"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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best time to kiss her?

someperson1987

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Please SEE my last post.............i added another question thx

When is the best time really to just go and kiss some girl? Well I've known her for a while (hugs only tho). Should i just go and do it as a grerting or something (this isn't a date). Is there really a best scenerio?

On a more general case, after how many conversations is a kiss generally safe? (you dont wanna get slapped lol) This assuming also of course she seems to be interested.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If she is interested in you, you are almost their.
What you need to do...Here is the "Don_Joffe movie tactic"
Ask her on a date to a movie - This shows your intentions.
Go see a romantic/drama not a horror, something she will enjoy and even laugh.
Dont arrive late for date, be their 5 minutes early, bring her a small gift ( a teddy), dont offer to pay for her ticket - wait for her to offer or give the money, if she doesnt then you pay. Initiate some small talk before entering the movie eg. How was your day? etc..
When you go in the movie..(The Don_Joffe movie tactic)
1.Continue with small talk
2. As movie starts, whisper something in her ear like "I noticed you smell so nice" - she will most likely look at you and smile and say thanks. She may at this stage take the oppurtunity to compliment you.
3. Watch movie for about 20 minutes
4. After the 20 minutes you got 2 options a) Say "Do you trust me?" If she says "Im not sure" or "I DONT KNOW" or "yes" or "maybe" IF its anything but the word "NO" then you are "IN", take her hand (make sure their is eye contact when you ask her this "trust" question, and then HOLD HER HAND. If she happens to say "NO" then you missed a step- you said she was interested in you and she shouldnt say NO because she came all the way to see a movie without her elite group of girlfriends, so you should be "IN" , so...take her hand, she WONT pull it away.
5. At this point, lighting bolts are going thru her body, fluids are errupting, she is going awol inside.
6. You are probably too (Act like you do this everday of your life) It will show you are confident and the alpha male.
7. Now after 10 minutes of hand holding, gently start moving your thumb around her hand and begin to gently tickle her hand you holding after 5 minutes she may also start tickling your hand back but even if she doesnt WHO CARES? Also when u hold her hand give it a squeeze and if she squeezes back..YOU are still "IN" and even if she doesnt carry on....
8. Whilst tickling her hand with your holding hand, take your OTHER hand and tickle her arm.
9. At this point you should know if she is enjoying it or not...
10. Now, the final nail in the coffin, call her name (NOT LOUD so the whole movie house hears, not loud but not a whisper). She should look at you, stop the tickling at this point, just have her hand in your hand. She should be looking into your eyes now and you should be doing the same to her eyes (EYE CONTACT) make it a prolonged 5 second stare into her eyes, if she holds the eye contact - which she will, never failed me, PULL HER.
 

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Thanks alot.

What about if you're having a conversation
and how long do you have to know them for this to work generally?
 

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For movie tactic to work, if you can get her on that date, thats enough. Girls dont go alone with a guy unless she trusts you and has some form of interest in geting 2 know you or maybe getting something out from the date, yet again, assume she likes you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks for the advice.........it sounds useful.

On the side note though.....(i dont think i was that clear with this in the beginning sorry for lack of clarity)

I was also wonder.....lets say you meet a girl, how many conversations (approx) or what does she have to do for kissing her to be appropriate?
 

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Originally posted by Don_Joffe
gently start moving your thumb around her hand and begin to gently tickle her hand you holding after 5 minutes she may also start tickling your hand back but even if she doesnt WHO CARES? Also when u hold her hand give it a squeeze and if she squeezes back..YOU are still "IN" and even if she doesnt carry on....
8. Whilst tickling her hand with your holding hand, take your OTHER hand and tickle her arm.
Tickling, as in wanting to make her laugh?...ticlklish? Or tickling as in... massaging? Also, what arm is it the one that this techinque wants to "tickle".. the same one that its hand has yours, or the other one?

Please elaborate on tickling... because it doesn't make sense... well.. I can't think of a way to "tickle" an arm :confused:
 

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The best time to kiss a girl is when YOU want too.

She will sense if your hesitating in kissing her.

So have some confidence and just kiss her, you control when the time is right.
 
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