"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So this chick whom I went out a few dates with and phucked started getting cold..I went NC and forgot about it. today I randomly get a text saying something on the lines of hey, sorry been kinda distant lately but figuring things out.basically some ex of hers is back in the picture.

What pisses me off is that I had no intentions of going exclusive with her..she wasnt all that. I was trying to make her an fb. Obviously she thought I wanted more. So its more of an ego bruise than anything.

Anyway what would be a good response here? Basically to show that I dont give a phuck. I thought of saying something like 'hahah cool'.

Thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just delete her and forget all about her because she's forgotten about you weeks ago. Don't respond. There's no need. The message is clear. Your princess is in another castle.

Case closed.
 

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There seems to be 3 types of response to this.

1. NC (the main one recommended by people on SS, the main one I've used, it leaves a vacuum in them, but I think they mostly read NC as "awwww he's upset and that's why he's ignoring me")
2. Beg, bargain, emotional outpouring (beta, omega sad cvnt, never works)
3. Reply upbeat like you couldn't give a flying fvck. (I actually think in many ways this is the most Alpha and most psychologically damaging, as it confuses the sh1t out of them. Why?... because they want validation that they matter to you, it's wondrous for their ego. Counter that and they are forlorn and crushed.).

# 3. is rarely suggested or used on this forum, however I've used it and it is probably one of my crowning moments? Described below.. Just some fat to chew over.

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Some hot girlfriend I really liked once told me it was over, you know my reply?.... The complete opposite to what my mind wanted to do and what she expected - at the time I'd just read an article by a psychologist talking about such approaches.

What I said....
"Hey, yes you're right and I fully understand, I can see you're suffering the same thing as me in that my attraction to you has waned. So it's definitely the right thing and I think in the long run we'll both be much happy." I kissed her, hugged her, smiled and walked away wishing her good luck with a wink.

After 2 days she started chasing... continuously for weeks, professing undying love and she'd made a HUGE mistake, trying everything and anything including sending me sexy pics of herself and such like. Why? Because I Alpha'd the fvck out of her silly emotional mind with my response, and that was what was missing from our relationship, that turned her on and gave me massive value boost in her perception of me. I showed ultimate value and ultimate couldn't give a sh1t - which left her confused and probably imagining me with a harem of potential women to bang in the near future.

I banged her a few times on my terms and really pushed the kink boat out because she wanted to please me at all costs. Then I pretty much said it was pointless continuing, that she was right in the first place, and then ended it for good much to her sobbing tears.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I tend to agree that a simple reply is better than none because No Contact implies you care. After a breakup text I will text back immediately "Np", acting as if it were my idea all along. Then go NC.

If you can pull off a ONS with her and then go NC that is the best cure, but it's easier said than done.
 

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i agree with everyone, these texts dont have a spec of substance, all shes doing is trying to get a reaction from you
 

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georgie24 said:
i agree with everyone, these texts dont have a spec of substance, all shes doing is trying to get a reaction from you
^This.

something along "wtf are you texting with my boyfriend????" might be fun. guess she wouldnt see that one coming. but then again what is the point?
 

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Skalioppe said:
There seems to be 3 types of response to this.

1. NC (the main one recommended by people on SS, the main one I've used, it leaves a vacuum in them, but I think they mostly read NC as "awwww he's upset and that's why he's ignoring me")
2. Beg, bargain, emotional outpouring (beta, omega sad cvnt, never works)
3. Reply upbeat like you couldn't give a flying fvck. (I actually think in many ways this is the most Alpha and most psychologically damaging, as it confuses the sh1t out of them. Why?... because they want validation that they matter to you, it's wondrous for their ego. Counter that and they are forlorn and crushed.).

# 3. is rarely suggested or used on this forum, however I've used it and it is probably one of my crowning moments? Described below.. Just some fat to chew over.

------------

Some hot girlfriend I really liked once told me it was over, you know my reply?.... The complete opposite to what my mind wanted to do and what she expected - at the time I'd just read an article by a psychologist talking about such approaches.

What I said....
"Hey, yes you're right and I fully understand, I can see you're suffering the same thing as me in that my attraction to you has waned. So it's definitely the right thing and I think in the long run we'll both be much happy." I kissed her, hugged her, smiled and walked away wishing her good luck with a wink.

