiburon]

Listen Kid

I just joined this website a week ago so thats why you dont see tips or special articles but they are on their way! Second i base all my arguments on experinece , others experiences, and, Scientific, Research, reading done on my own, and phsycology!NOT ON A SINGLE EXPERIENCE! I hope you understand is worthless saying ..ohhh because my ex and i or ,, i have been with 5 girls and alff of them did so...Nobody here knows how you actually behave around women..and all conlcusions a man makes in his life good or bad are on experieces. SOME MEnN< SMART MEN choose not to make conclusions on things they dont have much experiecne on! ITS LIKE A KID TRYING TO TEACH THE TEACHERS!

"Blaaat is a perfect example of someone who took my clowning too seriously."

If you want to call yourself a clown be my guess!!

IF you want to ask me in any post on my experience on the matter an actually what girlfriends or women have i fvck, and books I have read, or people i have listen to please do so ..ill let you know a bit more on my PRIVATE LIFE!

I never said you were less of a MAN... but i guess for some reason you said this...and never said i was A DJ SUPERSTAR..my name is Tiburon and thats all i go by. ANd finally about putting people down..you are wrong ....i give advice to people...i help people....i respect DJS like ( . )( . ) , pook, and others that know what they are talking about and those who are listeners and not clowns!

Tiburon

 

[bugsquish]

Dear Mr Tiburon,

OK, I can see maybe I was hasty in my evaluation of your comments. I just took exception to being called disgusting. I appreaciate your response, apologies for the "compliments"

Contrary to what you have said, it actually never occured to me that she might be a slut who would've given it to anyone. Or that she might go and cheat on me or be whisked away from me. I'm not saying that I'm "all that", but we do have a lot in common, and my game was tight. Also, I know she had (and still does have) a lot of guys after her cuz she is a HB and a regular at my fave club.

I don't think she was after a ONS, and neither was I. After we had sex she was crying at the thought of being used for a ONS. Thats how I ended up getting comitted but it was premature and kinda messed up the whole process.

I stand by my original analysis: that guys are MORE interested in the chase, than the catch. And that the more challanging the chase, the more valued the catch. I also think that a relationship formed under pressure is doomed. The pressure came with sleeping together so soon.

Maybe subconsciously () I do have the fears you noted but I don't feel it on the surface.

MysteryWoman
If you read my post more carefully you'll see I don't place any blame on her as such. I say "I wish we had waited." I just think she had the power to make things different.

 

[myfriendblu]

Good god you guys are a bunch of tools.

 

[tiburon]

ohh i remember...disgusting..lol

"I don't think she was after a ONS, and neither was I. After we had sex she was crying at the thought of beingused for a ONS. Thats how I ended up getting comitted but it was premature and kinda messed up the whole process."

Man havent you learned yet NOT TO BELIEVE A WOMAN'S CRYING...how come she didnt think it before hand....BULLShyT.....USED FOR ONS ...lol WHATEVER..YOU GOT PVSSY AND SHE GOT D!ck..mutual satisfaction!!!(how come you didnt say ..oh i also feel bad i got used for an ONS too..i think i am going to cry..lol and see her reaction)...Man i hate to brake it to you but it sounds like your woman got you involved early on a good drama game she played on you! YOU MADE THE WORST MISTAKE IN THE BOOK! YOU FELT FOR HER CRYING!!! you may disagree but woman with integrity cries about more important things even when in their period!!!I Might be judging your girl wrongly..but so far i have gotten to MANY RED FLAGS!

DONT EVER FALL AGAIN FOR A WOMAN"S CRYING, NAGGING,WHINNING, SWEETNESS, OR TRYING TO ACT LIKE YOUR LITTLE PRINCESS!!! Be always rational, and have your eyes open to see the deeper reality!
Crying , Drama , Sweetnes talk, are just some of the tools most women use on the men that let them! THIS are AFCS most times or even a DJ if not careful can fall for a good con -artist.I am not calling you an AFC and i have made the same mistake in younger years!but just telling you DONT FALL FOR THE TEARS!

Ohh and about the disgusting....i was just trying to wake you up and realize that there is a right way to have lots of sex with lots of women without jeopordizing your image as a MAN! With alot of people telling you that is ok to trick a nice girl for your own pleasures and be dishonest ...sometimes i feel you need to see the truth just like it is! We criticize woman who cheat in LTRs but i dont plan to say its ok for a men to do it aswell...i emphasize on not getting commited so young, but not on cheating a good committed girl and even when you have commited to "slut", YOUR WORD AND HONOR is at hand and no slut is worth that! Brake up be honest and with few people been like this ow and days you wil stand out from the croud and believe it or not this brings more pvssy to the table!


Tiburon

 

[bugsquish]

You are right about a lot of what you said. I don't think she deliberately tricked me and I don't think she's a slut. But I do agree that the sex was MUTUAL SATISFACTION, and that I should NOT have responded to her crying. But it's too late now.

The HB no2 I kissed, well I screwed her last night so now I'm definetely a cheater. Kinda proves I don't need to be honest to get puzzy, but I don't wanna take poor HB no1 for a ride. I'm not gonna tell her I cheated on her - no need to hurt her to ease my own conscience. But yea, I gotta end it. I don't deserve 1-way devotion.

It's a pity cuz we are good together. The fact is, I am not mature enough for a relationship. I think I need kids, a family car and a beer belly before I settle down with one chick.

But thanks tibs, for the tough love. You helped me put this into perspective.