"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Best way to transition from fingering to sex

Dr. Feelgood

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what's up guys.

i've been seeing this girl for a little while and want to know the best way to transition from fingering to sex. there are no issues getting to that point i just don't know a good way to transition. i don't want to advice like it should come natural or anything like that... just legit advice.

also, to help minimize lmr, what is the best way to get her really turned on during foreplay?


thanks guy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dr. Feelgood said:
what's up guys.

i've been seeing this girl for a little while and want to know the best way to transition from fingering to sex. there are no issues getting to that point i just don't know a good way to transition. i don't want to advice like it should come natural or anything like that... just legit advice.

also, to help minimize lmr, what is the best way to get her really turned on during foreplay?


thanks guy.
This was part of your reply in another thread:

if you wanna get better in bed learn how to make it about the chick. learn how to get her so ready for action that shes beggin for it. get that sex god book or whatever. listen to the way the chick is breathin how shes moaning and all that. if your doing it right shell be making some noise. work with it. make it louder and better.

and btw dude its easier to get sex when you are good at sex.

Which is it? Do you or do you not know what you're doing?
 

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You need to learn to use your tongue. If you go down on a woman you can make a friend for life.
 
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PapiChulo

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What kinda woman are you dealing with? I don't see how there should be any transition, it's practically intercourse. If a woman stuck a finger up your butt, would you let her go all the way?! Usually getting to that part is the main obsticle. Look up the "ladder of escalation", as it has a good grasp of how to go around potential resistance.
 

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Dr. Feelgood said:
what's up guys.

i've been seeing this girl for a little while and want to know the best way to transition from fingering to sex. there are no issues getting to that point i just don't know a good way to transition. i don't want to advice like it should come natural or anything like that... just legit advice.

also, to help minimize lmr, what is the best way to get her really turned on during foreplay?


thanks guy.
I always found making them squirt makes them beg for it...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PDubb75

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This is one of those things I don't really think about. It just happens at that point.

The only suggestion I can think of, is have your clothes off already. You don't want to get her screaming and moaning from your fingers, then watch you spend 30 seconds playing with your belt and getting your ear caught on your shirt collar.

Just kiss her nipples/chest/neck while you are fingering her, and once she's going crazy for it, climb on top and work your magic.
 

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bigneil said:
You need to learn to use your tongue. If you go down on a woman you can make a friend for life.
This, you'd be surprised how few men actually do it and how much it impresses a chick. My only condition is that she be hairless and clean down there: I just mention that and if they weren't that time they will be the next.
 

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What!? If you are already fingering a chick, and all you want to do is fcuk her, its SOOO unnecessary to start licking her pu$$y.

Now, I'm not saying "DON'T LICK HER PU$$Y", you can if you want to and its a perfectly legitimate sex act, and there's an art to it for sure, and you can provide a lot of enjoyment with it as well.

But if all you want to do is get your end wet, its way simpler just to transition fingering straight into sex.

I don't even know how this could be an issue, if she's letting you finger her, all you need to do is get an erection, (you have an erection, right?) and press it into her.

Make sure she knows about your erection, don't be shy about it. If she can see your erection as well, she will be super aroused. Take your pants off and proudly display your erection.

And then, when your fingering her, simulate as if it was your d1ck. Don't just put it in and rub with it, thrust it in and out like you actually would if it was your d1ck. Then, put your hand down on your lower abdomen, and use thrusting movements with your hips, so it seems like the force behind the fingering is coming from your pelvis, not your arm. When your doing this, your erect d1ck will be banging into the inside of her leg and lower part of her butt, and she will be able to feel the big, hardness of it.

And then, without breaking rhythm of the thrusts, put your finger your penetrating her with ON your d1ck. So that every time your finger penetrates her, your d1ck punches up against her labia. And let your d1ck punch up a bit further each time, until with one thrust, you take your finger out of the way and whallah! your d1ck is inside her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In other words, just merge your finger and your erect d1ck into one, so that fingering her IS fcuking her.

You need to have taken her pants off though for this to work. Is it going to be a problem for you to take her pants off? If so, just keep persisting with it. Every time you try and take off her pants and she stops you be like, "oh cool" or "yeah ok" or whatever, and keep talking to her as normal and massaging her, rubbing her erogenous zones etc like nothing's the problem, and then just try to take them of again a few minutes later. Act like its no big deal (coz its not), and don't do it slow, do it fast, like rip them off real quick (but casually).

And for every step forward, take a long pause afterwards, even take a step backwards.

I.e., take the pants half off, then pull them back on again and act like nothing happened, and continue talking to her, turning her on. Then take them 3/4 off a few minutes later, but put them back on, etc. Just escalate persistently, but in a two steps forward, one step back kinda fashion.

Honestly, this sh1t is so easy, its my favourite part of the game. I have a lot of trouble with opening sets and isolating chicks, but when it comes to sexing them, its impossible to fail.
 

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The O.P has most likely already finished finger banging his poo shooter and transitioned to sex by giving his soiled "HB9.5" pillow some 'serious business'.
 

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Have you tried fingering her butthole?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dr. Feelgood

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ninja, sometimes its easy to give advice and when your dealing with yourself its easy to lose sight of things.

i appreciate the real responses i got here. i think the issue is that clothes arent coming off. she wears a dress or skirt most of the time so access doesnt require clothing coming off. i will try removing clothes next time. if shes naked then it would be natural to transition.
 

Dr. Feelgood

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d!ckmojo this chick is not on the pill and i dont need to knock her up. the transition thats been fvcking with me is the condom. that always feels weird to me for some reason and i want to be congruent with it.
 
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