After 2 days she started chasing... continuously for weeks, professing undying love and she'd made a HUGE mistake, trying everything and anything including sending me sexy pics of herself and such like. Why? Because I Alpha'd the fvck out of her silly emotional mind with my response, and that was what was missing from our relationship, that turned her on and gave me massive value boost in her perception of me. I showed ultimate value and ultimate couldn't give a sh1t - which left her confused and probably imagining me with a harem of potential women to bang in the near future.

I banged her a few times on my terms and really pushed the kink boat out because she wanted to please me at all costs. Then I pretty much said it was pointless continuing, that she was right in the first place, and then ended it for good much to her sobbing tears.

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A very successful hamster nuking if I do say so myself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No contact! there is no stronger way to show a lack of interest!

If your just looking to rustle her jimmies follow along the lines of skalioppi's option 3, more or less agree with everything she says and say you didnt want to be the one to break it to her then ignore the *****
 

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Hexagram said:
today I randomly get a text saying something on the lines of hey, sorry been kinda distant lately but figuring things out.

Anyway what would be a good response here? Basically to show that I dont give a phuck. I thought of saying something like 'hahah cool'.
While you are figuring things out, how about a drink at my place?
 

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This is why so many people who are coming up in the game get utterly confused and do dumb shiat when they are starting out with girls; due to bad advice.

All of you who said NC etc etc are just flat out wrong.


Why?


Because he flat out said he only wanted her as a phuck buddy at best.

Having a phuck buddy implies no emotional attachment.

It also implies that both of you are likely to be seeing and phuckin' other people.

If you go NC on a phuck buddy if she becomes distant for a week or hell even a few week(s) then that as Big Neil and Skalioppe and a few others have pointed out shows that you DO care; which is why your not replying. Your like a butt hurt honey badger.

Hexagram's biggest mistake was taking a girl who he supposedly only wanted a phuck buddy relationship with out on dates.

Big no-no.

If all you want is shexx; then all you do with them is phuck 'em.

No dates, no constant communication, nothing that implies any sort of relationship outside the bedroom.

That was your mistake and that is why she's running away.

Text her back and show her your not effected by her words, because after all the first thing everyone should learn here is its a girl's actions that you should be watching more closely anyways.







PIMP
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
Because he flat out said he only wanted her as a phuck buddy at best.

good point, if you want a potential fck buddy then i suppose your response should somehow covertly express that.

getting emotional is NOT how you do that.
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
This is why so many people who are coming up in the game get utterly confused and do dumb shiat when they are starting out with girls; due to bad advice.

All of you who said NC etc etc are just flat out wrong.


Why?


Because he flat out said he only wanted her as a phuck buddy at best.

Having a phuck buddy implies no emotional attachment.

It also implies that both of you are likely to be seeing and phuckin' other people.

If you go NC on a phuck buddy if she becomes distant for a week or hell even a few week(s) then that as Big Neil and Skalioppe and a few others have pointed out shows that you DO care; which is why your not replying. Your like a butt hurt honey badger.

Hexagram's biggest mistake was taking a girl who he supposedly only wanted a phuck buddy relationship with out on dates.

Big no-no.

If all you want is shexx; then all you do with them is phuck 'em.

No dates, no constant communication, nothing that implies any sort of relationship outside the bedroom.

That was your mistake and that is why she's running away.

Text her back and show her your not effected by her words, because after all the first thing everyone should learn here is its a girl's actions that you should be watching more closely anyways.







PIMP
How? Because you don't care to spend the time to reply & chase her snapper?

Besides, it's really about the OP's state of mind, he is already emotional about it (note: pissed). He will get attached. I don't see OP benefiting from maintaining a relationship with her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This helps confirm the common theory that when a girl goes from being super interested in you to being completely distant on a dime it's because an ex is back in the picture. I mean really guys. Has it ever been any other reason? Seriously let us know if it has.

You were right to go no contact straight away so props to you there. It is interesting that she decided to contact you and rub it in your face later. Low class move on her part, she shoulda left you alone. Shows that she's a bit twisted/f'd up than the average hen imo. Still I personally appreciate the fact that you shared that fact with us.

I see no point in responding to her at all as most people here have said. It's a complete waste of time and she doesn't even deserve a fraction of your attention. We talk about her here for learning purposes only. If you were going to do the whole alpha "I agree with you completely!" thing you should have done it when you went NC in the first place. But that's a little advanced imo. Props to the guys who smell the distance and lay that on ahead of time. True balls and smarts. This girl is garbage and you've already tossed her out. Best to move on especially since you didn't like her to begin with.
 
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