"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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wataf

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There was some girl that was REALLY into me at the bar she was drunk but was also an HB 8 so i dont know what to do i usually go for the 6's this chick told me she liked me and we were making out she said she wanted to hang out again she told all my friends she liked me....but i got her number and about an hour later after i left i textd her and said "This is Mike dont forget this number we will hang out again" Now i know that probaly wasnt the best thing to say but she didnt reply to it and now its been a couple days im wondering if i should text her again or call her? wait a couple days or what

we are both around the age of 21
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Mad Ghost

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Try to call between Mon, Tues and Weds - and not Thurs, Fri, Sat or Sun as she'll already have been making plans by the Thursday, so the rtule here, try to call during early weekdays.

So if you got her phone number last Friday, call her tommorow, if you got it on Wednesday, call her the following week - Monday, get the picture? Its not set in stone, it just makes life easier for YOU.
 

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lol..."don't forget this number". Why don't you call her? Forget about the texting. Call her tomorrow. If she does not pick up, call her again on thurs or frid.
 

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you guys think phone call over text is crucial? i sometimes drop the ball over the phone
 

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wataf said:
you guys think phone call over text is crucial? i sometimes drop the ball over the phone
Most people on this forum will bash you for texting instead of calling, but seeing as you're both young, I think texting is just fine, AS LONG AS IT'S NOT OVERDONE. You don't want to be her text-buddy, but a quick text to set something up is fine, I do it all the time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kailex

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wataf said:
you guys think phone call over text is crucial? i sometimes drop the ball over the phone
If you drop the ball over the phone, you are bound to do it in person.
Or are you going to base a relationship on just strictly texting.

And we all know how WELL you did with that first text right off the bat.
 

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LOL kailex hit it on the head. I'm no expert but have gotten alot of play in my time and i think texting would be a pretty weak play(i'm 25), and i hope the one from that night didnt kill it for you.

sidenote: Kailex, do u believe in your signature quote, 100%? one of my fav songs of all time for sure but what if the chick has cheated WITH u, but not on u? any diff at all?
 

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Considering she drunkenly made out with you in a bar, I'm going to guess that she woke up the next morning, thought "Jesus, I was drunk last night", saw your text and thought "Oh, God, what did I tell this guy...."

So, in answer to your question, text whatever and whenever is most convenient, cause I doubt she'll get back to you. That is, if she was as drunk as you imply.
 

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xHiGHPoTeniaL said:
sidenote: Kailex, do u believe in your signature quote, 100%? one of my fav songs of all time for sure but what if the chick has cheated WITH u, but not on u? any diff at all?
Nope, she's still a cheater.
It's very rare that you can pull off a cheater into an LTR and having absolutely no doubts about the situation.

The problem is that most guys on SoSuave want to turn a girl who has cheated on someone else, into THEIR wife, and you will see it a lot on these forums.

"She cheated on him with me, and she's the most amazing person ever, and I think I love her... I want to marry her".

That usually spells trouble.

Now if a woman cheats on her man with you and you take a non-chalant approach to it, it could work out in the long run...

But you have to ask yourself this:

- Do you really want to deal with that kind of drama for an LTR from the get-go? All of the doubts of what she might be doing when you aren't around? Can you really trust someone like that over the years? What happens if she gets bored and starts having one too many "girls night out"?


I'd rather have a fresh relationship than start with one with soap opera dilemmas involved.



And sorry for the hijack.
 
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