This has train wreck written all over it. I'd tell him read No More Mister Nice Guy and then if after that he still wants to move in then he can do what he wants. You can't make the horse drink. Everyone knows what's coming she'll get distant, cheat on him, and eventually break up with him and he'll have wasted time and money on someone who isn't worth it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Best Friend Planning On Moving In with GF of 8 months! Advice!!!
- Thread starter Pimp-sicle
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It sounds like he's probably made up his mind and he's going to take the plunge. If his passivity had already been brought up and it's an issue, then that's a bad, bad, omen. Women detest weak men, and it may just be a matter of time before her attraction level plummets. Your friend needs a crash course in maintaining frame and being a challenge, or she's going to walk all over him for a year then ditch him for the nearest a**hole. The one who cares the least in a relationship holds the power.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Completely agree 100%. You don't live together to "see" if you guys are compatible for marriage. You figure that out first, then if you must, live together for a few months prior to getting married.
My buddy, love him to death is a flat out beta to the max.
Been there too bro, did it once at 24, never again. Had to break the lease early as well, total nightmare & change in behavior from her.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
Not sure if I'd call it a train wreck, but it will def be a learning experience.The_411 said:
The major difference though is my buddy operates out of the scarcity mentality.
Telling him to read a book is utterly pointless because not only did I introduce him to game 10 years ago, he is completely incapable of going out in the field and practicing.
We talk about AFC's here who are pathetic or lack confidence & mess up.
Well guess what? Here we have a guy who can't even take the first step.
I've opened girls at the bar, got in good with them, then walked away to meet more people. Upon re-approaching I've told him to initiate the conversation & he absolutely freezes up completely & can't do it.
Its so wild to see all the things I've read about over the years come true as I get older. The main point being that as women get closer to hitting the wall, they will always pick a beta AFC nice guy to settle down with, even though that is NOT who they are ultimately attracted to....
This relationship from my perspective is about a woman who has had & controlled the frame since day 1 & a guy who is just happy to have some pu$$y.
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If this guy couldn't even take the first step toward appying game, maybe he just isn't cut out for it. Maybe this AFC relationship is the best he can do.
He can either end up alone and miserable, married and henpecked and miserable, or divorced and miserable. Sounds like those are his choices. This is why you have to "man up" and take control of your life instead of being a passive marshmellow.
On the other hand, maybe crashing and burning with this relationship will be just the experience he needs to see the light.
He can either end up alone and miserable, married and henpecked and miserable, or divorced and miserable. Sounds like those are his choices. This is why you have to "man up" and take control of your life instead of being a passive marshmellow.
On the other hand, maybe crashing and burning with this relationship will be just the experience he needs to see the light.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
omardacool
Don Juan
Great posts man, im new on here finally registered but been a long time reader, this one helped me out a lot in my life, thanks a million , Legendary onePimp-sicle said:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=55034
Unfortunately, you can't help him until he asks. I've tried it with numerous friends and they only end up getting pissed off at you because no one really enjoys hearing uncomfortable truths, that is, until something really f-cked up happens.
You have to realize you're having a direct conflict with his socialization and ego. It's a tough nut to crack and isn't worth it. I speak my mind on this forum but I try to keep these opinions to myself because it'll only get me into unnecessary trouble.
You have to realize you're having a direct conflict with his socialization and ego. It's a tough nut to crack and isn't worth it. I speak my mind on this forum but I try to keep these opinions to myself because it'll only get me into unnecessary trouble.