best night of my life but i think i could be disappointed.

[big weezy]

I just had the best night of my life but now looking back on it I think I could be disappointed.

I number closed 3 different girls tonight. Each with a different story.

Scenario 1: Me and my friend went to this house gathering which we thought would be just guys drinking but it turned out to be in some really posh part of town in some really nice apartment jam packed with super hot women! we couldn't believe our luck, it was perfect environment to pick up cos these same women were the types that if u approached them as strangers in a bar they'd be quite stuck up, but cos it was a house party they were receptive to guys speaking to them.

This 1 HB stopped in her tracks while i was chatting to my friend, and i could tell she was interested in me. So we were lucky the host of the party introduced us and i went into my flow. I spent about 1/2 hour talking to her going back and forth around getting her a bit interested etc.

I left and chatted to some other girls but at points I was by myself sitting around looking a bit uncomfortable, but when I returned to HB1 the hottest girl in the party walked past me i said 'hello' to her but she didnt stop to talk she just said 'hello' too. I went back to talking to HB1 then waited for my chance to talk to HB2.

 

[big weezy]

Scenario 2: HB1 was talking to HB1 and it turns out these 2 were from the same town in the same country and only met each other there! I went up to them as it happened and carried on talking to HB2, thankfully HB1 got distracted by someone else leaving me the opportunity to talk to HB2. She was really drunk and I felt I really should have made a move that night. Just as I was flowing with her the other guy helping hosting the party announced there were cabs outside as everyone was moving onto a club somewhere in town.

I had to wrap up quick with HB2, i asked her where she was going after this, she said she didnt know and she was going with her other friend she came with. then she told me where she lived, i said to her 'have u been to so and so place on her road' she said 'no' i was like 'u haven't been there? but u live there!' she said 'she never had opportunity/reason to go' I said 'i'll take u there ' she said 'ok' so i go 'lets exchange numbers' here's where I'm supsicious of whether her interest in me was that high, she initially gave me a fake number with 1 digit wrong and i tried calling it and it didn't ring, then she tells me as i'm calling it that 'oh no, that might not be right i dont remember my number..'

Now im thinking, a gorgeous girl like that has got to have given her number out enough times for her to remember it despite being in a drunken state, am i wrong in assuming this?

The problem was she was so tipsy I dont think her motor neurone skills were exactly in tip top shape so i didn't think anything of it that she gave me the wrong number. maybe she assumed i'd just take the number and not miss call her to check if it was genuine and when she realised i did this she would be found out she tells me halfway as im calling it. i give her my number instead and she calls it then says to me 'oh what's my number? oh its 388 at the end.. i dont remember my number' it just seems so contrived.

so i think ok maybe this was a pre-emptive flake. but then she goes to me 'when u come down call me and we'll go to that place ' is that a good sign despite her giving me an initial fake number with 1 digit out? then i kiss her cheeks and go off back to my friend. I was just proud of myself getting the hottest girl in the room's number that i didn't think about the whole pick up scenario.

Back to scenario 1. Because these 2 girls are from the same town they may have exchanged numbers too so i was wary about getting HB1's number but i hid behind the pillar and as she passed by i got it and HB2 I'm pretty sure didn't see it happen. Also I think HB1 was more into me cos she kino'd me by touching my arm quite early in the conversation. i said to HB1 'so you're leaving now, where u going?' she tells me. then i go 'well we might not see each other again so lets exchange numbers' she gives me her number then says to me 'so you'll take me to that other bar you mentioned right?' (i was talking about these 3 bars i go to and how she hadn't been to the other 2 yet despite them being next to each other)

my dilemma is I feel as if i can only call 1 of these girls cos they know each other now and i could be in a dangerous situation where they either both know i got their numbers, if I call HB2 1st given the scenario i mentioned above on monday to arrange a drink, does it seem likely she wasn't interested hence the 1 digit out number? I dont think she expected me to attempt a miss call to test if it was genuine.. it's hard to tell, she was really tipsy.

 

[big weezy]

Scenario 3: I dont know why me and my friend didn't go to the club/place where all the people from the house party were going to cos the girls were clearly very drunk already and we could have made a big move tonight rather than just being happy getting numbers. the other guys with the group now have carte blanche cos me and my friend weren't around no more.

I was impressed with how i seemed to be running the pick up show and the other guys were in awe at my brazen confidence to pick up a girl right in the middle of the apartment with everyone seeing.

Anyway, me and my friend had a prior engagement to go to a friends birthday party.. i was apprehensive but it turns out it was a good decision.

I met this other HB who spoke my language and turns out was in the same country as me when i was abroad last year, we actually were in the same places at the same time but we never crossed paths. I spoke to her for like 2 hours. We were reminiscing about our times there and i had my arm by her back, and she was very receptive to it, but i had a crisis of confidence and didn't pull the trigger and kissed her. Would she judge me for that? I kept making an attempt to do it but then i pulled out last sec cos lack of confidence. For some reason I was afraid she'd pull away even though i had no reason to think that but i was just frozen.

If a girl starts to wonder why u don't pull the trigger and realises i lack confidence, will her interest in me plummet to the level where she wont even want to meet up with me anymore cos she doesn't respect me as a man anymore who's afraid to kiss a girl?

I feel so agrieved with myself and my lack of confidence. Overall tonight was a success, 3 numbers with 3 HBs but I can see how all 3 of these HBs could end up to nothing cos of the reasons above. I dont think i'll end up going to another house party like that ever again.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

You don't have anything significant to lose. Call them in YOUR ORDER and see if you can make something work. In the conversation, sneak in some of what you talked about (hopefully some C&F) and pick a place/time to meet her.

