Better approaches.

[DoItAgain]

I'm looking to make better cold approaches. By that, I mean, not only get the number, but possibly leave with a date/hang-out already planned and leave thinking "It's only a matter of time" not "Is she going to flake when I call her."

I have a theory. With a certain amount of physical attraction and personality/game, you can get a girl's number...but you have no social proof (you aren't in her social circle and she doesn't know you from a hole in the wall.) So you go to call her, and you're like "Hey this is DoItAgain" and she's like "Who?" and you're like "The guy you met at the mall." Or she doesn't answer to begin with.

I'm trying to maximize day two success. Is there a good way to go about this? I'm thinking either find some way to get a planned date without seeming desperate, just direct...or possibly go for her facebook instead of number? That way, when you add her, she sees your social proof and also it's easier to contact her and less flaking possibility?

 

[n00bPimp]

Yes, when you approach her you must start finding out things you guys could have in common, then make plans to go do that. Or just talk about this "really awesome ice cream place" you know and that you'd love to take her there cuz she seems like an awesome girl. When you ask for ehr number, you should always have an excuse for asking it, not just because she's hot and friendly.

 

[Jeffst1980]

Text messaging.

That's the bridge between the pickup and day2. Just hit her with funny texts that give value, and gauge her response, starting the night of the pickup. If it's flirty at all, you have have the green light to call and set up a day2. Texting is actually a godsend for us guys; girls that won't return phone calls are usually completely fine with returning texts.

Don't add them on Facebook unless your profile demonstrates A LOT of social proof - that destroys the mystery for her, and also looks a bit like a p***y move. High value males typically don't add people; people add THEM.