Locster
Don Juan
psychiatry?
anti-depressents?
weed?
anti-depressents?
weed?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
best way to deal with depression
- Thread starter Locster
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
flippinfreak
Master Don Juan
A lot of the time depression can be solved through good habits.
Not good habits of others, but by yourself.
Most people will lie, and say the depression makes them weak, so they screw up on the baits, but it is only an excuse. A horrible self destructive one at that.
Go off and get to the gym, surround yourself with people, and force laughter out of yourself, than explain everything with a joke. Your going to get bad reactions, painful to your psyche, but the pain is only weakness leaving your body.
You have to be persistent, veracious, adamant, and resilient to work on yourself. Without working on yourself, but waiting for other people to give you inspirational stories, and whatever medications to help you out, than you will become dependant, and the dependance won't do anything except prolong your depression.
Not good habits of others, but by yourself.
Most people will lie, and say the depression makes them weak, so they screw up on the baits, but it is only an excuse. A horrible self destructive one at that.
Go off and get to the gym, surround yourself with people, and force laughter out of yourself, than explain everything with a joke. Your going to get bad reactions, painful to your psyche, but the pain is only weakness leaving your body.
You have to be persistent, veracious, adamant, and resilient to work on yourself. Without working on yourself, but waiting for other people to give you inspirational stories, and whatever medications to help you out, than you will become dependant, and the dependance won't do anything except prolong your depression.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Everyone goes through some depression in their life, especially as a teenager. It's normal.
I am anti anti-depressant. http://www.prozactruth.org/
fwiw, if you use pot for medicinal purposes, it works better with quality pot. But then it gets to be an expensive habit, so you have to strike a balance. Pot is not the answer, but it may make your life a little happier while you are searching for that answer.
I am anti anti-depressant. http://www.prozactruth.org/
fwiw, if you use pot for medicinal purposes, it works better with quality pot. But then it gets to be an expensive habit, so you have to strike a balance. Pot is not the answer, but it may make your life a little happier while you are searching for that answer.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Exercise would be good for you. Anything that keeps you active will be good for you. Fvck all anti-depressants cause they only fvck you up. Pot wont help, itll only decrease youre levels of dopamine...which is pretty much the last thing you need. Read affirmations and inspirational quotes so you feel uplifted. Change the way you think. Youre negative thoughts are the downfall of your mindset. Think positively and youll notice a difference.
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daSoCalpimp
Don Juan
I'm no doctor but I will give you a short little summary of what I know through my various studies and experience.
-Depression and other mental illnesses originate due to a chemical imbalance.
-This chemical imbalance is caused by a stress
-This stress can be mental or physical stress or both, LET ME REITERATE this stress can be mental of physical or both.
-When is say the word stress I don't mean the kind like your stressed from work, I mean anything that can affect your mental thinking or physical function. This part seems ambiguous but bear with me.
-If its a physical stress problem like your body doesn't have a good chemical balance then I don't know much about this particular area, you might want to do research.
-If its a mental aspect that is affecting you then you'll have a much easier way of fixing this. So here is some ruminations on this.
-Something is affecting your thinking and this is causing you to be stressed mentally and therefore a chemical imbalance.
***First I will note that you mentioned these three thing
psychiatry?
anti-depressents?
weed?
What these three things do is mask the stress, they don't attack the stress and take it out of your life.
Psychiatry - you talk and talk but the thing that is causing the stress is there and its not going away.
Anti-Depressants- They fix your chemical imbalance, so you don't feel depressed but, the stress that caused the initial depression is still there, once you get off the Anti-Depressants.
Weed- Its just masks your depression for a while and it comes back.
-This is just like medicine, if you have a pain in your knee you take a tylenol or other prescriptions, but after 6 hours the medication wears away and the pain is back.
Let me give you an example, I had tennis elbow, it hurt doctors said to take advil, tylenol, ice, cortisone shot, I was very skeptical.
Instead I started researching, tennis elbow is caused by micro tears to the muscles and they happen beacuse of stress to the muscle.
By taking advil, tylenol, ice, cortisone shots the micro tears are still there, its just the pain (depression) that goes away.
Instead I started to heal my self by nurturing my elbow, I started intense flexibility and stretching exercizes, strength training the various muscles of the arm, using chinese herbs that were known to increase blood flow for healing, supplements for the muscle, ligaments, and tendons.
