Betas that aren't clingy

[mr. kennedy]

Most people here associate betas with being clingy.

What about guys that are introverted and shy but don't give too much attention to women once they date one. Wouldn't he be seen as mysterious and different from the other aggressive alphas she meets?

I get that a lot. "You're different from the other men I date, you have a quiet confidence about you". I'm no alpha, but at the same time I never initiate after the first contact. I believe it's a good mix...and sets you apart. Hot women meet alphas all the time.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah I'm similiar, use to be AFC-beta. I don't think so much anymore. I think I'm shy but have been told by many woman that I am not. I'm just not super social. Confidence does go along way, I mix it in with ****y-slightly raunchy bizarre humor. Lately I've been drawing in insecure woman and the over-confidence confuses them. One minute they love it and the next they hate it cause they are not getting enough attention. If it's something they have rarely experienced they are drawn into it. I believe emotional attraction isn't a choice for woman they either feel that emotion or they don't. Physical attraction completely different.

 

[JoeMarron]

Yes I believe shy dudes can use their shyness to their advantage. Of course its gonna be a problem if he's too scared to approach women but if he manages to get into a relationship he'll be able to pull off aloofness, letting her put in more work etc. since that's his natural personality. You don't have to be the super social extroverted alpha to succedd with women.

 

[Mike32ct]

There is the myth in the Community that so called "betas" are all super clingy guys who bring flowers on a first date. I don't think that is the case.

 

[BeDJ]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

 

[VladPatton]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

Hahaha, well said!

 

[PlayHer Man]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

Yup. Spot on.

The biggest difference between betas and DJ's is how they view the world. Beta's embrace vaginal values while DJ's / alphas embrace their masculinity and natural animal nature with no apologies and no guilt.

 

[crossedup]

There is the myth in the Community that so called "betas" are all super clingy guys who bring flowers on a first date. I don't think that is the case.

I agree completely with this. I only know of a couple people who are like this. Most of the guys I know would rather smoke weed or drink than meet girls. Or they fear rejection so they never ask girls out. That isn't clingy behavior at all, it's pu$$y behavior. They are afraid to meet girls who are clearly into them. I know of this, because I am sooo guilty of it myself. Haha, just today while out and about running errands and such I saw and spoke to three different girls who were ahowing interest and were eager (and were hot), and what did I do? I didn't do sh*t cuz I'm a huge pu$$y with women. Now my career is a different story, I've got that sh*t handled!

 

[Dalshtröm]

Alohas love betas.

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

I see. So it seems like those so called alphas loves the betas!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Hot women meet alphas all the time.

False.

You seem to associate being Alpha with being a loud, "look at me", center of attention type guy.

And that's not true.

There are many different versions of being Alpha or displaying attractive traits.

If hot women met Alphas all the time, they wouldn't be at the bar every weekend waiting for one to show up.

I don't know where this PUA internet myth about hot women being approached all the time started, but its def not true IMO.

If anything I see 6's & 7's being approached all the time because they are seen as "safe" by most guys and less likely to reject you. But that goes into inner game and the "not giving a fuvk" attitude that you need to succeed in this game.








PIMP

 

[Dalshtröm]

False.

You seem to associate being Alpha with being a loud, "look at me", center of attention type guy.

And that's not true.

There are many different versions of being Alpha or displaying attractive traits.

If hot women met Alphas all the time, they wouldn't be at the bar every weekend waiting for one to show up.

I don't know where this PUA internet myth about hot women being approached all the time started, but its def not true IMO.

If anything I see 6's & 7's being approached all the time because they are seen as "safe" by most guys and less likely to reject you. But that goes into inner game and the "not giving a fuvk" attitude that you need to succeed in this game.








PIMP

As far as ny experience, the 6s and 7s are approached much more Poften than the 8s.9s and 10s. In fact, most 10s are already Being in a relationship where a worthy alpha is seducing her. We must also remember that when a recent looking Woman is in a relationship with an alpha, she automatically goes a vinhasti of grades up. That is the way.








Ps. DALSHTRÖM

 

[sharkbeat]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

Nice list.

 

[Mr Wright]

I dont think it's as clear cut as you being alpha or beta. Like most things in life there is a sliding scale.

I'd say there are at least 4-5 different catagories(sticking with the Greek alphabet theme)

Alpha
Beta
Omega
Delta
Gamma

Some guys are perfectly socially normal but are just a bit shy when it comes to approaching. To label them with the socially naive, the basement dwelling World of Warcraft nerds is wrong.

We all know the alpha and his traits and for the purposes of this, the beta is not at the bottom of the pile.

Beta

Not traditionally alpha but still above the bellcurve in terms of women. Usually they will have a particular trait which is attractive to women, so either looks, status or money. This means they can get female attention even though they may have no "game". But you will know a few guys like this, they do have some supplicative qualities but because they're gym fit or whatever, girls do fancy them. These guys can pull hot girls without game occasionally and are the perfect boyfriend type because they're not all alpha and going to smash and dash, which some girls are afraid of.

Omega

The majority of guys out there, struggling to get any consistent results with women but they do get some things. He's the guy who goes to the party to talk about sports, he has lots of male friends and is a bit of a lads lad but when it comes to girls he has no real idea but does occasionally get a girlfriend through mere proximity, she'll be about a 6 or 7 if hes really lucky. But he is your average guy who has nothing in particular going for him.

Delta

These guys get the drabs of the female world, the 2, 3, 4 and 5's. Traditionally the nerds who occasionally pop up with a girlfriend and cling to her like a baby chimp to its mother. But because the girl is ugly she appreciates the attention and stays with him because she could probably sleep with a guy who's hotter but cannot hold him down and as an ugly girl she feels her status in society is directly proportional to her being able to tie down a guy. This guy is what I call the King of the Nerds and is the one telling all his friends that he has sex regularly with his (fat) girlfriend.

Gamma

These guys are not even supplicative to women, they either dont show up on their radar or they hate them because women find them so repulsive. These are also your classic stalkers, socks and sandels guys. I know a guy like this, hes 20 but looks and dresses like hes in his midforties. He could potentially die a virgin because he has nothing going for him. He could stand near girls and they were creeped out by him even though he never actually did anything, a sorry sight.


Guys will come to this site on different levels, to tar everyone with one brush is foolish.

 

[Eternal_water]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

I'm all of those except I'm not indecisive and I don't judge others, all the rest apply.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I try to fake being beta to girls but they know I'm faking.

 

[nismo-4]

Beta isn't a personality, it's a mentality.

- Seeking approval from others.
- Easily influenced by others
- Supplicating to others
- Fear of rejection
- Avoiding risk and confrontation
- Lack of physical presence (followers)
- Insecure (easily gets emotional)
- Makes excuses for his shortcomings
- Gives up easily
- Blames others
- Indecisive
- Looking for attention
- Judges others
- Jealous of others' successes

In short, betas are modern women without titties.

Cosigned with Mike23ct!

 

[Stagger Lee]

Often by female math beta+behaving like an alpha=creepy guy, alpha+behaving like an alpha=hot/sexy guy.

Ugly/average "beta" guy cold approaches girl with, Hi xyz. Girl-Wow that was creepy! Good looking "alpha" guy cold approaches same girl with the same, Hi xyz. Girl-Wow that was hot! Chew on that and you'll realize it's mostly about looks and appearance. Or maybe it was just the beta guy's mentality, bro! Women are mind readers and can read a beta's thoughts, you know .