"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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best workout for shoulders, lateral delts specificaly

nibun

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Hi guys, I'm doing some routines to get big guns, and right now, my shoulders, especially the lateral deltoids, needs some serious muscle. What workout would you guys recommend to really focus on this area to develope it the fastest?

I'm experimenting with cable lateral raises, cable upright row, and the lever lateral raise machine. Any thoughts on these or other exercises?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NMMWCR

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I've tried everything and can't seem to build delts for anything. My best results have come from arnold presses but even those are slow going. All I can say is be patient. As long as you stay consistent you'll have more muscle next year than you did this year.
 

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Originally posted by nibun
Hi guys, I'm doing some routines to get big guns, and right now, my shoulders, especially the lateral deltoids, needs some serious muscle. What workout would you guys recommend to really focus on this area to develope it the fastest?

I'm experimenting with cable lateral raises, cable upright row, and the lever lateral raise machine. Any thoughts on these or other exercises?
Good luck building any serious muscle efficiently using machines... here's a list of good shoulder developers:

Military Press
Arnold Press
Push Press
Jerk
Push Jerk
Two-DB clean and jerks

If you want the big traps to go with the big shoulders, BB power cleans and hang cleans are great.
 

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IronG: the exercises you listed work mainly the front deltoids. Since you're against machines, how do you think of db upright rows, db lateral raises, and db lying lateral raises?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've had great results on the Deltoids with a simple but effective attack every time I train them. I usually start with DB Front Raises and Lateral Raises. I like to do them before shoulder presses because the pressing will fatigue the triceps. I think the best for the lateral(side) is the lateral raise or the 90 degree lateral raise.

I don't always do it in that order and I do other exercises for the shoulders, but they are all done in the 3-8 rep range with good form.

Try this to start out

DB Front Raises x3
DB Lateral Raises or 90 degree lateral raises x3
DB or Military Press x4
Upright DB or Barbell Row x4

Peace and good luck
 

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IronG: what's "RC"?

Army: What's the 90 degree lat raise? How's that different from the "regular" lat raise?
 

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The best exercise I've ever used for side delts was a lying side lateral raise, using a 45 degree bench.
 

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Does anyone know a good website that would give you instructions on how to do all these strange sounding excersises? with pictures? i've got know idea what most of these are, and definatley no idea how to go about doing them.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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