Best media proram for life overhaul?

[Magnatolia]

Hi all,

I'm looking for resources, preferably video and audio that help to make small changes in my life.

Don't get me wrong, I have friends and I head out to a mates place every friday for pool and poker and sometimes head out on saturdays. But I have small fears such as:

1. I get too uncomfortable at the thought of crossing a room to greet someone new to a party (even worse when there are a few people that I don't know).

2. Approaching women - I suck at it, I just don't know to get into the flow of hte conversation. Once I get into a flow I'm fine. Like when I meet a new female who happens to be a friend of a friend in a social situation (bbq, house party, etc) I'm fine. I can make conversation and I can talk heaps, doesn't matter if she's a 5 or a 10.

3. When I don't get an immediate response from someone, I start to get minor negative thoughts. Like I asked a newish female friend what she was up to on a particular day as I was free and haven't heard back yet.

I can overcome quite a few of my insecurities but it takes effort and would like to work on removing them so I don't have to fight them.

Basically I want to be suave, comfortable in all situations, relaxed, more social and open, improve my charisma and magnetism. You get the drift.

I'm not interested in learning routines and techniques. I'm more about natural game. I also want to be able to open my body language more and come across more relaxed and confident.

I got a mate who can just go up to girls, start talking and he quite often succeeds yet he doesn't seem to do anything special. It's his attitude more than what he says/does. Although he does have some techniques he uses.

 

[everywomanshero]

I answered your question on self-hypnosis products earlier (see that post).

You might also want to check out David D's Mastery DVDs (I think that's what they are called anyway, they are quite old now but should still be findable). He produces a crap load of new DVDs that I( suspect) provide less bang for the buck than the original DVDs. I would try to find a used set on ebay or something, I would not recommend investing a lot of cash into these, but they are worth watching if you A) You can obtain them inexpensively and B) You will take the time to try out some of the ideas. I found guest speakers Brent and (been a while but I think his name is) Greg useful.

Although somewhat cheesy, I have to admit Anthony Robbins is very good at getting people to take action. If you simply need the motivation to get off the couch, his (now very old) personal power series is quite good. Sometimes what we need is not more information, but the motivation to use what information we already have.

For the shyness issue, there is a good author named Edmund J. Bourne. He is very knowledgable regarding treatment of stress and anxiety (PhD from an accredited University and lots of experience) I can recommend his materials as they have proven useful to many people I've had the pleasure of working with.

Best Wishes!

 

[Telos]

Best media proram for life overhaul?

Does anyone else see the blatant irony in this subject line?

 

[Magnatolia]

TeloS, yeah I get your point. I'm not looking for a magic bullet but more an opportunity to diminish the fears and s*** that holds me back. Even if it's a temporary fix it gives me the opportunity to take action. And over time my mind will realise that the fears are unfounded.

There was a time in my life, when I had a certain fear and a situation arose that completely went against this fear and my mind, from that point on, could not prove the fear and eventually it went away over time.

Great suggestions everywomanshero. Will check them out.

Cheers

 

[cherry.jop07]

Dating

My thoughts don’t collide exactly with what you say….but anyways…..every one has its own way!!!!

 

[KarmaSutra]

I would say The Blueprint Decoded by RSD. It's all inner game (developing a lifestyle).

Blueprint is like $600 HOWEVER if you visit the site below, it's only $300.

Really? Mine was absolutely free and fits on one two sided dvd-9? Hmmm, the fact that I ripped the audio and put it on my Zen probably saved me more than swithcing my car insurance to Geico too . . .

Good product but I know of better things to spend 600 bones on.

 

[decadentdestruction]

youtube.com

search: keys to the vip

watch the clips of the challenges ...

and its free...

I have learned alot from it and hey it worked for me .