Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Bet with friend

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I took a bet with a friend for 50 bucks, it turns out I won the bet and he conceded, we had a deal and everything, shook on it , etc..

I told him to pay me whenever he can, today he turns around and says to me:

"You not getting your money, deal with it."

So I told him until he does give me the money he can bugger off.

Was I right to do this? What should I have done?

Note: He also owes me a new cricket bat which he took responsiblity for and broke.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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friends use friendship to get out of crap.

if it was a serious bet, you get a third party to hold all funds before the bet takes place.

me and my friends used to play Twisted metal Black and Madden for money... whoever wasn't in the game held the money (it was 3 of us).. the money wasn't important, it's just the princaple of the matter. no matter how much money you have, it's nice to go to say, red lobster and know that you are paying for it because you kicked your best friends ass in twisted metal black (sweettooth)
 

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Exactly, im not interested in HOW MUCH it is, its the principle of the matter, cos I bet my bottom dollar that if I had lost the bet, Id be paying him.

More thoughts?
 

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What you should do is go out somewhere with him, maybe the bars or a restaurant or something, then just dine and dash on his ass.

Any "friend" that won't pay a bet he owes you isn't a real friend.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have two rules when it comes to friendship:

1) Never go into business with your friends.

2) Never ask for money or lend money to a friend.

Now your bet was a small sum of money, is that worth ending a friendship? Your friend is an ass for not paying you but you are an ass for making such a big deal about it. If it takes only fifty bucks to be pissed on each other then you two were not as good as friends to begin with.
 

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yeah I really don't do the whole lending money to friends things.. that just opens a can of worms. The only time I did was when my old best friend called me and asked for money to pay a ticket, because it was the due date. other than that, don't ask, i won't ask you
 

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You think loaning money to friends is bad, try loaning money to family. You'll never see it again.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i loaned my mom some money about 6 months ago. I didn't need it but it's the fact that she told me she was going to pay it back on this particular date.

so I happen to ask her about it, and she CURSED ME OUT, telling me what was all the sacrifices she made for me worth, blah blah blah.

I should have known better. I didn't need it but dont' tell me you are going to do something and dont' do it. she could have said "give me x amount" and I would have
 

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Serialized3 said:
You think loaning money to friends is bad, try loaning money to family. You'll never see it again.
Yeah with family its different. If I loan money to a family before hand I have to accept the fact that I might not see my money in the near future or ever again (its not worth the hassle to make a fuss about it and create anomosity for life), but good families don't tend to ask to borrow money all the time just on rare occassions. Then again if your family ask's from you to borrow money many times over and never pay you back maybe you should begin to evaluate your relationship with these people.
 
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