Best way to handle this

[luv 2 fly]

ok so I was chatting with the chick on msn & then asked if she wanted to go out. She asked me why it took me so long to ask her out. I asked if she was ok with going out in a few days. She said yes. So then I called her the next day & she told me that she now does'nt know if she will be free the next day. I got a text from her this morning telling me...sorry but I can't make it tonight.

I was thinking of now not contacting her what so ever for a week..Should I wait until she contacts me or if she does'nt get back to me after the week is over & then ask her "one more time" to go out. I'm blocking her on msn so there will be no contact on that.

Any feedback will be welcome!

 

[dj_china]

don't block her on msn, but just don't talk to her.
it will be harder no you, but at least it will remind her that you are there, and you are "not interested"

let her open you next time

 

[luv 2 fly]

the reason I'm going to block her is just to show that I'm living a busy lifestyle & not just @ home online with nothing going on.

 

[hover411]

just keep chatting, but don't invite her out again.

she canceled on you, she should be asking about rescheduling. this could be a desperation test.

 

[luv 2 fly]

just keep chatting, but don't invite her out again.

she canceled on you, she should be asking about rescheduling. this could be a desperation test.

Yeah ur right it could be a test..but do I start the msging..or wait for her to start..also let's say in the next week or so she never brings up meeting up..should I ask her ONE more time?? she already has 1 strike on her & only giving her one more chance.

 

[DonJuanit0]

Nope! Certainly don't block her! You'll increase her ego cause she'll think she did hurt you, which you don't want! Only cause she couldn't make it for a date? lol no! Do keep her msn and do be online! As Dj China correct said it will remind her that you are there and not interested which will make her feel odd cause you're not trying again for her like other random AFC would do...

 

[Desdinova]

When a woman is genuinely interested in you, she will make time to spend with you.

Find another woman who actually WANTS to spend time with you. This one is not interested.

 

[luv 2 fly]

ok so I'll just pretty much leave it to her to ask me out?

 

[DonJuanit0]

yeap!

 

[Igetit!]

Listen to what DonJuanit0 said.

DO NOT BLOCK HER.

Going no contact for a while is a good idea,however,you want her to think the no contact is because you're busy with other things in your life,NOT BECAUSE you're hurt,angry,or upset that she cancelled the date.


Man,I've said this a billion times:A woman wants a man who is strong,someone who can be her shield,her protector.
Someone she can feel safe with.


If all it took was her cancelling a date on you for you to breakdown,you think she'll have any confidence in you to protect her?


She'll be like,"Wow,he got all emotional (hurt and angry) just cause of a cancelled date. I'm a woman. If little o' me could have such an effect on him,what will happen if the two of us were to go out,and some guy approaches us,threatening us?


Don't be mad,don't be angry,don't be upset.


Continue doing whatever it was you two were doing before the cancelled date...minus you showing interest in her.


This'll be like the fourth time I've recommended this,but I believe it's helpful.


Go to the link in my signature. Don't worry,it's not 5 or 6 pages of a thread to read. In fact,it's not a thread at all,just one single reply.


Read that and follow those instructions to the letter.


It is hard to do,but if you have the patience,it should tip things in your favor.


Peace man.

 

[luv 2 fly]

thanks 4 the info guys!!!...I'll leave it up to her now!

 

[Samedi]

I had a similar thing happen, though i flaked on her lol.

POF, then MSN. Over a 4-5 month period of on/off talking, me mainly being C&F i got to a point where i just said to her we should hang out sometime. She gave me her number, some texts back and forth. I asked her a couple of different times if she wanted to go on a date, but she was busy on the days i asked. Now i could have thought she was flaking or making excuses, but i just asked the next time i was free.
One night i phoned her, she was out with friends and pissed, but asked me to come out the following night to some bar. I didn't like that it was in a gaybar for starters lol, and she'd no doubt be with friends. So not a good date starter i think.

1-2 weeks after my flake i went on a date with her. A further couple more weeks before i went on date 2. Sealed the deal on date 3 another week later.

I started pretty much most of the talking via text when i first got her number. On msn, i'd open with some cheeky comment, she said she liked that i ripped into her, other guys would kiss ass. Only until after date 2 did she begin to really show her interest, more texts, she'd open the talking etc.

Don't take it as game over just yet.

 

[Captain]

ok so I was chatting with the chick on msn & then asked if she wanted to go out. She asked me why it took me so long to ask her out. I asked if she was ok with going out in a few days. She said yes. So then I called her the next day & she told me that she now does'nt know if she will be free the next day. I got a text from her this morning telling me...sorry but I can't make it tonight.

I was thinking of now not contacting her what so ever for a week..Should I wait until she contacts me or if she does'nt get back to me after the week is over & then ask her "one more time" to go out. I'm blocking her on msn so there will be no contact on that.

Any feedback will be welcome!

It's not looking too good. You don't ask women out over MSN (or facebook, text message, anything like that.) Either in person or over the phone.

She doesn't sound interested, if she was, she'd probably do a bit more than send you a text saying she couldn't make it, and nothing else.