I need advice. My best friend is a woman. We've known each other for over a decade. She used to be my ex-wifes best friend. They no longer are best friends b/c my ex figured we were having an affair (we weren't - wouldn't be any point in lying about it now).
We have become closer over the years to the point that we are each other's best friend. I want more. Not only can I not escape my own thoughts about she and I hooking up, but everyone around me asks me why we haven't. There's no escaping the idea.
I approached her a couple of years ago. She somewhat resisted the idea. We had a short attempt. She became very anxious and we ended it.
She is currently living with me while she looks for a new place. I am wanting even more to move to the next level. I brought it up with her and she doesn't seem to feel the same way.
I read a little bit about the whole 'nerve' thing. I have to admit that I haven't shown a great deal of nerve with her. I think that is something I can do something about.
So, to all you Don's out there, what can I do to create that infatuation that seems to be missing. Is it possible? Or, do I give up and move on? I think the longevity is there, just the spark needs to be lit.
We have become closer over the years to the point that we are each other's best friend. I want more. Not only can I not escape my own thoughts about she and I hooking up, but everyone around me asks me why we haven't. There's no escaping the idea.
I approached her a couple of years ago. She somewhat resisted the idea. We had a short attempt. She became very anxious and we ended it.
She is currently living with me while she looks for a new place. I am wanting even more to move to the next level. I brought it up with her and she doesn't seem to feel the same way.
I read a little bit about the whole 'nerve' thing. I have to admit that I haven't shown a great deal of nerve with her. I think that is something I can do something about.
So, to all you Don's out there, what can I do to create that infatuation that seems to be missing. Is it possible? Or, do I give up and move on? I think the longevity is there, just the spark needs to be lit.