"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Best response in this situation?

the_stig

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Basically we got in a fight month ago. She remained distant "giving us space", brushed of an attempt to see her, so I pulling WAY back and cut contact. She started coming around by sending blank texts (I ignored most), commenting on facebook, left a jealous sounding comment when I uploaded some bar pics with cute female friends, and finally texted last Sunday and we had a long conversation like normal. Monday she texts "have a good week" and pulls back. Does the same thing Thursday after a short exchange. She IM's me on facebook Friday, asking what's up, if I had plans, but I blew her off with one word answers. Of course, she sent a blank text the next day. Today she texts "Hope you have a nice spring, enjoy car season and good luck with your triathlons". I feel like shes desperately trying to get me to show interest because I won't chase and withdrew attention. What's the best reply in this situation? Balls in my court.. I want to make it work and the games to end, if that's possible. She's 27 !!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Who the hell sends blank texts?
 

Chickfight

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She sounds irritating as hell. Don't know why you're bothering with it.

First of all don't reply to that message. it's obviously reaction seeking. It may sound like a friendly text, but the only reason she's sending it is because it implies she won't see you any time soon. don't reply to that or simply reply "thanks, you have a good break too"

Then ignore all further attention seeking texts until you get an emotional one to which you reply: "Look I'm not mad or anything, but I really don't feel like playing games. If you want us to be cool again and have fun, we can get together and hang out. If not, that's okay too."

This is a situation where you have to be direct and assertive and basically communicate to her to cut the bullsh!t or get lost, but without losing your cool or composure. Handle this sh!t like a man.
 
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