strong like bull
Senior Don Juan
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- Nov 5, 2002
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Hey guys,
ive been through quite a bit in my journey and ive learned a lot, but theres still a thing or two i havent had to address yet.. until now.
my LTR and i have been together for 2+ years. we've been living together for a year now and weve lots of great times together. she is without a doubt a girl i could seriously see being the one that i choose to marry.
there is, however, one little problem thats been rearing its ugly head a bit lately. in a nutshell, shes complaining that "we never get to spend time together anymore" and it "depresses" her. it comes up from time to time, but seems to be a recurring theme lately.
as i said we live together.. and our work schedules are half in sync. we both are off sundays, which we always spend together or together with family. and theres usually a night and afternoon or two during the week we both are off. lately, theres been some stress of our jobs slowing down a bit, meaning less money.. meaning we have "date nights" and whatnot less than b4. for what its worth, i do try to make the best of it though going through this rough patch, e.g. making nice dinner instead of going out.
on top of work, i also have a business im dedicated to growing. even though it will take time, i know that one day, that side business will be grown to replace my day job and truly provide me with the lifestyle i want to live. so needless to say, its a top priority of mine as the long term future depends on that. and of course, when i have appointments or whatnot pop up it seems to annoy/stress her out.. although as i said i always try to make the best of the time we have.
so my question is, whats the proper way to handle that situation?
to be honest, so far when its come up i handle it as:
"i understand 100% where youre coming from, and i too wish we could spend more time together. but these are things that have to be done. if im ever gonna get out of my day job this is the kind of action i have to take."
sometimes even to the point of conveying to her that if she cant handle it or isnt willing to make the best of it, as i am, then im sorry but theres nothing i can do...
ive never been much of an emotional guy to begin with, but i do try to be compassionate and understanding. although at the same time, sometimes that kind of behavior just adds more stress on top of everything else ive got going on. especially with the business - its common sense that if i gave up the time i put into the business, id never get out of my day job, never truly amount to the man i want to be, most likely live in a life of stress and frustration due to lack of money and freedom... just not the life i want to live!
any thoughts or insight??
thanks in advance,
SLB
ive been through quite a bit in my journey and ive learned a lot, but theres still a thing or two i havent had to address yet.. until now.
my LTR and i have been together for 2+ years. we've been living together for a year now and weve lots of great times together. she is without a doubt a girl i could seriously see being the one that i choose to marry.
there is, however, one little problem thats been rearing its ugly head a bit lately. in a nutshell, shes complaining that "we never get to spend time together anymore" and it "depresses" her. it comes up from time to time, but seems to be a recurring theme lately.
as i said we live together.. and our work schedules are half in sync. we both are off sundays, which we always spend together or together with family. and theres usually a night and afternoon or two during the week we both are off. lately, theres been some stress of our jobs slowing down a bit, meaning less money.. meaning we have "date nights" and whatnot less than b4. for what its worth, i do try to make the best of it though going through this rough patch, e.g. making nice dinner instead of going out.
on top of work, i also have a business im dedicated to growing. even though it will take time, i know that one day, that side business will be grown to replace my day job and truly provide me with the lifestyle i want to live. so needless to say, its a top priority of mine as the long term future depends on that. and of course, when i have appointments or whatnot pop up it seems to annoy/stress her out.. although as i said i always try to make the best of the time we have.
so my question is, whats the proper way to handle that situation?
to be honest, so far when its come up i handle it as:
"i understand 100% where youre coming from, and i too wish we could spend more time together. but these are things that have to be done. if im ever gonna get out of my day job this is the kind of action i have to take."
sometimes even to the point of conveying to her that if she cant handle it or isnt willing to make the best of it, as i am, then im sorry but theres nothing i can do...
ive never been much of an emotional guy to begin with, but i do try to be compassionate and understanding. although at the same time, sometimes that kind of behavior just adds more stress on top of everything else ive got going on. especially with the business - its common sense that if i gave up the time i put into the business, id never get out of my day job, never truly amount to the man i want to be, most likely live in a life of stress and frustration due to lack of money and freedom... just not the life i want to live!
any thoughts or insight??
thanks in advance,
SLB