So basically I've been with this site for a while. It's helped me out a lot. I have more confidence w/ women in general, and i now have girls who actually come up and flirt with me and i don't even have to do anything. But my problem is, how do you approach random women? I have great success with women i know/woman in my class, but when it comes to women in the hallways just chilling out with their friends, i have no clue on how to approach them. Its hard when they're alone, and its also hard when theres a group of girls with their friends, and you're only interested in one of them, and don't want to waste your time flirting up the others. So what's the best way to approach?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Best Way To Approach Random Girls
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
And what if that's not possible at the time. Like if its just a group of girls standing in the hallway talking doing nothing out of the ordinaryFluid said:Situational Openers!!!!!!!!!!
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
just say hi how are you? if its after class make a comment like damn that class was boring i almost fell asleep.
stuff like that. i think you get what im saying.=)
stuff like that. i think you get what im saying.=)
walk up kinda over the shoulder approach look back, body language showing that your acting away. Stop liek something just popped into your mind. Say a loud (not yell, but like with high energy) Hello or hi, say ur friends were discussing something and ud love a womens opinion on it, and then add a false time contraint. Say something like my friends were arguing on who argues more men or women, girls go blah blah, and u just opened...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Thanks Fluid great postFluid said:walk up kinda over the shoulder approach look back, body language showing that your acting away. Stop liek something just popped into your mind. Say a loud (not yell, but like with high energy) Hello or hi, say ur friends were discussing something and ud love a womens opinion on it, and then add a false time contraint. Say something like my friends were arguing on who argues more men or women, girls go blah blah, and u just opened...
yes, i'll agree with everything said here so far. it's almost impossible (in my experience) to approach a group of girls that are already talking to each other, espeically if you are alone though. you approaching 1 girl is a lot easier, awkward for the first moments but just pay no attention to it and try to escalate fast (so it doesnt stay awkward).
talk about stuff that is relevant to her and has something to do with both her and you, or something that you have in common. this is important.
the easiest thing is when girls have something, usually an item, that you can start a conversation about. when this happens the starter is basically given to you. for example if a girl has a play ticket just say, "oh you're going to that too? i heard that (blah,blah,blah)" and off you go.
talk about stuff that is relevant to her and has something to do with both her and you, or something that you have in common. this is important.
the easiest thing is when girls have something, usually an item, that you can start a conversation about. when this happens the starter is basically given to you. for example if a girl has a play ticket just say, "oh you're going to that too? i heard that (blah,blah,blah)" and off you go.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
There are many ways. You can use David D's stuff, jugglers, MM, or you can go the direct method
personally I rather be direct. Most guys don't have the ballz to be direct with women where you state your intentions right from the start. You will either get her number or a date a minute or 2 after talking to her or you won't. This is the beauty of direct method you don't waste your time talking to a girl trying to seduce her for 15-20 minutes only for her to tell you she has a bf. If she has a bf she will tell you in a minute or 2 and then you can eject.
personally I rather be direct. Most guys don't have the ballz to be direct with women where you state your intentions right from the start. You will either get her number or a date a minute or 2 after talking to her or you won't. This is the beauty of direct method you don't waste your time talking to a girl trying to seduce her for 15-20 minutes only for her to tell you she has a bf. If she has a bf she will tell you in a minute or 2 and then you can eject.
sandman6991
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I LOVE direct method. As a matter of fact, I go exculsively direct when I do approach since I hate to beat around the bush
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
The thing about direct method is that there are no long scripts + lines to memorize, no deception. You don't have to act differently than what you really are. You are basically being yourself and letting the girl know what's on your mind. Direct method is the simplest yet most difficult at the same time if you think about it. Most difficult in the way that you have to grow some ballz of steel to do this. All other methods use deceptive tactics made to minimize embarrassment for the guy from beginning to end. Nothing wrong with that but the whole process of seduction takes a long time. Who has time to memorize all the phases of the MM or waste 15-20 minutes on a girl and they screw up and it's over. With direct you ask the girl out and you get a yes or no. No more lying in your bed thinking "what could have been" if you had asked her out but for some reason you couldn't (and you wasted 20 minutes of your life on PUA tactics on her). You have a clean conscience with direct method you got the answer from the girl.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.