My tennis elbow went, my elbow and arm are stronger and I have no more pain because there is no more cause to the pain.
POINTS That I want to point out
-NURTURE your mental self, don’t just mask the depression. A suggestion is to take a vacation, clear your head and see where a possible mental stress is coming from, and then try to resolve it, or take it out of your life, or better yet do what I do, DON’T GIVE A FVCK about it, nothing should be so worrisome and stressfull as for you to put your focus on it and let it affect your mental well being.
********-THE MENTAL STRESS CAN BE CAUSED BY A BAD PERCEPTION, IMO THIS IS THE MOST UNDER DIAGNOSED REASON FOR MENTAL STRESS ***********
MANY PEOPLE ON THIS SITE HAD A BAD PERCEPTION OF WOMEN (AFC) BUT HAVE CHANGED THEIR PERCEPTION TO DJ’S
Ex. One-itis because you think that this one girl is the ONE, well after you realize that she isn’t and see the spinning plates theory you will not get one-itis and you will get power back over yourself.
***I don’t know how religious you are but reading a Bible my help.
-DaSoCalPimp
-Depression and other mental illnesses originate due to a chemical imbalance.
-This chemical imbalance is caused by a stress
-This stress can be mental or physical stress or both, LET ME REITERATE this stress can be mental of physical or both.
-When is say the word stress I don't mean the kind like your stressed from work, I mean anything that can affect your mental thinking or physical function. This part seems ambiguous but bear with me.
-If its a physical stress problem like your body doesn't have a good chemical balance then I don't know much about this particular area, you might want to do research.
-If its a mental aspect that is affecting you then you'll have a much easier way of fixing this. So here is some ruminations on this.
-Something is affecting your thinking and this is causing you to be stressed mentally and therefore a chemical imbalance.
***First I will note that you mentioned these three thing
psychiatry?
anti-depressents?
weed?
What these three things do is mask the stress, they don't attack the stress and take it out of your life.
Psychiatry - you talk and talk but the thing that is causing the stress is there and its not going away.
Anti-Depressants- They fix your chemical imbalance, so you don't feel depressed but, the stress that caused the initial depression is still there, once you get off the Anti-Depressants.
Weed- Its just masks your depression for a while and it comes back.
-This is just like medicine, if you have a pain in your knee you take a tylenol or other prescriptions, but after 6 hours the medication wears away and the pain is back.
Let me give you an example, I had tennis elbow, it hurt doctors said to take advil, tylenol, ice, cortisone shot, I was very skeptical.
Instead I started researching, tennis elbow is caused by micro tears to the muscles and they happen beacuse of stress to the muscle.
By taking advil, tylenol, ice, cortisone shots the micro tears are still there, its just the pain (depression) that goes away.
Instead I started to heal my self by nurturing my elbow, I started intense flexibility and stretching exercizes, strength training the various muscles of the arm, using chinese herbs that were known to increase blood flow for healing, supplements for the muscle, ligaments, and tendons.
My tennis elbow went, my elbow and arm are stronger and I have no more pain because there is no more cause to the pain.
POINTS That I want to point out
-NURTURE your mental self, don’t just mask the depression. A suggestion is to take a vacation, clear your head and see where a possible mental stress is coming from, and then try to resolve it, or take it out of your life, or better yet do what I do, DON’T GIVE A FVCK about it, nothing should be so worrisome and stressfull as for you to put your focus on it and let it affect your mental well being.
********-THE MENTAL STRESS CAN BE CAUSED BY A BAD PERCEPTION, IMO THIS IS THE MOST UNDER DIAGNOSED REASON FOR MENTAL STRESS ***********
MANY PEOPLE ON THIS SITE HAD A BAD PERCEPTION OF WOMEN (AFC) BUT HAVE CHANGED THEIR PERCEPTION TO DJ’S
Ex. One-itis because you think that this one girl is the ONE, well after you realize that she isn’t and see the spinning plates theory you will not get one-itis and you will get power back over yourself.
***I don’t know how religious you are but reading a Bible my help.
-DaSoCalPimp
Locster
Don Juan
Thanks for all the advice. What I need to do is force myself into social situations to get fun back into my life. I dont care what I have to do, I need to get this problem fixed before I go to college in the fall.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.