IMO, you took too long with all three girls, but none too long to be considered a lost cause. Girl #1 you say noticed you right away. If you can establish a good mood when you call, you have a shot. Girl #2 is hit or miss. Good job with testing the number. I don't think she'd be drunk enough to forget her own number. Seems fishy. You may as well try it out though. Girl #3 I feel you may be in the friends zone with. You talked for TWO HOURS and only got a number? You may as well try it, but you'll need to establish a sexual mood quickly if you see her (kino).

For all three girls, don't have sky-high expectations, but you have a chance with all of them. Definitely worth pursuing. Good luck.

 

[big weezy]

I have a crisis of confidence at the moment and it really manifested itself last night. I just didn't seem to be able to smoothly move in for the kiss even though the signs were there. I kept hesitating, I'd go semi-in touch her face then I'd pull out look away and kept talking uncomfortably I was too nervous. This must have put her off cos I did this several times I had my arm touching her back holding her in bbut cos she never came into me closer I took it as a bad sign and I don't know why I was so afraid of just kissing her. The thing is she studies at a college out of town and is leaving sunday, after what happened yesterday is it too desperate to call her today to try to meet up with her? We were reminising about our times abroad going to the exact same places, she said she's suppose to meet up with her friend this evening cos during the day she's moving house and the same sunday. I feel after not pulling the trigger yesterday I may be friendzoned cos she expected me to kiss her and I didn't and now may f

You don't have anything significant to lose. Call them in YOUR ORDER and see if you can make something work. In the conversation, sneak in some of what you talked about (hopefully some C&F) and pick a place/time to meet her.

IMO, you took too long with all three girls, but none too long to be considered a lost cause. Girl #1 you say noticed you right away. If you can establish a good mood when you call, you have a shot. Girl #2 is hit or miss. Good job with testing the number. I don't think she'd be drunk enough to forget her own number. Seems fishy. You may as well try it out though. Girl #3 I feel you may be in the friends zone with. You talked for TWO HOURS and only got a number? You may as well try it, but you'll need to establish a sexual mood quickly if you see her (kino).

For all three girls, don't have sky-high expectations, but you have a chance with all of them. Definitely worth pursuing. Good luck.

 

[big weezy]

I wanna call girl number 3 today becayse she's leaving tomorrow, she usually comes back every other weekend but I feel after last nights dissapointment of me not kissing her clearly demonstrating a lack of confidence I need to make up for last night and kiss her tonight, either by inviting her and her friend to come to a bar where me and my friends are. Will I look too desperate if I call her today to meet up despite us both knowing that she's leaving sunday?

 

[big weezy]

Maybe I acted too hastily, I texted HB3 (the 1 I failed to kiss close) 'hey, hope the movings going well. Me and my friends are going to a bar in town tonight. You and your friend should come by later. I want to see u. x' she didn't reply back until 4 hours later with 'the movings going really well thanks. Unfortunately I have a family dinner tonight but I hope u have a really good night. xx' this is bad isn't it? Cos if she had higher interest she'd offer a time when me and her would meet up even if she's going back to college tomorrow evening? Ok it probably was a bad idea texting her the day after getting her number but I feel her interest plummeted cos I didn't kiss close her when she was primed. Is the text irrelevant and its me not kissing her yesterday is what blew it? Am I friendzoned?

 

[The Comeback Kid]

It's good you have some options. Having said that, don't become too emotionally-vested in any of these girls yet because if it doesn't work, you'll be feeling down.

Forget about girl #3 for now. Hit her up (call, not text) when she comes back in two weeks. She's leaving tomorrow, so no point in trying to hurry something, especially if you feel you're about to be in the friend zone. With her, I do feel spending two hours with her and not making a move did cost you.

On Monday, give girls #1 and #2 a call. Decide on a time and place you'd like to take them out to. See what they say. You have nothing to lose.

 

[big weezy]

Is it ever a good idea to call at lunchtime to arrange a date for that evening? If she says she can't do it do I need to wait to see if she counter offers and if she doesn't say I'm busy the next day but can do the day after? These women are social butterflies and I can guarantee will be going for drinks with friends every night so it be hard to get an arranger time. Is the fact valentines is coming all would be suitors would be making their calls contight (I read in the bible sunday is the best day to call because I don't want to be ina situation where she doesn't pick up and I need to wait for a return call) I'm very conscious with valentines looming I need to secure my position this week. Also I thought monday evenings are a good date nights?

It's good you have some options. Having said that, don't become too emotionally-vested in any of these girls yet because if it doesn't work, you'll be feeling down.

Forget about girl #3 for now. Hit her up (call, not text) when she comes back in two weeks. She's leaving tomorrow, so no point in trying to hurry something, especially if you feel you're about to be in the friend zone. With her, I do feel spending two hours with her and not making a move did cost you.

On Monday, give girls #1 and #2 a call. Decide on a time and place you'd like to take them out to. See what they say. You have nothing to lose.

 

[big weezy]

New information: HB3 who i didn't kiss close on friday actually came with a guy who's friends with my friends who i came there with, in fact his brother was pouring me a drink when i got introduced. now i think it's silly that he introduced me to this girl hes seeing especially since we have some much in common language etc, and i think i stumbled on this fact they might be seeing each other cos he kept coming over pouring her drinks like he was checking up on her.

shes not his girl, at least not from what i saw but is that no excuse and i should have kissed her regardless?

i knew something was fishy about friday, she gave me all the signs to kiss her and i didnt but i had htis inkling feeling she was with that guy cos she came with him when i asked her how she got to the club and she was leaving with him.. do you think she'd give me another shot despite showing lack of confidence kissing her?